when a child is upset, logic often won’t work until we have responded to the right brain’s emotional needs. We call this emotional connection “attunement,” which is how we connect deeply with another person and allow them to “feel felt.” When parent and child are tuned in to each other, they experience a sense of joining together. Tina’s approach with her son is one that we call the “connect and redirect” method, and it begins with helping our kids “feel felt” before we try to solve problems or address the situation logically.
