the couple agreed to some ground rules in dealing with each other: (a) Tone is very important in a discussion like this. (b) We’re not going to solve every issue at once. (c) Everyone can’t get everything they want all the time. (d) The “I’m right, you’re wrong” syndrome doesn’t work very well in relationships. (e) Whatever our beliefs are, we each respect the other’s beliefs. Finally, (f) if tension develops, STOP! Take a break, come back to it later.
