Farhad’s Comments (group member since Apr 08, 2008)

Farhad’s comments from the R.Y.T.H.M. group.

5 Fundamental Rules of Decision Making
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by Dato' Vijay Eswaran
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Rule 1
While striving for perfecting the decision-making process, a leader cannot be paralysed with the fear of making a wrong decision.

Rule 2
Recognising wrong decisions, although a part of leadership, is better than regretting having made no decision at all.

Rule 3
However, recognising wrong decisions made in the past must have its own time and place... but never during the process itself.

Rule 4
Wallowing in wrong decisions that have been made will merely impede one’s ability to survive the decision-making process.

Rule 5
A leader’s duty is his solitary guide and never to be made subservient to his expectations. Anticipation of result, whether negative or positive, takes away from one’s focus on duty.

My dear friends...
Please tell me each of you, how do u describe "Financial Freedom" for yourself?
In other words, in your opinion, When will you have "Financial Freedom"?
Please give some examples too.
Thanx.

There were purple fish with orange
stripes, blue fish with yellow polka
dots, green fish with orange markings,
and every conceivable color scheme
imaginable. In a week there, I saw at
least 25 new kinds of fish every day. I
bet if you stayed a year, you would still
discover at least one new type of fish
everyday.
I was there with my Mastermind
Council, conducting a Retreat. Since
the Retreats are so powerful, we like to
hold them in exotic, tropical or
picturesque locales.
Now a fascinating thing I noted . . .
There were only about twenty
bungalows over the water, while there
were about sixty along the shore.
There were a few vacancies in the
over-water bungalows, but the
landlocked ones were full. Why?
Because the water ones were about
$550 a night, and the others were
about $300. Most people wouldn't
spring for the extra cash. Which is a
trend I notice a lot of places.
Watch people check into a hotel.
They are offered an ocean view room
for $225, and a "garden view" one for
$189, and they usually choose the
garden view. Or "mountain view," or
"city view," or "pool view"—which in
my experience, usually means the
dumpster, parking lot, or loading dock
view.
You see it in condos too. My last
place was on Biscayne Bay in South
Beach. I had a beautiful apartment,
overlooking the Marina, so I woke up
each morning to see the sailboats
bobbing in the bay. The real estate
agents called the other side of the
building the "ocean view" side. Which
was quite amusing to me, since the
immediate view was a supermarket, a
tow truck company (so you could hear
lifts and car alarms going off all night),
and a veterinary hospital (who boarded
pets, so you could hear 25 dogs
barking all weekend).
Now it is true that the ocean was in
the background—if you had
binoculars, and a chorus of buildings
in the mile in between did not block
the view. People save $20,000 on their
unit when they buy it—and cheat
themselves out of twenty years of
enjoyment, beauty, and prosperity.
Nowhere was this more apparent
than on the Air France jet to Tahiti. It
was something like a nine-hour flight,
and I was horrified to discover—that
most people were seated in Coach!
Can you believe it?
Now it turns out that the seat I was
in costs about $5,000, and a seat in the
back could be had for about $800. Or
translated to a couple, an airfare of
$10,000, versus $1,500 in coach, or a
difference of $8,500.
Now I know what you're thinking . . .
You're probably wondering—with a
difference of $8,500—how do they
get anyone to ride in Coach?
That's exactly what I was thinking
too! I mean, if it was a lot of
money or something . . . but
since it was just a lousy eight
grand . . . I mean—just a
sec—you mean that's NOT
what you were thinking?
Wait a minute.
OK, so I joke a little.
But if you WERE
thinking, "$8,500 extra,
that's a little steep . . ."
—consider that you may
have "lack" programming
