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I had to chuckle at your last piece of advice...so true.
Great advice for girls and women of all ages! Keep up your great work, Michelle!
Thank you for your detailed answer, Michelle! It really really means a lot.
The technique of showing out the power their words and opinions have has worked so well for me in the past! A coworker started speaking up in a lot of future meetings; there's still a long (but hopefully short) way to go till they express disagreements and firm suggestions.
I was also lucky to have been brought up in an environment, where "why" wasn't punished with glares and disbelief. I see so many girls who are not brought up that way and this probably is much more deep-rooted than it appears. At the risk of pulling a tangent from here, I think girls unknowingly learn to stay quiet also because people do not listen to them or allow them to finish their sentences. Fully understanding the liberties & the opportunities I have received growing up and knowing my skill & behavioral limitations at the same time, I can see this happening with women and girls of all types, including me.
I have observed people cut girls off, even people who understand the world very well & have quite mature opinions and decision-making about the company and possibly life.
Its the smaller aspects like-
1. Listening to the same explanation given by a man patiently over a woman
2. When the topic is brought up, brush it aside as being less important compared to the work being done
3. Brush it aside by calling it a coincidence
But, when someone sets aside mental space and notices these over a period of time, a pattern emerges- whether some people do it to everyone just because they are so & whether some unknowingly do it only to females. Making them aware of this is probably impossible. Or is it not? What are your thoughts about this?
Um, how can a girl m age speak up when her idiot father refuses to let her believe she has rights as an american?
Dianne
I am currently reading chapter 4 of this book. Barack writes a very detailed memoir which places the reader latterly standing in the same room or situation feeling his emotions, making decisions.
This book could make a intriguing university/college course which I could see Barack teaching. Would he be interested?
You make me proud I'm from Chicago too, thank you...
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Great advice for girls and women of all ages! Keep up your great work, Michelle!
Thank you for your detailed answer, Michelle! It really really means a lot. The technique of showing out the power their words and opinions have has worked so well for me in the past! A coworker started speaking up in a lot of future meetings; there's still a long (but hopefully short) way to go till they express disagreements and firm suggestions.
I was also lucky to have been brought up in an environment, where "why" wasn't punished with glares and disbelief. I see so many girls who are not brought up that way and this probably is much more deep-rooted than it appears. At the risk of pulling a tangent from here, I think girls unknowingly learn to stay quiet also because people do not listen to them or allow them to finish their sentences. Fully understanding the liberties & the opportunities I have received growing up and knowing my skill & behavioral limitations at the same time, I can see this happening with women and girls of all types, including me.
I have observed people cut girls off, even people who understand the world very well & have quite mature opinions and decision-making about the company and possibly life.
Its the smaller aspects like-
1. Listening to the same explanation given by a man patiently over a woman
2. When the topic is brought up, brush it aside as being less important compared to the work being done
3. Brush it aside by calling it a coincidence
But, when someone sets aside mental space and notices these over a period of time, a pattern emerges- whether some people do it to everyone just because they are so & whether some unknowingly do it only to females. Making them aware of this is probably impossible. Or is it not? What are your thoughts about this?
Um, how can a girl m age speak up when her idiot father refuses to let her believe she has rights as an american?
DianneI am currently reading chapter 4 of this book. Barack writes a very detailed memoir which places the reader latterly standing in the same room or situation feeling his emotions, making decisions.
This book could make a intriguing university/college course which I could see Barack teaching. Would he be interested?
You make me proud I'm from Chicago too, thank you...
