Amiira’s Comments (group member since Jul 31, 2013)

Amiira’s comments from the Ask Greg and Amiira Behrendt - Tuesday, September 3rd! group.

Becki wrote: "So I've been thinking all day about what I might want to ask, but I've decided I don't really have a question. I do want to say that "He's Just Not That Into You" got me through college and "It's C..."

Hey Becki,
Thanks for writing in. We're really thrilled that our books hold such a special place in your heart/on your nightstand/in your bookcase.
Axx

M wrote: "Amiira wrote: "M wrote: "Hi Greg & Amiira. Greg I have listened to a lot of your standup lately, and the bit about Games Night and playing Pictionary is hilarious and so very true. I second, thir..."

That made me laugh out loud! Keep them coming!

Kenny wrote: "I'm looking forward to the Q & A here on Sept 3rd."

Not more than we are!
Axx

Alona wrote: "Hi, I'm so excited to have discussions with you guys. :)"

We are as well!
Axx

Nathalie wrote: "I'm so excited to ask you guys questions!"

Us too!
Axx

Angie wrote: "This book...is it just about first dates? I agree that I would like to see a book by you two on relationship/marriages that are already in progress. I'm sure it would be hilarious and true."

Hi Angie!
We're thinking about it. Working title is "How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking". What do you think??
Axx

Tina wrote: "First off, I’d like to say that my three close friends and I have read all your books and are huge fans!! – We have one very much loved copy of the breakup book - highlighted, underlined, and dog-e..."

Hi Tina!
Greg and I are here in the kitchen reading your questions. Firstly, thanks for reading and loving our books. We genuinely appreciate it and are so pleased that they meant something to you. As for you answering your question about how to salvage your situation... here's what I'd do. The next time you see the guy you're having casual sex with but would like to try to parlay it into actual dating/checking out the possibility of a relationship with you should have him meet you at a 50's diner and tell him something along the following lines, "Hey guess what? I found this really cool time machine. Turns out I want to go back in time to the day I told you I wasn't interested in dating you or having anything serious with you. After spending time with you and realizing how awesome you are, my future self wants to go back and right the past to change the course of history. It's something I HAVE to do to ensure the safety and future of the planet earth." If he isn't flattered by your creativity and the sentiment then he stinks and is only good for sex anyway. Good luck!

M wrote: "Hi Greg & Amiira. Greg I have listened to a lot of your standup lately, and the bit about Games Night and playing Pictionary is hilarious and so very true. I second, third and fourth the idea tha..."

Hey M,
I was sad to see you die at end of Skyfall. I did not see that coming and am truthfully, not okay with it. Okay, there have been many comments about the idea of writing a marriage book so let's start throwing out chapter titles people! Let's get this party started. The working title of the book is "How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking" - we'll take all ideas into consideration!
Axx

Michelle wrote: "I enjoyed reading He's Just Not That into You (see review http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/...). I would have added another section but I loved the book and the humor it brought to a seri..."

Hey Michelle,
The idea of a marriage/long term relationship book is something that we've toyed with for awhile but have yet to commit to. Definitely something we'll be revisiting though. Thanks for your comment!
Axx

Stuart wrote: "I about as clear as mud. I have not dated since 94 due to the fact that I have been married to her since that time. I feel that she would be totally against me dating others. That being said Jess a..."

Terrific! I love that story! I fully retract my last reply to you.
xx

Lauren wrote: "Hello,

I am very excited to read this book. I have read and have a copy of "He's just not that into you", as well as "It's called a break up because it's broken". My name is Lauren I am 25 years o..."

Hi Lauren!
You have many questions that we'll try to get to but first off I want to say that I genuinely do believe you're on the right track with the idea of living the life you want to live and putting yourself in alignment with attracting the right person for you. When you have found great satisfaction in your life and are truly happy...that's when someone comes along and f**ks it all up with their love. Swear to every form of God that this is true. Hooray for you that you're going on these two upcoming dates without putting too much expectation on them. Such a healthy attitude to have. Like we say in It's Just A F***ing Date - all relationships don't work out until you find the one that does. Same goes for dating. As for asking guys out, I'm against it. Strictly because men are best when they are in pursuit of something they want and if you do the asking - it's game over. They'll assume they can already have sex with you because you made the initial overture (even if that's not the case) and not view you as the prize that you are. There's a chapter in It's Just A F***ing Date where we actually walk you through how to get asked out by a guy you want to ask you out. There are these little turns you can take that let the person know that you're interested without giving away the power of pursuit. Okay, I think your last question was about fairness in buying drinks and the etiquette of changing plans. Certainly you can buy a fella a drink AFTER he has already bought you one, however why not just let him buy you a drink or two? But not nine of them. It's like being able to take a compliment. Just say thank you. You don't have to tell them they have pretty eyes too. If someone is treating you like a lady, let them. Also, don't drink so many free drinks that you're too free with the rest of you. The lady can easily turn into the tramp when they're a little drinky which blows the whole idea of the lady you want to be in the world. As for changing plans an hour beforehand, I can see both sides of that coin. Yes, you are of value and people should come to you, but yes, his time is also valuable and making a change an hour before your plans is sucky especially when he's ALREADY there EARLY because he's excited to meet you! You're a smart cookie - you know what the right thing to do is. It's just a matter of listening to the right voice not the one that gets you into trouble! Axx

Charlene wrote: "Hi Greg & Amiira,

I read "He's Just Not That Into You" almost 10 years ago! in my 20-somethings -- along with a few other self-love-relationship-improvement books. Yours was the one that got throu..."

Hey Charlene!
So truly happy that you found your mate and enjoyed the book. It's so funny that this question has come up today as it's something that has come up for years now. We've toyed with the idea of a marriage book called "How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking" but have never really committed to writing it. Definitely a conversation we'll revisit.
Thanks!
Axx

Stuart wrote: "I really do not have a question. Have not had a date with someone that I was not attached to since 1994. I am just thrilled that this book seems to be getting some praise. Be well you two. Hope to ..."

Thanks Stuart. I feel like you need to get out more because there's someone out there waiting for you to find them! Not attached since 1994? How very grunge of you.

Hi Angie!
We're thinking about it. Working title is "How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking". What do you think??
Axx

Hi Tina!
Greg and I are here in the kitchen reading your questions. Firstly, thanks for reading and loving our books. We genuinely appreciate it and are so pleased that they meant something to you. As for you answering your question about how to salvage your situation... here's what I'd do. The next time you see the guy you're having casual sex with but would like to try to parlay it into actual dating/checking out the possibility of a relationship with you should have him meet you at a 50's diner and tell him something along the following lines, "Hey guess what? I found this really cool time machine. Turns out I want to go back in time to the day I told you I wasn't interested in dating you or having anything serious with you. After spending time with you and realizing how awesome you are, my future self wants to go back and right the past to change the course of history. It's something I HAVE to do to ensure the safety and future of the planet earth." If he isn't flattered by your creativity and the sentiment then he stinks and is only good for sex anyway. Good luck!