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Hey guys! I’m having a really hard time adjusting to college as someone who goes to a local community (mostly online) while all my old “friends” are away. I honestly have zero clue what I want to do with my life and I have no friends anymore.. everyone moved on with their own lives and I feel like i’m missing out on experiences, friendships, and wasting my time doing meaningless activities. I love reading but I just read fantasy as an escape and end up feeling like I gained nothing from my books. It’s hard for me to stay motivated and it sucks having to think about my future when I have no clue where to start. Does anyone have tips on how I can stop feeling this way or has anyone had a similar experience? I feel super alone right now so this is just a vent lol

I totally get how you feel, I went through something similar in college. It's normal to feel disconnected from old friends and to struggle to find your place. For me, diving into a hobby or starting something new really helped, like focusing on an Instagram page or even a YouTube channel. It can be a great way to motivate yourself and find new passions. Sending you support!.. and lots of love..

Maybe try connecting with more people on campus. They might have a book club or other organizations where you can meet like minded people. Check bulletin boards for upcoming events or club meetings being held. Its hard and sometimes scary, but you have to put yourself out there and open yourself to new experiences :)

This resonated with me.
Honestly, we all went through this. I went through this. The sad truth is most of your friends from high school won't stay your friends when you're an adult, living your life. This is the universes way off sending you on a new path.
TIPS: Hobbies help for sure. Sign up for a cooking class or dance class. Social media pages help too. BUT the trick is to move away from social media. You'll want to check in on your current friends. And all you'll see is them partying, going out, making new friends. (Friends that's not you). This will make you more depressed. Your slump will grow wider. See what I'm getting at🤩😁 Do something that draws your attention away from social media. Another tip: MAKE NEW FRIENDS✨✨ Friends that align with your current path. You'll feel happier, you'll be living your life. Best of all no more slump. This is exactly what I did. It worked well. My college friends saw how happy I was at home, with my family. They missed home, missed me, missed our little town. Going away to study so far from home isn't all it's cracked up to be. Trust me. I realized I was the lucky one. Change your perspective. And all will align. Sending you support and love.

Sending you hugs! I just finished reading a book about a homeless literature student who manipulates her way into a roof over her head, romance, and a career as a writer. Holy Phrog by Camren Walker 🙂 https://www.kobo.com/gb/en/ebook/holy...

I agree with what Liezl had to say, to add on to it.
Make friends in the real world. (similar interest.)
Once a lot of people throughout the years I have spoke with deleted their social media accounts & focused on their path. Their life got better.
All the time they used to spend death scrolling was altered into self~developmental routines.
Activities that made them feel better inside & out. (Group workouts, theater, art classes)
Instead of a constant comparison of what their life is not & how they wish it to be.

The true secret of change; is not fighting the old, but focusing on adapting the new.

You can also search on google or Chatgpt free activities in your area.
So you don't have to spend money on picking up a new hobby or at least an affordable one. Sometimes people give away old gear or sell it dirt cheap.

- Also to note: research neighborhood, recent crimes. Some criminals have exploited this once golden nugget. '

Me personally. What drew me in was that curiosity to connect with other human beings. Once you can reprogram your subconscious change becomes easier.
Music, movies, novellas, etc

Jae, I totally get how you feel. Honestly, college can feel super isolating, especially when everyone else seems to be living their “movie moment” away from home. But trust me—you’re not wasting your time. Community college is still progress, and you’re saving money while figuring things out (which is smart, btw).
A few tips:

Join a club or group (even online ones!)—book clubs, campus events, anything that gets you talking to people.
Try new hobbies offline—cooking, journaling, or even volunteering. It helps shift focus from social media comparisons.
Set small goals—like finishing a book and writing a mini review, or learning one new skill. It makes life feel less “stuck.”
And honestly? Feeling lost is normal. Most people don’t have it all figured out, even if it looks that way online.