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April 8, 2024
a survive moment is also a thrive moment, where the important, meaningful work of parenting takes place.
The moment where thing get hard for your child are moments to take advantage of teaching and showing compassion
use the argument as an opportunity for teaching: about reflective listening and hearing another person’s point of view; about clearly and respectfully communicating your own desires; about compromise, sacrifice, negotiation, and forgiveness. We know: it sounds hard to imagine in
you have a left side of the brain that helps you think logically and organize thoughts into sentences, and a right side that helps you experience emotions and read nonverbal cues.
Right now, your child’s brain is constantly being wired and rewired, and the experiences you provide will go a long way toward determining the structure of her brain.
children whose parents talk with them about their experiences tend to have better access to the memories of those experiences.
Your left brain loves and desires order. It is logical, literal, linguistic (it likes words), and linear (it puts things in a sequence or order). The left brain loves that all four of these words begin with the letter L. (It also loves lists.)
In terms of development, very young children are right-hemisphere dominant, especially during their first three years.
Logic, responsibilities, and time don’t exist for them yet.
when a toddler begins asking “Why?” all the time, you know that the left brain is beginning to really kick in.
In this case, because Tina understood what was happening in her son’s brain, she saw that the most
effective response was to connect with his right brain. She listened to him and comforted him, using her own right brain, and in less than five minutes he was back in bed. If, on the other hand, she had played the heavy and come down hard on him for getting out of bed, using left-brain logic and the letter of the law, they would have both become increasingly upset—and it would have been a lot more than five minutes before he calmed down enough to sleep.
If child is showing signs of right brain(emotion) connect your right brain with them
when a child is upset, logic often won’t work until we have responded to the right brain’s emotional needs.
It’s also crucial to keep in mind that no matter how nonsensical and frustrating our child’s feelings may seem to us, they are real and important to our child. It’s vital that we treat them as such in our response.
