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To start off, can we keep this nice not only for me but for other poeple that are here? So I know some people don't like this but if you are to comment please be nice. So I'm talking to a girl as a girl and I've been really coming to terms with my sexuality but its hard sometimes because of the things I have heard people say not only about me and my sexuality but others. I am bi atm but men for me recently have not been it so its mainly just been wemon, but i would like to hear everybody elses thoughts and opinions about this (NICE thought and opinions ofc)

Dude yes being anywhere on the not-straight spectrum is 100% okay, it's an entirely natural biological thing.

Over 1500 animal species practice homosexuality. And your sexuality isn't even a choice, no matter if you're gay or straight or bi or aroace etc. See this article: https://digitalcommons.pcom.edu/cgi/v...

Barnette ⋆˙⟡ (my girlfriend's version) wrote: "Dude yes being anywhere on the not-straight spectrum is 100% okay, it's an entirely natural biological thing.

Over 1500 animal species practice homosexuality. And your sexuality isn't even a choi..."

Thank you so so much! Its been some hard times

Absolutely, it's ok! It took me a long time to figure out my sexuality, and it truly is a spectrum, so you may feel more strongly towards women or men at different times. I totally get that it can be hard, but it's nothing you can control, and I may go so far as to say it's something to celebrate!

Sam wrote: "Absolutely, it's ok! It took me a long time to figure out my sexuality, and it truly is a spectrum, so you may feel more strongly towards women or men at different times. I totally get that it can ..."

Aww thank you!! I would also go so far as to say it's something to celebrate as well!

absolutely girl! It’s not a choice, it’s a lifestyle! Love ur life and nobody can tell you not to. ❤️ = ❤️

caroline (the smol bean) wrote: "absolutely girl! It’s not a choice, it’s a lifestyle! Love ur life and nobody can tell you not to. ❤️ = ❤️"

Thank you so much!!

of course it is 🫶

yes ofc !!! it's completely normal, and if it's what makes you happy then why not? took me 2 years to figure out my sexuality (don't ask i somehow forgot about it) so don't feel pressured to know it all, you can take time to figure out what labels you feel comfortable with. <33

Jaiden wrote: "To start off, can we keep this nice not only for me but for other poeple that are here? So I know some people don't like this but if you are to comment please be nice. So I'm talking to a girl as a..."

Your choices do not affect other people! As long as you're happy, thats what matters. It's ok! ❤

Yes of course it is

Dont let anyone tell you otherwise

IMO it’s stupid to think it’s not okay or wrong saying something you were born with is a sin is like saying the urge of eating food when your hungry is a sin

Okay so like, I’m gonna be honest here—I don’t agree with what everyone’s saying. I personally think sexuality is a choice, and it’s not something you’re just born with. That’s just how I see it. I feel like people act like it’s this fixed thing, but honestly, people change all the time. You can choose who you want to be with and what feels right for you.
I’m not saying anyone’s wrong for living how they want—that’s totally their business—but I don’t think it’s fair to say it’s 100% natural or that you have zero control over it. To me, it’s more about decisions and preferences than something you’re born with.
I’m not trying to start drama or be rude, I just think it’s important that people can share different opinions without getting hate for it. So yeah, that’s my take. 💬

@Anna actually sexuality you cannot change, but you can change how you present it to everyone else! you can identify as bi, lesbian, pan, whatever you want but that doesn't change who you're attracted to. that's just a label that you find most fitting for how you feel. and it is something you're born with! i can link some studies if you'd like <3
just like straight people didn't suddenly wake up an decide to be straight, lesbians don't just randomly decide to like girls one day lol. you can't control who you're attracted to

Hey! I totally respect your opinion, but I see it differently. From a biblical standpoint, sexuality isn’t something we’re born with in the sense of being fixed—it’s about choices and actions. The Bible teaches that we’re called to live according to God’s design, and that includes how we express love and relationships.
I know a lot of people say “you can’t control attraction,” but Scripture emphasizes self-control and living by faith rather than feelings. So while feelings happen, what we do with them matters.
Not trying to start an argument—just sharing my perspective because you shared yours. 💜

Anna wrote: "Okay so like, I’m gonna be honest here—I don’t agree with what everyone’s saying. I personally think sexuality is a choice, and it’s not something you’re just born with. That’s just how I see it. I..."