that is holding you back.
Consider that you may be
going through life with a
Coach mentality, and
missing all the service,
better meals and leg room
up in First Class. If I could impart
one critical philosophy to you it
would be this:
You have a Creator who wants
you to ride in First Class.
Now, if you're like most people
(meaning you suffer from lack
programming), you're thinking, "But
wait, do you realize what I could do
with that extra money I would spend
for a First Class ticket (or
oceanfront room, water view condo,
a nice car instead of a broke-mobile,
etc.)? I could feed the homeless,
give it to my church, cure cancer,
blah, blah, blah . . ."
There's only one problem with
that argument . . .
It is built on the belief that there is
only one $8,500. That you could
spend it to fly First Class, OR do good
work, but not both. It is based on the
supposition that money is FINITE.
Nothing could be further from the
truth.
Because you can spend $8,500 to fly
to Tahiti AND send $8,500 to the
orphanage. Money—like love,
substance and other forms of
prosperity—is INFINITE. All these
resources can be infinitely replenished,
simply by you manifesting more.
Now we're using money as the
metaphor here, but the principles we
are discussing apply to all areas of
prosperity. How many people are in
abusive relationships and justify
staying in them?
Do you think you're serving the
world by being in a negative
relationship? Do you think it's
Spiritual to be poor? Do you think
you're doing God's work because
you're driving that '83 Camry with 8-
track player in it? Let me share with
you a secret:
POVERTY SUCKS!
Charles Fillmore shocked the
religious community of his day when
he declared that poverty is a sin.
People today are still taken aback when
I repeat it. But if you research the true
meaning of sin, it means "to miss the
mark."
And when you are not experiencing
prosperity in all areas of your life—
you are missing the mark your Creator
has for you.
Poverty causes disease, disharmony,
and death. It causes people to lie,
cheat and steal. There is absolutely
NOTHING spiritual about poverty.
Now you could be thinking, "That's
easy for Randy and those other rich
people to say! What about me? I have
a crappy job and I only make $23,000
a year. My boss is so cheap I haven't
had a raise in two years."
To which I would respond, "So what
are you doing about it?"
Now don't get me wrong. I'm not
suggesting that you charge an extra
$8,500 on your credit card and fly to
Tahiti when you're making $23,000 a
year. But I am suggesting that if
you're making $23,000 a year—it is
because you chose to do so.
You are the one who manifested
your crappy job, your cheap boss, and
your dysfunctional relationships. And
only you can manifest better ones. In
my faith we say, "God gives you the
light, but you still have to turn on the
light switch." The Quakers say, "As
you pray, move your feet."
In his landmark book Prosperity,
Fillmore gets a basic premise across,
right in the introduction. He tells us
that we have a wise and competent
Creator, who provided for all our needs.
Two key points in this.
1) Our Creator provided for us with
a spiritual substance, which is around
us everywhere. And,
2) This substance responds to the
mind of man. It is your thoughts that
manifest the substance into day-to-day
reality.
As long as you were manifesting a
job, why didn't you manifest one
that paid $230,000 or $2,300,000
instead of $23,000? Since you were
manifesting a relationship anyway,
why not manifest one with your true
soul mate who would enrich your
life in immeasurable ways? Since
you manifested waking up today,
why not do it with optimum health?
Here's what I know to be true . . .
When you call the airline, they ask if
you want to book in First Class or
Coach. And they'll give you whatever
seat you're willing to pay for. And that
is the way life is.
The only thing separating the Coach
cabin from the First Class one is a
curtain! All you have to do is pull it
back and walk through. Everyday, you
get a dozen chances to choose First
Class or Coach.
Which one are you choosing?

