Dave’s Comments (group member since Nov 30, 2010)

Dave’s comments from the Science of Mind and similar group.

Hi Jared,
Thanks for posting!
Ya know, it's been my experience that if it's meant to be it will happen. There are plenty of books out there that profess to have the knowledge to get that girl (I have never read any), but what happens when you get her and you find out that you are not compatible?..
My advice is to keep looking. There are a LOT of nice, kind, loving women out there and yours is out there too. There is someone for everyone. Don't push yourself on to someone who is not feeling it for you. If you think you are lonely now, what until she finds out that you were sneaky about getting her into your life!
Dating can be very fun and you will probably end up dating a few girls before you find the qualities in one that will make you completely compatible and lead to a healthy relationship. Don't be too hasty to fall in love. You are young and have a whole lifetime ahead of you. Don't rush it and make mistakes that you might regret.
The best relationships are those where BOTH individuals are in love with each other. Be cautious about projecting your feelings somewhere else and assuming things about people. If you haven't yet, have a conversation with this girl if she is open to it. Ask her her feelings and then RESPECT THEM! If she is not interested, understand that she will probably try to tell you in a way that, in her mind, will not hurt you.
In all your relationships understand that communication is always key to a healthy relationship. If you just "assume" something about the other without hearing their perspective, you are not communicating. Hear their perspective and respect it.
Live long, live well!
-Dave