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Thank you. As someone with BPD this is disgusting
I feel this book is for those who do not have the disorder who have to deal with those in close proximity who do have it and who are very abusive and manipulative. The book wasn't intended for those WITH BPD. It is not only difficult to be in close relationships with people with BPD, it can be deadly...not just as in someone with BPD kills the other physically but the person who doesn't have it can become so severely depressed, anxious, and self-doubting that they become suicidal or end up with a destroyed life because what is happening is so confusing and manipulative that reality is completely distorted. It is important for empaths to know that, although the borderline is human and deserves care, many times this care cannot come from anyone other than a professional and empaths need to walk away or risk severe damage. It seems clear to me what kind of BPD they are talking about. In addition, people with BPD are of course going to take offense to this.
I strongly agree with Nadine Nelson Manning
This book is for people who have loved ones with BPD. I wouldn't recommend to people with BPD for the many helpful reasons it explains in the book.
Nadine wrote: "I feel this book is for those who do not have the disorder who have to deal with those in close proximity who do have it and who are very abusive and manipulative. The book wasn't intended for thos..."
Borderlines can also be empaths.
Ingrid wrote: "This book is for people who have loved ones with BPD. I wouldn't recommend to people with BPD for the many helpful reasons it explains in the book."
Of course, but wouldn't you rather read something that accurately and compassionately addresses the condition your loved one(s) have and supports a mutually positive BPD/Non-BPD relationship?
I strongly agree with Nadine Nelson Manning
I strongly disagree with Nadine Nelson Manning
This book is written for those of us who love someone with BPD. It may be hard for you to read, but I related tremendously with this book.
I respectfully disagree with this review. I found that the authors actually really emphasized that the experience of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder does matter, is very valid, and completely real. They emphasize how both genetics and upbringing play a role in BPD and that for people with BPD it is very challenging. Throughout the book they interview people with BPD to share their perspectives and experiences. They also speak to people with BPD who have found some relief from their emotional pain through therapy and other means. I think it is very compassionate towards both those who have BPD and to those who live with someone who has BPD. Throughout the book they state that NOT ALL PEOPLE with BPD will exhibit all the traits mentioned in the book. I have lived with a family member who has BPD all of my life and I have found this book extremely helpful—I only wish I found this book earlier when I was in my youth. It has allowed me to have more compassion towards my family member and to have more understanding of their world. It is challenging to live with someone who has BPD—a hallmark of the disorder, from my experience and as written in this book, is impulsive bouts of anger that can sometimes be verbally abusive—I think this book needed to be written and I believe that it has helped many people.
Thank you for perfectly proving the author's point.
i completely disagree with this review. it didn't demonize individuals with BPD whatsoever, and is specifically designed for people who KNOWS someone close to them with BPD/displays BPD traits.
it's okay for everyone to respectfully agree with me. i will say that i don't even have BPD y'all, a close family member does, so you can stop projecting onto me like that. moreover, i'm not sure why it would 'perfectly prove' the authors' point IF I DID when the authors are not even qualified to discuss personality disorders in this context. i'm not saying there shouldn't be books for people who love someone with BPD; that is why i sought this one out. i am saying that they should be medically accurate and compassionate portrayals that are unbiased to both sides of the coin.
I found this book because I have become seriously depressed by trying to raise my daughter who has recently been diagnosed with BPD. I was so full of rage and hurt, but this book has helped me realize that my daughter is also suffering. This book has helped me to see her in a more compassionate light and helped me recognize where I was totally handling things in the complete wrong way. I think the book covers a wide range of BPD severities. I believe that people who find their way to this book will be able to recognize what applies to the person they know and love and what does not. I would love to find better books for parents specifically, maybe something more up to date. If you have any recommendations, I would love them!
Mary wrote: "I found this book because I have become seriously depressed by trying to raise my daughter who has recently been diagnosed with BPD. I was so full of rage and hurt, but this book has helped me real..."
hi mary! i really enjoyed your comment and i love that you are looking for the best ways to support your daughter while also setting appropriate boundaries for your own well being. i've heard good things about Understanding and Treating Borderline Personality Disorder: A Guide for Professionals and Families by John Gundersen. you might also find The Emotionally Sensitive Person: Finding Peace When Your Emotions Overwhelm You by Karyn Hall helpful. it isn't specifically about BPD, but it discusses hypersensitivity and could have some strategies for coping for both you and your daughter. i hope this helps.
For anyone suffering emotional abuse caused by a loved one with BPD, this book is fantastically helpful and encouraging. Please ignore this review, not every book is for every person.
