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I did not expect to fall this hard this fast.

Lessons in Balance by Sylvia Barry caught me completely off guard and I mean that in the most wonderful possible way. I picked it up thinking I was in for a sweet queer romance set in London and what I got was something so much richer and more layered and more emotionally complex than that description could ever capture.

Armand Demetrio is one of the most beautifully written characters I have encountered in romance fiction in a very long time. A man who finally has his life together and is terrified of it. A man whose past lurks around every corner of a city he loves. A man who is hiding something from the person he loves most while desperately wanting to open up. There is so much contradiction in Armand and Sylvia Barry holds all of it with such care and such precision that you ache for him from the very first page.

And then there is Lucas Barclay. Patient, warm, devoted, quietly growing his photography career and nurturing Armand's social media presence while waiting for his boyfriend to trust him with the truth. Lucas is the kind of fictional partner that makes you believe in love as a practice rather than just a feeling. He is doing the work every single day and watching him do it is one of the great pleasures of this book.

Together they are electric. Complicated. Real.

Now about the author. Sylvia Barry is and I am quoting directly here a seven foot tall auburn haired witch who lives in a lighthouse with five cats named Heathcliff in various spellings, collects sea glass, controls the weather, and cures her own meats. She converses with the ghost of her grandmother who takes the form of an apathetic pelican. She is most definitely a real person.

We love her already. Obviously.

Sylvia if you are in this discussion we want to hear from you directly. This community has fallen completely for Armand and Lucas and for you and we have things to celebrate and things to ask. Come find us

Sylvia I need to start by saying that Armand Demetrio is going to live in my heart for a very long time. The specific texture of his anxiety having everything he ever wanted and being convinced it is about to collapse is written with such accuracy and such tenderness that I felt seen in ways I did not expect from a romance novel. You wrote a character who is genuinely complex and genuinely lovable at the same time and that combination is rarer than it should be. Welcome to this community. We are so glad you and your lighthouse and your five Heathcliffs found us.

The London setting in this book is doing so much beautiful work. Every corner of the city that Armand loves becomes loaded with the weight of his past and Sylvia uses that tension between loving a place and being haunted by it to build atmosphere in a way that feels completely organic. London in this book is not just a backdrop. It is a character. And it is rendered with the kind of specific loving detail that makes you want to book a flight immediately.

Hello everybody! We are so excited to be here, looking forward to hearing your thoughts on our messy boys who we love so much!

The title Lessons in Balance is working on so many levels simultaneously and I want to talk about that for a moment. It is about Armand learning to balance his fear with his love. It is about Lucas balancing patience with his own needs. It is about both of them learning that a relationship is not a destination you arrive at but a practice you show up for every single day. Sylvia Barry built an entire philosophy of love into a three word title and executed it beautifully across every page.

Lucas Barclay is everything. I said what I said. The way he refuses to press Armand, chooses to trust the process, quietly nurtures both of their careers while holding space for his boyfriend to come to him when he is ready that is not passivity. That is active loving. That is wisdom. Sylvia wrote a male love interest with emotional intelligence and patience and genuine depth and I am never recovering from it. and the Literary Compass & Engagement Roadmap is really good and the fit for your book

Armand being described as flightier than a spooked horse is the most accurate and most charming character description I have encountered in recent romance fiction. Sylvia has a way with language that is simultaneously witty and emotionally precise and that combination runs through every page of this book. You laugh and then the next sentence makes you feel something deep in your chest. That tonal range is incredibly difficult to achieve and she does it effortlessly.

The parallel secret keeping between Armand and Lucas is what elevates this book above a standard romance for me. Both of them are hiding something. Both of them are desperate to open up and equally desperate not to. Watching them navigate that mutual vulnerability each waiting for the other to go first is both completely frustrating and completely true to how love actually works. Sylvia Barry understands the mechanics of intimacy at a very deep level and it shows in every scene they share.