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And then there's the feeling of being invisible in old age. My mother often commented on that a lot and also hated the way senior citizens were often represented on television as incapable losers or idiots.
Totally agree! Rebecca wrote: "And then there's the feeling of being invisible in old age. My mother often commented on that a lot and also hated the way senior citizens were often represented on television as incapable losers o..."
I can relate with the kids growing up and getting into their own lives. Most Moms that worked and still tried to get a conversation with their children, before they took off out the door. Sometimes they'd dismiss the talking, thinking we Mom's were prying into their new social lives. When all we want is a little bit of time with them. As I got older and realized my job was sort of done with them. But that was right far from the truth. They needed a ridehere and there. In a way, we're too tired to be running around, but happy to do it anyway. Just for that chance to talk, "Who's this new friend I'm running from one end of town to the other side of town. My son would talk about the new girl he'd met. And, my daughter would be more secretive. I did feel alone and empty. But then I'd remember how I had done it to my own Mom. It's just life itself.
Jeannine, I'm so feeling that right now with my kids who are so busy with their own lives and definitely their own people. It's very bittersweet, isn't it? Jeannine wrote: "I can relate with the kids growing up and getting into their own lives. Most Moms that worked and still tried to get a conversation with their children, before they took off out the door. Sometimes..."
I'm really moved by this reflection and discussion. A lot of us feel like we have to disappear in order to fully commit to and love our children. But as a newish parent, I'm discovering how my daughter learns to take care of herself by watching my own identity and spirit flourish. This is obviously a heavily-ingrained, multigenerational issue but the more we talk about it, the easier it will be to be honest with ourselves and heal. Thanks so much, Angie, for reading and remembering the "missing-person" metaphor. You are gracious, brilliant, and inspiring! And it was such an honor to sit with you at Tucson!
Yes! I love the continuation of the discussion your book allows us to begin and continue to explore! I loved our discussion at Tucson and I'm excited for many many more discussions to come....Nancy wrote: "I'm really moved by this reflection and discussion. A lot of us feel like we have to disappear in order to fully commit to and love our children. But as a newish parent, I'm discovering how my daug..."
Likewise! Thank you so much for your support, Angie.
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Totally agree! Rebecca wrote: "And then there's the feeling of being invisible in old age. My mother often commented on that a lot and also hated the way senior citizens were often represented on television as incapable losers o..."
I can relate with the kids growing up and getting into their own lives. Most Moms that worked and still tried to get a conversation with their children, before they took off out the door. Sometimes they'd dismiss the talking, thinking we Mom's were prying into their new social lives. When all we want is a little bit of time with them. As I got older and realized my job was sort of done with them. But that was right far from the truth. They needed a ridehere and there. In a way, we're too tired to be running around, but happy to do it anyway. Just for that chance to talk, "Who's this new friend I'm running from one end of town to the other side of town. My son would talk about the new girl he'd met. And, my daughter would be more secretive. I did feel alone and empty. But then I'd remember how I had done it to my own Mom. It's just life itself.
Jeannine, I'm so feeling that right now with my kids who are so busy with their own lives and definitely their own people. It's very bittersweet, isn't it? Jeannine wrote: "I can relate with the kids growing up and getting into their own lives. Most Moms that worked and still tried to get a conversation with their children, before they took off out the door. Sometimes..."
I'm really moved by this reflection and discussion. A lot of us feel like we have to disappear in order to fully commit to and love our children. But as a newish parent, I'm discovering how my daughter learns to take care of herself by watching my own identity and spirit flourish. This is obviously a heavily-ingrained, multigenerational issue but the more we talk about it, the easier it will be to be honest with ourselves and heal. Thanks so much, Angie, for reading and remembering the "missing-person" metaphor. You are gracious, brilliant, and inspiring! And it was such an honor to sit with you at Tucson!
Yes! I love the continuation of the discussion your book allows us to begin and continue to explore! I loved our discussion at Tucson and I'm excited for many many more discussions to come....Nancy wrote: "I'm really moved by this reflection and discussion. A lot of us feel like we have to disappear in order to fully commit to and love our children. But as a newish parent, I'm discovering how my daug..."
Likewise! Thank you so much for your support, Angie.