In America, the microcosm for the
mass culture can always be found in
the entertainment industry. Watch the
movies, study the Nielson ratings and
check out the New York Times
bestseller list. When is the last time
you saw a billionaire or multimillionaire
portrayed in a positive light
in the media? Think of the coverage
provided on Bill Gates, Larry Ellison,
Ross Perot, Howard Hughes, or Ted
Turner, on down to the millionaire on
Gilligan's Island.
I actually read a serious Op-Ed piece
by Ralph Nader—chastising Bill Gates
and other billionaires for not
redistributing their money to the poor
people of the world! I used to think
Nader was a good guy. Obviously, he
has lost his mind. And Gates, like a
moron, actually released a statement
defending himself. Like the fact that
he doesn't give away all the money he
worked so hard to earn, needs to be
defended.
You will see that intelligent people
like Jim Carey, Howard Stern, and
David Letterman are making
fortunes—exploiting the appetites of
a growing audience of functional
idiots. And make no mistake; people
like Stern and these others are brilliant.
Usually genius. And they have learned
that the lower they lower the common
denominator—the better it sells.
Make a movie like The Insider and
you'll garner lots of critical acclaim,
but you won't sell much popcorn.
Create Dumb and Dumber, The Waterboy
or Deuce Bigalow and you will take in
hundreds of millions of dollars. It's
like shooting fish in a barrel.
Aaron Spelling has become one of
the most prolific and successful
producers of all time, creating cheesy
T&A shows. Over the last couple of
decades, to keep up with the mass
market tastes, the shows have had to
get cheesier, show more and bigger
breasts, extra liposculptured asses, and
they have deteriorated to the
intelligence level of a cucumber.
So now our "pesky poor people" are
watching FIVE HOURS A DAY of
TV. And what are the hottest shows?
Survivor, Temptation Island, and The
Weakest Link. All shows that pander
to their basest instinct. Sex.
Consumption. Victim-hood. Gossip.
Lack and limitation.
These shows, and of course the
commercial messages, show them how
they can have all their desires now—
instant gratification—and worry about
paying for them later.
Get a car lease with no money
down. Furniture with no payments for
a year. They extend them credit till
they are spending 145% of what they
earn. Then market them Cheetos,
Fritos, Doritos . . . chocolate brownies
with mocha-crunch ice cream,
slathered in caramel, drizzled with
chocolate and covered with
marshmallow and whipped cream . . .
Pizza Hut meat lovers pan pizza with
extra cheese, stuffed crust.
Then they sell 'em Diet Pepsi, herbal
wraps, ephedrine supplements, bunsof-
steel videos, liposuction, and magic
"dream away the pounds" potions. It's
so easy it's almost comical. If it wasn't
so tragic.
Another perfect example is the
movie Titanic. That movie is
programming people on AT LEAST
150 different levels that:
• Money is bad;
• Rich people are evil; and,
• It's spiritual to be poor.
And the more you like this movie—
the more lack programming you have
in your subconscious mind. So what's
the result? It's the #1 grossing movie
since the earth's crust cooled. And
James Cameron makes $200 million—
teaching you it's spiritual to be poor!
The only way I know how to change
all this is with education—raising people's
consciousness. Not only do you have to
teach people to fish—you have to teach
them why they must WANT TO FISH
FOR THEMSELVES—instead of
looking for the Friday night all-you-caneat
fish fry.
Although I see prosperity in a
spiritual context—the laws of
prosperity are actually very scientific
and quite tangible. The only free
cheese is in the mousetrap.
Until someone identifies their
underlying lack programming, and
gives up their ownership of being a
victim—I'm afraid all the work at
home/office/anywhere programs are
simply a band-aid over a cancerous
tumor.
Living the Abundant Life You
Were Promised . . .
As crazy as this may sound to
you—I believe you were born to be
rich. In fact, I even think that being
poor is a sin. (More about that in a
moment.) But first, let's look at what
true prosperity really is.
It is healthy, happy relationships,
fulfilling work, contributing to a
greater good, beautiful sunsets,
morning rain, abundant health,
rainbows and nature.
AND it is sleek cars, beautiful
homes, exotic locales and stunning
clothes.
I say that because there is a lot of
lack programming and very
erroneous information going around
on the subject.
Some people will tell you that
prosperity has nothing to do with
money. That's just plain silly. Yes, I
know money doesn't buy happiness.
But I also know that poverty breeds
unhappiness, hopelessness, and
despair.
There are people who teach
prosperity courses that are broke.
They say things like, "Well I
haven't manifested a lot of
material things, but I am so
blessed with health and
relationships, blah, blah." They
have to say that, because otherwise
you might doubt them when they
climb into their '73 Pinto hatchback.
Well I got news for you. That dog
don't hunt. You can't be a "little bit
pregnant" and real prosperity means
in all sense of the word—which
includes money, cars, homes, and the
luxuries of life.
Now maybe you aren't into cars,
but you like boats. Or helicopters and
Armani suits are your thing. You get
the idea though. Prosperity means
living without fear of paying bills,
scrimping by, or depriving yourself of
the things that bring joy and meaning
to your life.
In my case that means a condo on
the ocean, fast sports cars, season
memberships to the Marlins, Opera
and film festival, trips all over the
world, playing on three softball teams,
working when I want, wonderful
people in my life and the time to spend
with them, and a spiritual sanctuary
that fulfills my needs.
Let me tell you a story . . .
I woke with the sun slowly washing
across my face. As I do each morning,
I began the day with the affirmation,
"Thank-you God." This morning had
even more meaning
than usual, because I
was in a bungalow
nestled over the
Pacific Ocean, at a
resort on the island
of Moorea, Tahiti. I
climbed out of bed,
picked up some
bread I had left on
the table the night
before—and began
dropping it through
a window in my
floor—to the ocean
below. Instantly, fish
of all colors and
sizes darted into
view and began to
eat the scraps.

