Questions About Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

by Henry Cloud (Goodreads Author)

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I want to read this book, but I'm wondering: Can anyone recommend something with a similar message but with a less overtly Christin perspective? I want to buy it for a friend who isn't Christian, and from the preview I saw the information seems solid but it mentions God and the Bible pretty constantly so I'm wondering if there's something a little more toned down.

Catharine As a non-christian who experienced religious abuse from people who used the bible as a spiritual weapon when I was younger, I gotta say I completely d…moreAs a non-christian who experienced religious abuse from people who used the bible as a spiritual weapon when I was younger, I gotta say I completely disagree with everyone saying this book is fine for non-christians.. It was not easy at all to simply overlook the religious parts. I can do that when it comes up in other contexts in my life. But not when I'm trying to read a book to help me with healing vulnerable problems. I can't tell you what book would be better, but I can say it depends on a person's history and experience with the bible as to whether or not this book would be appropriate for them.(less)

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does it make good reading?

Mark Some good, but with a deceptive title. If you want "Boundaries for Fundamentalist Christians" then I'd say yes, it's great reading. Many solid concept…moreSome good, but with a deceptive title. If you want "Boundaries for Fundamentalist Christians" then I'd say yes, it's great reading. Many solid concepts are here. But if you want Boundaries without bashing gays and other concepts directly from fundamental Christianity, it's a LOT OF WORK to get the concepts, and one may have to wade through anger of his highly specific fundamentalist values (when he did NOT make that clear in the title). For example, he lumped gays with all sexual deviants. WTH? It may match his values, but he should have called it Boundaries for Fundamentalist Christians... THEN I'd have no issue with it.(less)

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I did not find this as a religious based book but a book to help determine appropriate boundaries I would put under psychology not christian?

Stephanie Phillips I agree with Jennifer. There is a very clear emphasis on the Bible and Biblical passages are quoted throughout the book to back up the points raised. …moreI agree with Jennifer. There is a very clear emphasis on the Bible and Biblical passages are quoted throughout the book to back up the points raised. I think it's great for people who are Christians because it raises some significant things that I've heard from multiple people (basically, arguments that people should ignore their own needs and violate their own boundaries because of something in the Bible), but it definitely has an extremely clear Biblical basis.(less)

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Does "Boundaries" ever finish the story of the woman whose life was a disaster at the beginning? I keep waiting for the book to touch back into her story, as self-help books often do, but it hasn't happened yet.