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Thank you. As someone with BPD this is disgusting
I feel this book is for those who do not have the disorder who have to deal with those in close proximity who do have it and who are very abusive and manipulative. The book wasn't intended for those WITH BPD. It is not only difficult to be in close relationships with people with BPD, it can be deadly...not just as in someone with BPD kills the other physically but the person who doesn't have it can become so severely depressed, anxious, and self-doubting that they become suicidal or end up with a destroyed life because what is happening is so confusing and manipulative that reality is completely distorted. It is important for empaths to know that, although the borderline is human and deserves care, many times this care cannot come from anyone other than a professional and empaths need to walk away or risk severe damage. It seems clear to me what kind of BPD they are talking about. In addition, people with BPD are of course going to take offense to this.
I strongly agree with Nadine Nelson Manning
This book is for people who have loved ones with BPD. I wouldn't recommend to people with BPD for the many helpful reasons it explains in the book.
Nadine wrote: "I feel this book is for those who do not have the disorder who have to deal with those in close proximity who do have it and who are very abusive and manipulative. The book wasn't intended for thos..."Borderlines can also be empaths.
Ingrid wrote: "This book is for people who have loved ones with BPD. I wouldn't recommend to people with BPD for the many helpful reasons it explains in the book."Of course, but wouldn't you rather read something that accurately and compassionately addresses the condition your loved one(s) have and supports a mutually positive BPD/Non-BPD relationship?
I strongly agree with Nadine Nelson Manning
I strongly disagree with Nadine Nelson Manning
This book is written for those of us who love someone with BPD. It may be hard for you to read, but I related tremendously with this book.
I respectfully disagree with this review. I found that the authors actually really emphasized that the experience of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder does matter, is very valid, and completely real. They emphasize how both genetics and upbringing play a role in BPD and that for people with BPD it is very challenging. Throughout the book they interview people with BPD to share their perspectives and experiences. They also speak to people with BPD who have found some relief from their emotional pain through therapy and other means. I think it is very compassionate towards both those who have BPD and to those who live with someone who has BPD. Throughout the book they state that NOT ALL PEOPLE with BPD will exhibit all the traits mentioned in the book. I have lived with a family member who has BPD all of my life and I have found this book extremely helpful—I only wish I found this book earlier when I was in my youth. It has allowed me to have more compassion towards my family member and to have more understanding of their world. It is challenging to live with someone who has BPD—a hallmark of the disorder, from my experience and as written in this book, is impulsive bouts of anger that can sometimes be verbally abusive—I think this book needed to be written and I believe that it has helped many people.
Thank you for perfectly proving the author's point.
i completely disagree with this review. it didn't demonize individuals with BPD whatsoever, and is specifically designed for people who KNOWS someone close to them with BPD/displays BPD traits.
it's okay for everyone to respectfully agree with me. i will say that i don't even have BPD y'all, a close family member does, so you can stop projecting onto me like that. moreover, i'm not sure why it would 'perfectly prove' the authors' point IF I DID when the authors are not even qualified to discuss personality disorders in this context. i'm not saying there shouldn't be books for people who love someone with BPD; that is why i sought this one out. i am saying that they should be medically accurate and compassionate portrayals that are unbiased to both sides of the coin.
I found this book because I have become seriously depressed by trying to raise my daughter who has recently been diagnosed with BPD. I was so full of rage and hurt, but this book has helped me realize that my daughter is also suffering. This book has helped me to see her in a more compassionate light and helped me recognize where I was totally handling things in the complete wrong way. I think the book covers a wide range of BPD severities. I believe that people who find their way to this book will be able to recognize what applies to the person they know and love and what does not. I would love to find better books for parents specifically, maybe something more up to date. If you have any recommendations, I would love them!
Mary wrote: "I found this book because I have become seriously depressed by trying to raise my daughter who has recently been diagnosed with BPD. I was so full of rage and hurt, but this book has helped me real..."hi mary! i really enjoyed your comment and i love that you are looking for the best ways to support your daughter while also setting appropriate boundaries for your own well being. i've heard good things about Understanding and Treating Borderline Personality Disorder: A Guide for Professionals and Families by John Gundersen. you might also find The Emotionally Sensitive Person: Finding Peace When Your Emotions Overwhelm You by Karyn Hall helpful. it isn't specifically about BPD, but it discusses hypersensitivity and could have some strategies for coping for both you and your daughter. i hope this helps.
For anyone suffering emotional abuse caused by a loved one with BPD, this book is fantastically helpful and encouraging. Please ignore this review, not every book is for every person.