Do you realize that you
are very likely sabotaging
your own achievements?
Doing things that derail your
business, keep you sick, unhappy,
unhealthy, or broke? (Or all of the
above.) You can think you want to be
successful, but actually be doing things
to stop it from happening to you.
All I know is that it took me losing
my business, selling the furniture,
sleeping on the floor, and eating
macaroni and cheese three times a day
for months to discover a very
fascinating thing . . .
What I discovered about success
and prosperity was that it had almost
nothing to do with opportunities,
chance, luck—or even training,
education, or skill. It had everything
to do with consciousness, beliefs, and
even subconscious programming that
you aren't aware of.
Last year I had a dialogue via e-mail
with my friend Stuart Goldsmith in
London. Stuart attended my Bermuda
Boot Camp and used to publish an
insightful newsletter in the U.K. on
success.
He wrote me about his desire to
create a work at home type of plan to
help people get off government
assistance and become independent.
(He thought perhaps an envelope
stuffing, assembly, or similar type of
plan might work. One done honestly,
not the many rip-off schemes that
currently prey on these people.)
I want to share some of what I
wrote him back on the subject of
prosperity consciousness—because I
think it's the most important element
in your success.
Some of what I write may strike
you as uncaring, jaded, cynical, or
heartless. In actuality, once you
understand the principles
involved, you'll understand that
my comments only come from
wanting the highest good for
others. And you may find them
very appropriate—and very
uncomfortable—for your own life.
Try as I might to embrace Stuart's
idea for a home work program for
welfare recipients, it still reeks to me as
rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic.
Creating home work jobs for most of
these people is casting pearls before
swine or whatever appropriate cliché
you'd like to substitute. (See how
cynical and uncaring I sound already!)
I still believe that what I said is true
though, based on my own experience,
and that of the "circle of losers," I
associated with for the first 30 years of
my life. You could have given any of
us a home work program designed to
make us a millionaire and we would
have snatched defeat from the jaws of
victory.
Why?
Because we did not have the
consciousness to be wealthy—or
healthy—or happy. We were
professional "victims."
When I started a business, the
county started construction on the
highway, the next time I had a crooked
partner, and another time the economy
went bad. Finally the last time, the IRS
seized my restaurant for non-payment
of taxes, and auctioned it off on the
courthouse steps. Which left me with
no car, no house, no money, no job,
and $55,000 in debt . . .
Which ultimately was the best thing
that happened to me. By losing
everything, I finally stopped looking at
all the outside factors (crooked
partner, IRS, economy, etc.), and
started looking at the inside ones. Or
more specifically, ask the question,
"Was there ONE person who was
always at the scene of the crime?"
Of course I didn't like the answer I
came up with, but it was the true one.
All those outside factors were being
manifested by me because I:
• Had a subconscious fear of
success;
• Lacked Self-esteem; and,
• Didn't believe I was worthy of
success.
It's very easy to cry victim and get
your share of love, sympathy, etc. I
was certainly the poster boy. And of
course I surrounded myself with other
victim friends who would commiserate
with me. We would gather at every
opportunity and share our tragedies
with each other.
I would explain how those assholes at
the power company shut off my lights,
because I was one lousy day late; my
friend Mike would top that with how he
was getting evicted by his rich, heartless
landlord; I would come back with how
my license plate was impounded for
unpaid parking tickets, and the battle
would wage on.
And of course there is nothing worse
than when your friends have a worse
tragedy than you do! You have to
immediately manifest a tumor,
meteorite landing on your car, or some
other calamitous event to ensure that
you get your proper share of sympathy.
And before you disregard this as
mystical fluff, I am talking about
rational, scientific events here. Ex: you
are attracted to another dysfunctional
alcoholic spouse, choose another
dishonest partner, open a business
without doing the due diligence, spend
your money on cigarettes and beer, but
have none left to pay the rent, or a
million and one other possibilities.
Yes it's true other people aren't
getting thrown out on the street—but
that's because they pay their mortgage.
Yes it's true that other people don't
have their tire blow out on their way to
the interview for that good job—but
that's because they deferred getting
cable TV and bought new tires when
they needed them.
Poverty is not an absence of money
and things—it is a state of mind.
Prosperity is not an abundance of
money and things—it is also a state of
mind.
The state-run lottery here is the
perfect example. People with money
never buy tickets. They know it's
stupid, with odds of winning of one in
22 million. Or they buy one ticket a
week, as playful entertainment.
Who buys the vast majority of
lottery tickets? Very poor people.
Who gamble away the money they
need for good nutrition, work clothes,
bus fare to a job interview, etc., etc.—
because they "need" to win. And you
know that when they do win $20
million—it will destroy their life. And
they will be broke again in ten years.
Why?
Because they don't have prosperity
consciousness. They see themselves as
poor victims who "need" some of the
money, "luck" and "chances" that rich
people have. And just like if you give
them a lottery pay-off, the home work
opportunity will have the same result,
although less dramatic.
In their subconscious mind, they see
themselves as poor, so they always
manifest results that keep them poor.
Without even knowing it, they hate rich
people and resent what they have. So
when they start to get to a certain level
of success (as I did), a silent alarm goes
off in their subconscious mind that
says, "Hey you better be careful. If you
keep doing what you're doing, you're
going to end up like one of those evil,
mean and nasty rich people! You'll
change, and then your friends won't
like you anymore."
So they will find ways (like I did) to
sabotage their success. Which in the
work-at-home program would
manifest as theft, fraud, shoddy
standards (getting their 3 year old to do
it), begging for extra work, early
payment, more payment because they
"really need it," lots of problems
regarding missing work packets and
missing payments, and lots of work
never returned or heard from again.
How do we change this state of
affairs?
Well first we must acknowledge the
"data-sphere"—the Internet, TV,
telephone, magazines, radio, friends,
family, newspapers, e-mail,
governments, organized religion, and
other "agenda setters." And we must
recognize that this data-sphere is
continually programming people 24/7,
and that almost 95% of it is lack and
limitation programming.

