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Avoidant: It is very important for you to maintain your independence and self-sufficiency and you often prefer autonomy to intimate relationships.
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― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
― Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
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To the significant other, the confusion can become enormous. They “hear” the AVP say, I want it, but I don’t. I want it all, not just some. I’m too overwhelmed; I can’t get what I really want. Poor me. I can’t deal with this, and you, too. I’m tired. I’m bored. I don’t care about your situation. Calm down. We don’t need emotions here. Only controlled access is allowed. These statements may or may not be said, but they are acted out.
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