I saw the matchmaker place the lighted red candle in a gold holder and then hand it to a nervous-looking servant. This servant was supposed to watch the candle during the banquet and all night to make sure neither end went out. In the morning the matchmaker was supposed to show the result, a little piece of black ash, and then declare, “This candle burned continuously at both ends without going out. This is a marriage that can never be broken.” I still can remember. That candle was a marriage bond that was worth more than a Catholic promise not to divorce. It meant I couldn’t divorce and I
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