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Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

Gordon Neufeld,

Gabor Maté

Start date: March 26, 2010

Finish date: April 23, 2010

Why we're reading this: This is a recurring bookclub selection. It offers profound insight into the attachment relationship and c…more
[close] This is a recurring bookclub selection. It offers profound insight into the attachment relationship and children's developmental needs. It is unique in its perspective and has profoundly impacted many API Seattle families.

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Oct 14, 2008 Jenni Pertuset rated it it was amazing

Shelves: parenting

This is one of the parenting books that I’ve most appreciated. It discusses the need children have to form attachments with caring adults and the positive results it creates: the self-worth that comes from unconditional love and the sense of identity that accompanies the transmission of culture.

The book seems most concerned with older children, and the dangers of peer-orientation for teens in particular, though I find the information about the value of children’s connection to adults to be impor ...more

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Jan 24, 2010 Christina rated it it was amazing

Shelves: parenthood, self-help, non-fiction, psychology

I picked up the book "Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers" by Gordon Neufeld, and I did not put it down until I finished all 279 pages of it, including the glossary. Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D. is an expert on child development and his co-author Gabor Mate, M.D. Together they provide a sobering look at what "peer orientation" is and why it stunts the emotional maturation of our children. The devastating effects of this all-too-common phenomenon are seen everyday, from chil ...more

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