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Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life

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by Susan David (Goodreads Author)

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Is anyone else bothered about the opening story about the 35,000 ton dreadnaught class British battleship? Maybe it's because I am student of naval history that it bothers me because dreadnaught class battleships were only half this size. Maybe it's a minor point, but it undermines the confidence I have in what I will read further in the book when the author doesn't fact check something as easy as this. Thoughts?
Susan David Hi Don,

The introduction is written with humorous intention. Please see the notes at the back as that will help with the background to the story. Thank…moreHi Don,

The introduction is written with humorous intention. Please see the notes at the back as that will help with the background to the story. Thank you for your interest!

Warmly,

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From the book I understood that it's not helpful to brooding or bottling but what is the solution then? Today I was sad and upset, I didn’t want to get stuck on my feelings because that would have been brooding but I didn’t want to get over my thoughts and feelings because that would have been bottling . I mean it seems difficult not to be on one of those sides, or is difficult to understand what is the healthy way.
Aaron Kelley Based on my experience reading this book, instead of brooding or bottling, we are to show up to our feelings. To me this means accepting how we feel w…moreBased on my experience reading this book, instead of brooding or bottling, we are to show up to our feelings. To me this means accepting how we feel without placing labels on our feelings that degrade us further. For example, accepting that you feel sad or upset. Then moving toward a wider perspective understanding why you're sad or upset, and reviewing your past to recall instances where you've been here before and putting that knowledge together to work through and beyond your feelings.

This is an extreme oversimplification, but I think the process goes something like this:

1. I feel sad
2. I feel sad because X happen.
3. I've dealt with similar instances of sadness in the past and I'm still here
4. I will be OK.

Again, it's an oversimplification but I think it's the general process. To accept your feelings, bring your experiences to it without judgment or comparison and to move past it.

I hope this is helpful, and more people offer answers.(less)
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Just when I thought I was really "in touch" emotionally, I have been awakened to the idea that there is more for me to discover about emotion. I took the free quiz Susan David has provided to promote her new book, Emotional Agility. I now realize I want to train myself to come to my inner world - thoughts, emotions, experiences and self-stories - with courage, compassion and curiosity. Do you like the quiz?
Susan David Thank you for this kind note. For those who are interested, the quiz that is mentioned here is a free, quick quiz, that generates 10-page personalized…moreThank you for this kind note. For those who are interested, the quiz that is mentioned here is a free, quick quiz, that generates 10-page personalized report on your Emotional Agility. It can be found on my website at: susandavid.com/learn.(less)
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