“We’re longing for happiness and connection,” she added, “but we actually rely upon delusions that cause the opposite: suffering and isolation. The delusional minds we go to for refuge, such as that enemy mind we spoke about, and anger, and jealousy, are the very causes for many of the relationship problems we have. We only rely on them because we have this mistaken view that they’ll protect us from getting hurt. But—if we check—we can see that they’re sources of suffering in themselves, and they just create more suffering.”
