The Adulting Gap: on the quiet pressure of feeling behind at adult life (non-fiction) > Likes and Comments

Hi all, I'm Ashok, a first-time author from Chennai. The Adulting Gap is a non-fiction book about a feeling many of us carry quietly: that everyone else has figured adult life out and we haven't. It argues that adulthood is a set of learnable skills nobody taught us, not a personality trait, and it covers the pressures that wear people down: money tension at home, marriage and in-law dynamics, caring for aging parents, raising kids in a digital world, and living with job insecurity. One chapter is about building a life that is sustainable rather than merely successful, so burnout is part of the conversation.

It is a self-help and life-skills book written with an Indian lens, not a clinical or therapeutic one, and it is no substitute for professional support.

Where to read it
- Kindle eBook (worldwide): https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GX2ZWNZF/
- Paperback, India and worldwide, via Pothi: https://store.pothi.com/book/ashok-ha...
- Paperback on Amazon outside India: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HJGTCYSM/
- The Amazon.in and Flipkart launch is in progress and coming soon.

Chapter 1 is free at https://www.ashokhariharan.com/

If you read it, an honest rating or review on Goodreads or Amazon would mean a lot. Critical feedback is welcome too.

Ashok wrote: "Hi all, I'm Ashok, a first-time author from Chennai. The Adulting Gap is a non-fiction book about a feeling many of us carry quietly: that everyone else has figured adult life out and we haven't. I..."

Dear Ashok,

I feel your pain! :( :)

I mean, yes, those are very important life skills, and in many cultures they are naturally taught by example ( strong nuclear family and extended family, religious teaching etc). However in the modern world, especially the Western half, the above are sometimes lacking, would you agree?

The result? Many of us feel like " blind little kittens", thrown into the deep end of a swimming pool... so I hope your book will help your readers to navigate the complexities of adult life :)

Jasmine

Hi Jasmine, thank you, that's kind of you. I agree: in many families these skills were passed down by example, through joint families and community, but that support looks different now, and many people, in India as much as in the West, end up working it out alone. That gap is what I wrote the book about. If you'd like a taste, Chapter 1 is free at https://www.ashokhariharan.com/