Many of us even choose our significant others based upon their ability to understand our wounds and their willingness to dance around them and not expect too much from us. This usually works for a time. But what happens if and when the “wounded” party decides to get better? Relationships whose currency is “woundology” don’t have room for people to thrive and become their best selves, because the covert agreement is: If one person is “broken,” then the other gets to prop up their self-esteem either by (1) caretaking them, or (2) being superior to them.
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