Science proves this is incorrect! Sexuality is not a choice in any way.

"Sexual orientation is the result of a complex combination of one’s genes, environment, and hormones. As a result, not only is sexuality not a choice, but just as there are so many different colors, there are so many different sexual orientations beyond heterosexual, such as homosexual, bisexual, and pansexual, just to name a few. At the end of the day, sexual orientation is more like a giant web of endless possibilities as opposed to merely heterosexual or a sliding scale between heterosexual and homosexual."

See this article:

[https://digitalcommons.pcom.edu/cgi/v...]

Homosexual behavior is also observed in over 1500 species of animals, so it's entirely natural as well.
[https://www.nwf.org/Magazines/Nationa...]

Anna wrote: "Hey! I totally respect your opinion, but I see it differently. From a biblical standpoint, sexuality isn’t something we’re born with in the sense of being fixed—it’s about choices and actions. The ..."

We can make choices ad actions to identify a certain way, date who we want, etc. But we cannot choose what hormones and chemicals that run through our brains like dopamine, serotonin, norepinephrine, and oxytocin, which are many of the determining factors of attraction. See here: [https://rightasrain.uwmedicine.org/li...]

@Jaiden

Ofc it’s okay! dontblet others tell u otherwise

As a Femboy who is pangender (my birth sex is female) it can be quite discouraging/confusing when others don’t understand you or make fun of you based on who you’re attracted to. I have gotten lots of hate due to how I identify myself and I mainly just ignore it!

Some say that I can’t be a femboy because I am born female and how it doesn’t make any sense, I don’t yell at the people I just try to inform them or explain it differently to change their mind(s)
At the end of the day there are always going to be ppl who judge you but all YOU need to do is not let the haters get to u!!
I hope u stay safe 🫂 <3

You are who you are no matter what some a book or a person says.

i think its fine as a Christian. just because i dont agree with someones lifestyle doesn't mean i have to hate them

uhhhh of course??? go girl

Hey Of Course

Anna wrote: "Okay so like, I’m gonna be honest here—I don’t agree with what everyone’s saying. I personally think sexuality is a choice, and it’s not something you’re just born with. That’s just how I see it. I..."

Thank you for being nice about it! and ofc thats your opinion and thats 100% okay!

ophelia wrote: "i think its fine as a Christian. just because i dont agree with someones lifestyle doesn't mean i have to hate them"

Thank you!

cyd⭐️ wrote: "uhhhh of course??? go girl"

Ayyyy thank youuuu!

you be you girly
it literally took me two years to figure out my sexuality and to this day im still unsure of where i stand
it doesnt matter what the hell others think, just because they look down upon you doesnt mean to stop shining
there are many sexualities so please take your time to figure out which one suits you best

claire [semi-hiatus] {greek mythology nerd version} wrote: "you be you girly
it literally took me two years to figure out my sexuality and to this day im still unsure of where i stand
it doesnt matter what the hell others think, just because they look down ..."

Thank you so much! It means a lot

ophelia wrote: "i think its fine as a Christian. just because i dont agree with someones lifestyle doesn't mean i have to hate them"

Being Lgbtq isn't a lifestyle, it's part of your being. Like having brown hair or green eyes. It's not a choice or a certain way of living, it's just who you are

I'm glad that I just found this chat because I'm struggling to know it I'm straight or bi? Or maybe lesbian? If anyone wants to listen I'm more than happy to say why I'm struggling to know. maybe you guys could give advice?

I’m also struggling a bit because I recently found out I’m bi and I don’t know how to tell my friends and family even though I want to

If it helps I just flat out told my mum I may swing both ways and she looked at me before simply saying am I supposed to care? And that may seem mean but that’s her way of saying she doesn’t care what I am

Jaiden wrote: "To start off, can we keep this nice not only for me but for other poeple that are here? So I know some people don't like this but if you are to comment please be nice. So I'm talking to a girl as a..."

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