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My thoughts exactly.
c'mon you guys! She is 15 and just asking if it is appropriate for her age. I will start this book and wonder if my teenager can read it too.
Appropriate? Why wouldn't it be appropriate, s/he was 15, not a child anymore. S/he should be able to do that decision for her/himself, s/he is going to be an adult soon with more important decisions to make.
Tytti, do you have teenagers at home? My teenagers read everything they want but still, there are some books I won't let them read. I do believe it is totally ok to ask.
I don't know anyone who would control what their teenagers are reading, my parents never did, nor the parents of my friends, nor my friends who are parents. That would be considered very strange as would be asking that question, even their friends would laugh at them, they wouldn't even understand the question, I don't either. Maybe if the child was about 9 that would be understandable but not when they are teenagers... Besides, I went to school with people who had already moved out of home and living on their own in another town when they were 16, some were still 15.
Tytti maybe we live in different worlds then. I do supervise what my children read. So if your teenager wants to read 50 shades of grey, would you let him/her? Just wondering.
Why wouldn't I let them? Besides, they wouldn't even ask my permission to read a book, no one does that. It's not like I could stop them, either, if they really wanted to read it, they would just get it from the library. What I have heard about it is that it's so badly written that it's ridiculous and even the sex scenes are not very sexy and actually pretty lame, so I would only hope they would have a better taste than that. Also as teenagers they are soon expected to make decisions about their own sex life (and education etc.), whether they want to have sex and when and with whom, so not letting them read a book about the subject would feel pretty strange.
The worst thing about the book seems to be that it misrepresents BDSM lifestyle and glorifies abusive behaviour but I believe they would recognise that, too. It's probably not the only book with equally bad characters, after all it's Twilight fanfiction. (And I read a discussion about the book from a teen forum, they were mainly girls, and this is exactly what they said about it, too. They were laughing at it and calling it softporn for sexually frustrated middle-aged housewives... Basically the book and its readers were a joke for them. They seemed to think that even erotica should be better written. )
And yes, I probably live in another world, we don't have helicopter parents and children are learning independence from an early age and also learning to control their own behaviour. As far as I know, reading a book has never hurt anyone seriously. Also my father lived through WWII as a child, saw enemy bombers over his home and heard them bombing a nearby town, so I guess his perspective was a bit different... Besides, I think the Game of Thrones TV series has the age limit at 16, so teenagers can legally watch it, too, it's even coming from a free channel and is available online.
Thank you for your input Tytii, I respect it even though my poinst of view are different. I do have a great admiration for people living through WWII. I do not control my kids, but I am very careful of what they read and watch.. when they were children, and we lived in the USA we would go to the library and get 25 books each week. We looove books! But I still stand on my point that parents need to strongly supervise what kids watch at early ages. As soon as they go to college, I am done with my work and they are totally free to read what they want, but they had a mother that cared and supervised everything that went into their minds on their early years. It has worked perfectly so far. And I repeat, I respect your opinion, even though I do not agree with some of it. Have a good reading week. =)
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c'mon you guys! She is 15 and just asking if it is appropriate for her age. I will start this book and wonder if my teenager can read it too.
Appropriate? Why wouldn't it be appropriate, s/he was 15, not a child anymore. S/he should be able to do that decision for her/himself, s/he is going to be an adult soon with more important decisions to make.
Tytti, do you have teenagers at home? My teenagers read everything they want but still, there are some books I won't let them read. I do believe it is totally ok to ask.
I don't know anyone who would control what their teenagers are reading, my parents never did, nor the parents of my friends, nor my friends who are parents. That would be considered very strange as would be asking that question, even their friends would laugh at them, they wouldn't even understand the question, I don't either. Maybe if the child was about 9 that would be understandable but not when they are teenagers... Besides, I went to school with people who had already moved out of home and living on their own in another town when they were 16, some were still 15.
Tytti maybe we live in different worlds then. I do supervise what my children read. So if your teenager wants to read 50 shades of grey, would you let him/her? Just wondering.
Why wouldn't I let them? Besides, they wouldn't even ask my permission to read a book, no one does that. It's not like I could stop them, either, if they really wanted to read it, they would just get it from the library. What I have heard about it is that it's so badly written that it's ridiculous and even the sex scenes are not very sexy and actually pretty lame, so I would only hope they would have a better taste than that. Also as teenagers they are soon expected to make decisions about their own sex life (and education etc.), whether they want to have sex and when and with whom, so not letting them read a book about the subject would feel pretty strange. The worst thing about the book seems to be that it misrepresents BDSM lifestyle and glorifies abusive behaviour but I believe they would recognise that, too. It's probably not the only book with equally bad characters, after all it's Twilight fanfiction. (And I read a discussion about the book from a teen forum, they were mainly girls, and this is exactly what they said about it, too. They were laughing at it and calling it softporn for sexually frustrated middle-aged housewives... Basically the book and its readers were a joke for them. They seemed to think that even erotica should be better written. )
And yes, I probably live in another world, we don't have helicopter parents and children are learning independence from an early age and also learning to control their own behaviour. As far as I know, reading a book has never hurt anyone seriously. Also my father lived through WWII as a child, saw enemy bombers over his home and heard them bombing a nearby town, so I guess his perspective was a bit different... Besides, I think the Game of Thrones TV series has the age limit at 16, so teenagers can legally watch it, too, it's even coming from a free channel and is available online.
Thank you for your input Tytii, I respect it even though my poinst of view are different. I do have a great admiration for people living through WWII. I do not control my kids, but I am very careful of what they read and watch.. when they were children, and we lived in the USA we would go to the library and get 25 books each week. We looove books! But I still stand on my point that parents need to strongly supervise what kids watch at early ages. As soon as they go to college, I am done with my work and they are totally free to read what they want, but they had a mother that cared and supervised everything that went into their minds on their early years. It has worked perfectly so far. And I repeat, I respect your opinion, even though I do not agree with some of it. Have a good reading week. =)
