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Suggested by Carrie. I have this on my shelf, but I think Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids is a far better resource for much of the same material. This one relies on praise and "consequences". Here are the principles it discusses:
1. Peace begins with me.
2. I have made my home a place of kind words.
3. I catch my children in the act of positive behaviors and praise them immediately, specifically, and sincerely.
4. I spend at least 15 to 20 minutes a day with each child, listening, interacting, and giving my full attention.
5. I am clear on the standards of behavior I expect of my children. I honor those standards and expect my children to do the same.
6. I provide my children with empty spaces of time during which they can just "be kids."
7. I hold regularly scheduled family meetings where my children have a voice in the workings of our family.
8. I have set a foundation for peacefulness in our home by creating with my children "Guidelines for a Peaceful Family."
9. I always remember that I am the parent and deserve to be listened to.
10. I have fair, reasonable consequences for negative behaviors which I only use when necessary.
11. I listen with all my heart to what my children have to say, and teach them to be good listeners for others.
12. I teach my children how to handle anger in nondestructive ways and I model this consistently.
13. I resolve conflicts peacefully and teach my children to do the same.
14. I find ways to help my children succeed.
15. All my actions are guided by love, compassion, fairness, respect, and integrity. I nurture these attributes in my children.
16. I live my commitment to peaceful parenting; my commitment guides all my actions.
17. I remember daily that we each have an impact on the world around us and I teach this to my children.
