Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

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by Lindsay C. