Self-compassion tends to inspire positive rather than destructive emotions during relationship conflicts. When we’re upset over a relationship issue, self-compassion allows us to soothe and calm the intensity of our feelings, meaning that we’re better able to rein in the four horsemen. We’re less likely to be harshly critical, show contempt, or be ego defensive during an argument if we experience the emotional safety needed to acknowledge our own role in the dispute. Self-compassion also provides the equanimity needed for talking through difficult relationship issues, meaning that it can
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