Greg’s Comments (group member since Jul 31, 2013)

Greg’s comments from the Ask Greg and Amiira Behrendt - Tuesday, September 3rd! group.

Tina wrote: "Hi Greg and Amiira,
Thanks for your insight above, I will definitely try out your advice!

One other question that I had - In your newest dating book you seem to be sending the message that you sh..."

Solid question. It is a progression to be sure. You should always have a set of standards for yourself. What's ok what's not ok, but be sure you really know someone before you start checking off those boxes. Life has natural rhythms, and if you listen to them you know when to start taking things seriously. Someone needs to get to know you before they can learn your rules and for you to learn theirs. So don't take the dates too seriously but always take yourself seriously.

Jessica wrote: "First I want to say thank you so much for making HJNTIY!! It has changed my life. I am still single & dating, but so much more secure, and confident with myself. I come from a line of woman who hav..."

Yes of course you can talk to them first. Anywhere, anytime, wallflowers are hard to get to know. Men like fun, strong, flirty, self possessed women. So much in fat that they tend to ask them out. You are doing great Jessica!

Alona wrote: "Hi, Amiira and Greg... I just wan't to ask how would you make your man faithful to you? It seems that men now a days cheat on their partners.. Thanks so much..."

Alona sadly you can't make anyone do anything. If you feel he's not faithful and you can't trust him perhaps it's time to find a new relationship. Men cheat because they have low self esteem and seek out validation from anyone who will give it to them. There is no solution for another persons' low self esteem. So pick someone who takes good care of themselves and seems to put others interests before his own. Ok?

Nesrin wrote: "Hello Greg and Amira,

I love your books, they make me laugh out loud, while at the same time tackling a topic that matters to me!

I have a question: i agree with what you say, that whenever you..."

Nesrin wrote: "Hello Greg and Amira,

I love your books, they make me laugh out loud, while at the same time tackling a topic that matters to me!

I have a question: i agree with what you say, that whenever you..."

This all sounds positive and fine to me. Amiira my have another point of view but I like the way your doing business!

Marly wrote: "Ok... I have a question. I have been dating a friend of mine very casually. We started seeing each other last Summer and we continued on for several months and I started getting attached to him qui..."

Hey Marley! I found your answer in your question.

"...he says he loves me as a person and who I am but he isn't able to give me the love I am looking for and he does not want a label right now. And he knows I care about him a lot." -YOU

You've tried it twice. It's not enough. He's been kind enough and man enough to share his truth with you. Take him at his word and stop wasting time waiting for him to change. You are way too superfoxy for that Super Marley!

GB

Pat wrote: "Why you go corndoggin' when you know your have frien'?"
Wink!

Russell wrote: "So I'm 39 and single, is this book for me? I find I run out of fun dates by the third one."

I mean Russell if YOU are fun it doesn't matter where you go You could take her to the dump if you guys have chemistry. Don't take her to the dump. I like to think the book is a great primer for anyone who wants to date but it's written to women.

Lauren wrote: "Hello,

I am very excited to read this book. I have read and have a copy of "He's just not that into you", as well as "It's called a break up because it's broken". My name is Lauren I am 25 years o..."

I/we get this question all the time. In HJNTITY, ICABUBIB, and IJAFD we have said we feel when a guy is serious he'll find a way to ask you out. But we've always also said if asking a guy out is something you want to do GO FOR IT. We don't want to make decisions for you. We have only ever shared our experience which is that men should know to ask women out. That's how we are raising our daughters. If you've let a guy know that you'd be open to a date and that guy doesn't have the where with all to ask you out then ask yourself if this is the kind of guy you see yourself in a relationship with.

Angie wrote: "This book...is it just about first dates? I agree that I would like to see a book by you two on relationship/marriages that are already in progress. I'm sure it would be hilarious and true."

That's a very real possibility... as soon as we can figure out how to be in one as well. Relationships are are tough and I think knowing that and realizing you can only be on one a day at a time. I know that when I make my wife and my family my priority the rest of my life seems to go better. Seriously and I don't know why that is but it just seems to be true.

How about that bro!