Doing S.O.S:
((IT'S THE SECRET OF SUCCESS & BALANCE))

GROUND RULES
The best time to practice the Sphere of Silence is in the early morning hours, before the chaos of the day begins. But it can be practised at any time of the day which is convenient to you.
+You must maintain absolute silence during this period and focus completely on what you are doing.
+No form of external communication during the period is allowed. No phones, laptops and TV etc.
+If you break the silence, or get distracted by external stimuli, then you must start the process all over again.

PATH OF DUTY
The Path of Duty is the setting of goals for each day and the next day, spending time to look back at those set the previous day. The time spent on doing a ‘post-mortem' of the achievements of the last day helps in analysis of actions, and also in articulating who we want to be. All of these must be written down in the journal for keeping record and looking back. “The purpose of the post-mortem is to look into the mirror, to see who we really are,” says Mr. Eswaran.
Past (10 mins)

Here we analyze our activities from yesterday. Map the success or progress rate of the tasks planned and identity reasons for failure.
Present (10 mins)

This is where we plan for today and list down our activities for the day.
Future (10 mins)

+Here, we plan our short term goals and list down tasks for tomorrow and the immediate future.
+Then, we plan our mid term goals and list down tasks and activities for the next week or ten days.
+Finally, we prepare our long term goals and list them in order of what we plan to achieve in the next year and beyond.

PATH OF KNOWLEDGE
The Path of Knowledge seeks to build the short term memory of the human mind. By doing this, the mind's ability to retain facts is said to improve drastically. “Memory is a tool we require everyday and this is in the Path of Knowledge,” according to the author, who believes that memory is required to achieve continuity in thought process. All great leaders, he points out, have excellent memory and are able to recall facts effortlessly.
We dedicate this slot to enrichment of the mind.
We can read a non-fiction book, listen to an educational cassette, CD, or read essays and articles that help enhance our knowledge.

+The first 5 minutes are dedicated to going through the notes we have taken the previous day on the subject, to refresh the mind.
+The next 10 minutes are dedicated to seeking knowledge by reading a book or listening to the audio source.
+The last 5 minutes are meant for us to summarize what we have learnt from the reading or listening.

