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Did they have a great relationship? He treats her almost like a child. He's patronizing and seems to feel that his role is to save her. At the end of the book, Emira says that Alix was right about him.
I know she said that after finding out abput his next girlfriend but I still think it was a contrived problem knowing how many black or Asian women might prefer a white man and that’s not called a fetish or white women who prefer a brown or black man etc. it’s like saying a man who prefers blonds has a fetish of all things or women who prefer beards etc.
The issue is that Emira could never be sure about Kelley and his motives and that lingering question would always be there, undermining the foundation of their relationship.
I feel it was contrived frankly. If she'd been white and they had the same relationship people would have felt he was loving. Otherwise we creep into dangerous territory with any man who dates out of race or religion or culture.
To say the author contrived a problem that doesn't exist implies that this problem doesn't exist. The real issue is it does exist IRL for many people. The beauty of the story is that Kelley AND Alix were both right AND both wrong. And neither allowed Emira to make the choice for herself.
Thats well put Kaleitha. The problem exists for all kinds of women and in many instances (eg fat women, Asian women, young or old women etc). They dated each other. I just felt in this particular case, he really liked her as a person and as a girlfriend.
I felt Kelley really liked/loved her as well. I was so rooting for them. This whole fetish thing is really a personal, relational choice. No one knows your relationship better than you. It seems like Emira felt loved. No harm, no foul
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Did they have a great relationship? He treats her almost like a child. He's patronizing and seems to feel that his role is to save her. At the end of the book, Emira says that Alix was right about him.
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I know she said that after finding out abput his next girlfriend but I still think it was a contrived problem knowing how many black or Asian women might prefer a white man and that’s not called a fetish or white women who prefer a brown or black man etc. it’s like saying a man who prefers blonds has a fetish of all things or women who prefer beards etc.
The issue is that Emira could never be sure about Kelley and his motives and that lingering question would always be there, undermining the foundation of their relationship.
I feel it was contrived frankly. If she'd been white and they had the same relationship people would have felt he was loving. Otherwise we creep into dangerous territory with any man who dates out of race or religion or culture.
To say the author contrived a problem that doesn't exist implies that this problem doesn't exist. The real issue is it does exist IRL for many people. The beauty of the story is that Kelley AND Alix were both right AND both wrong. And neither allowed Emira to make the choice for herself.
Thats well put Kaleitha. The problem exists for all kinds of women and in many instances (eg fat women, Asian women, young or old women etc). They dated each other. I just felt in this particular case, he really liked her as a person and as a girlfriend.
I felt Kelley really liked/loved her as well. I was so rooting for them. This whole fetish thing is really a personal, relational choice. No one knows your relationship better than you. It seems like Emira felt loved. No harm, no foul
