I would suggest that you, first, begin to realize that you are neither good nor bad. You are a number of things, unequal in value and significance. You are too many things to be called by just one name. You can begin to view the things people say to you, both good and not so good, as suggestions. No more than suggestions. Elliot: So, if someone tells me I am a no good, stinking rotten person. That is a suggestion? Therapist: Of course. And it is a suggestion we can either accept or reject. Simply because someone believes this about us is not proof enough that it’s true.