PATH OF DEVOTION
The Path of Devotion is the time taken to converse with the Almighty. It is a 10-minute reflection on the outcome of the discussion that one chooses to have with the Lord. Pray, seek and ask Him questions in your heart that need answers. The beautiful thing about this process is that your answers will come to you in some form or another.
The atheist is not excluded in this Path. The author suggests for the atheist to commune with morality and goodness. “I would add another ‘o'. Instead of God, I would use good.”

+Your 10-minute reflection here should also be written down.

Four steps to success.

Jim Rohn suggests: learn to master good ideas, have good plans, handle the passing of time and solve problems.

Let me pass on to you these four simple steps to success:
Number one is good ideas. Be a collector of good ideas. My mentor taught me to keep a journal when I was twenty five years old. I've been doing it now all these years. They will be passed on to my children and my grandchildren. If you hear a good health idea, capture it, write it down. Don't trust your memory.
Then on a cold wintry evening, go back through your journal—the ideas that changed your life, the ideas that saved your marriage, the ideas that bailed you out of bankruptcy, the ideas that helped you become successful, the ideas that made you millions.
What a good review. Going back over the collection of ideas that you gathered over the years. So be a collector of good ideas for your business, for your relationships, for your future.
The next step to success is to have good plans. A good plan for the day, a good plan for the future, a good health plan, a good plan for your marriage. Building anything is like building a house, you need to have a plan.
Now, here is a good time management question: When should you start the day? Answer: As soon as you have it finished. It is like building a house, building a life. What if you just started laying bricks and somebody asks 'What are you building?' And you say 'I have no idea.' See they would come and take you away to a safe place. So, don't start the house until you finish it.
Now, is it possible to finish the house before you start it? Yes, but it would be foolish to start before you had it finished. Not a bad time management idea. Don't start the day until it is pretty well finished—at least the outline of the day. Leave some room to improvise. Leave some room for extra strategies, but finish it before you start it.
And here is the next piece that is a little more challenging: Do not start the week until you have it finished. Lay it out, structure it, then put it to work. Then the next one is a little tougher yet; do not start the month until you have it finished.
And finally the big one, don't start the year until it is finished on paper. It's not a bad idea, toward the end of the year, to sit down with your family for the family structure plans, sit down in your business for the business plans, sit down with your financial advisor for your investments and map out the year… properties to buy, properties to sell, places to go with your family, lay out the year.
I finally learned to do that. It was also helpful for my family to show them where they appeared on my calendar. You know I used to have my business things on there and I used to have my lectures and my seminars all laid out on my calendar, and guess what the children said: 'Where are we on the game plan, please show us our names on the game plan.' So you need to do it for your children, for your spouse, for your friends.
Now, here is the third step to success, and it can be really challenging. Learning to handle the passing of time. It takes time to build a career, it takes time to make changes, so give your project time, give your people time. If you're working with people, give them time to learn, grow, change, develop, produce. And here is the big one, give yourself time.
It takes time to master something new. It takes time to make altered changes and refinement in philosophy as well as activity. Give yourself time to learn, time to get it, time to start some momentum, time to finally achieve.
It is easy to be impatient with yourself. I remember when I first tried to learn to tie my shoes. The shoe strings, it seemed like it would take me forever. Finally I got it and it didn't take forever, but it seemed like for a while I'd never learn, I'd get it backwards; the bow goes up and down instead of across. How do I straighten that out? Finally I got it, it just took time.
Mama taught me a little bit about playing the piano. 'Here is the left hand scale', she'd say. I got that, it was easy. Then she said, 'Here is the right hand scale.' I got that, that was easy. Now she said, 'We are going to play both hands at the same time.' I said, 'Well, how can you do that?' Now one at a time was easy… but at the same time? Looking at this hand and looking at that hand, finally I got it. Finally I got where I could play the scales with both hands.
Then I remember the day she said, 'Now we are going to read the music and play with both hands.' I thought, 'You can't do all that.' But you know, sure enough I'm looking at the music, looking at each hand, a little confused at first, but finally I mastered it. It took a little time to read the music and play with both hands.
Then I remember the day she said, 'Now we are going to watch the audience, read the music and play with both hands. I thought, 'Now that is going too far!' How could you possibly do that? But see adding them one at a time and giving myself time to master one before we went to the next one; sure enough I got to where I could watch the audience, read the music and play with both hands.
So the lesson here is: Give yourself time, you can become a better pro, you can better master the art of parenting, you can better master the art of managing time, conserving resources, working together as a partner. Give yourself time.
And here's the last one; learning to solve problems. Business problems, family problems, financial problems, emotional problems, etcetera—challenges for us all. Here's the best way to treat a problem: as an opportunity to grow.
Change if you have to, modify if you must, discard an old philosophy that wasn't working well for a new one. The best phrase my mentor ever gave me was when he said, 'Mr Rohn if you will change, everything will change for you.' Wow, I took that to heart, and sure enough the more I changed the more everything changed for me.
So learn to master good ideas, have good plans, handle the passing of time and solve problems, and you will be on your way to more success than you could ever imagine!

