Kimp’s Comments (group member since Dec 17, 2013)

Kimp’s comments from the Reader with a Cause group.

I want to push back a bit on this 'learned behavior' and 'generational violence'. Yes, I agree that if you grow up witnessing violence, it is more likely that you will use violence or be a victim of violence, research shows us that to be true. But I don't accept it's because people think it's okay or acceptable. If that were the case, then the vast majority of interpersonal violence wouldn't happen in private. If people who grew up witnessing violence believed it was normal, then they would talk about it; instead of knowing, often without words, that they are NOT to talk about it. I think 'it's what a grew up with' or 'it's all I know' is a handy excuse and tactic of batterers.

I really enjoyed this book... clearly many of the characters were disgusting as best... I can also recognize that I saw parts of myself in each one of them.