+Three rules leaders know.

Michael Clouse explains Network Marketing's 'three rules of three'.
Surveys have always fascinated me. Ask a few hundred people how they feel about this or that, and you can presumably understand the mindset of an entire nation! Indeed, polls are conducted daily to determine how we feel about politics, why we purchase certain products, and even what we watch—or don't watch—on TV.
This sampling got me thinking one day about the Network Marketing business we're in. For example, if you were to survey those already in the business, what should you ask them? What insights could they provide? Would any of this gleaned information be valuable to you?
Consider the following, and you decide…
Years ago I discovered that those who are deemed to be Masters in this 'networking thing' understand three simple truths about the business. Although you might hear these expressed somewhat differently from leader to leader, the underlying facts remain the same. For purposes of our discussion, we'll refer to these truisms as 'Network Marketing's three rules of three':
1 Know the business you're in.
Network Marketing is about three things:
§ 1 Finding people to talk to—prospecting.
§ 2 Talking to the people you find—presentation.
§ 3 Teaching those who join how to do the same—duplication.
2 Understand the rules.
Regardless of how you present your business…
§ 1 Some people decide to join—some will.
§ 2 Some people decide not to join—some won't.
§ 3 Some people decide not to decide—so what.
3 Get better at the game.
Because everything in life is about who you become…
§ 1 Work more on yourself than you do on your business.
§ 2 Work more on yourself than you do on your business.
§ 3 Work more on yourself than you do on your business.
I share this with you because for years, leaders have been searching for a simple, highly duplicatable system that new distributors could use to more quickly achieve success. I now believe we've been overlooking the obvious for decades.
If it's true that in order to grow our organizations we need to contact, involve and teach; if it's true that 'some will,' some won't,' and 'so what' are all good things; and if we really need to be working on ourselves, our personal development, more than we work on the business… then what is this overlooked shortcut to success?
To find the answer, conduct your own personal poll. Take a census of the top 25 successful leaders in your company. Call them, fax them, e-mail them, whatever it takes for you to get together long enough to ask three questions of each of them and see what you come up with:
§ 1 How were you introduced to the business—audio tape, videotape, or through an event?
§ 2 How would you describe the skill set of the person who sponsored you?
§ 3 Once you were introduced to the company, how long did it take for you to decide you wanted to do this business?
Here's what I've discovered…
§ Question #1 could easily provide you with 25 different answers, especially if you ask which audiotape, videotape, or event they attended.
§ Question #2, again, will probably provide a plethora of answers from talented to tolerable to terrible.
§ Question #3, however, is the all-important key to your survey, because what you will learn is that those who make the most money in this industry—regardless of how they were introduced, and regardless of by whom—got in right away. Those who build the largest organizations—same thing—got in right away. And best of all, those you have yet to meet—those destined to become leaders—they'll get in right away, too, if you will just present them with the business!
The beauty in this overlooked shortcut to success is that in the beginning, what you lack in skill you can make up in activity. Combine that belief with a proven system for contacting new prospects, and your company's next great 'Triple Diamond Star Fleet Commander' could easily be sponsored by you—regardless of your current level of expertise! The most important thing to do when you sign up is make a list of the best people you know and show them the business, because if they're going to get it, they'll get it. Don't wait until you think you 'know everything,' because you don't have to. Imagine that! Apparently, activity matters most…
Now, I'm not suggesting that you skip mastering Network Marketing's three rules of three. On the contrary. Just because the movers and shakers 'get in' right away is no reason to miss sponsoring the masses who want to know everything about everything before they're ready to begin. Therefore, if you truly desire to prosper long term in this business, weave a bountiful thread of activity into your tapestry of Network Marketing's three rules of three, and not only will you sponsor that next mega superstar, you'll be able to keep them. I could give you story after story of how true this is, but this isn't about me, it's about you. What are you waiting for? Make another call…

Rejection
By Dato' Vijay Eswaran

Rejection is a central platform of all networking endeavour. Anyone who doesn’t understand why rejection is such a powerful and yet intricate tool of learning does not really understand networking. Take the word 'networking'. Ultimately its about working a net. If you see a spider building a cobweb, in essence that’s where the term net/web originated from. It’s a concept we have pulled from nature per se.

First the spider pulls one single thread from point A to Point B. And this is the most difficult, most strenuous, most daring, most imperilled venture by the staid spider. Because it is one thread and hanging by that single thread it generally it fails about 99 times before connecting. Because it's so tenuous The actual percentage of success is about 1%.

But the web itself upon completion can be an extremely powerful and extremely intricate construction. In nature, there is nothing that comes close. Man, despite all technological progress cannot match the intricacy and strength of a single cobweb even today. The strength of a single spider thread is still far stronger than the strongest steel cable known to man, if one were to measure it proportionately.

Hence, it is the ideal example to use to describe networking.
The first thread fails 99 times out of 100. But yet, this is the basis of the entire network that is yet to come and it will be the strongest thread that spans that space. Upon that single thread being achieved the spider goes back to its centre and then drops again to create another thread. Hence, you eventually see the entire cobweb over a period of time.

Now how does this affect the term rejection?
The spider has no ego, it has no pride. It has no intellect in terms of counting how many times it fails. It is focussed on the objective and keeps on striving and trying until it's objective is reached. It can only focus on one thread at a time. But this is how the most complex, intricate, dynamic networks are built.

Hence, you would find that some of the most successful networkers per se, who have been able to completely build huge networks, i.e. 50,000/80,000/ 120,000 people, have done so because they have never looked beyond the next thread/person that they are building upon. This so called simplistic approach is so powerful because there is no expectation, there is no pride in achievement, there is only the next step forward.

So why this fear of rejection? Rejection does not demean you. It does not deride you. It does not deny you. It certainly doesn’t defeat you. It doesn’t even defy you. So why let a single rejection or a 100 rejections stop you.

In the words of a good friend of mine, who is a great networker:

"Rejection is just another gust of wind on my face. It cools my brow and is gone in the next instant. If I know it not, how can it affect me?"

Through rejection though, there is so much to be learn't. In every rejection there is a new lesson.

A rejection teaches you what you should not do next. A rejection teaches you where you went wrong. And therefore teaches you if you care to learn from it, what you should do right. If you can only remove your expectation out of the way; if you can only remove your ego out of the way, then rejection becomes a gift divine. It becomes a true teaching tool.

There is so much more to be derived from rejection than there is from success.

Embrace it and it will guide you. Repel it and you will be forever entwined.

In embracing rejection, you embrace yourself because ultimately there is no single person out there who has the power to move you or change you. Only you possess this.

Hence, individuals or groups that reject you per se are themselves of no consequence. What is of consequence is the lesson learnt therein. The greater the rejection, the higher the mountain.

If one were to look at oneself as a mountain climber, getting angry at the mountain is ludicrous. The greater the challenge, the more there is to clear.

So just as a mountain climber looks for the next mountain you will need to embrace your next rejection. The only thing that you would not want to do is to repeat the mistake without correction. If the same mistake defeats you continuously then it is not the incidents, nor the mistakes that are at fault, but you are.

Embracing rejection without self analysis is defeatism. Self analysis makes a difference. Hence, it is about planning and preparing that makes a difference. A rejection gone by unanalysed is a rejection lost in time.

Which is why the post mortem of every rejection (through practice of Sphere of Silence) is crucial to your next stage.

For me, my morning practice of the Sphere of Silence allows me this unique introspection where I can fit the pieces of the jigsaw of the person that I am and since I am continuously evolving, of the person that I am becoming.

Most people who have spoken to me about rejection, ask,” why me?” As if they have been handpicked for this pain!

For this dismal experience they feel they have undergone was orchestrated by the lord himself. But ultimately we are the architects of our own rejections. I do not mean that we are expecting or designing our own defeat but that we need to plan and prepare for both rejection and acceptance in the same manner.

A rejection merely challenges you. So change it. And if pride has no role to play it becomes that much easier to deal with it.

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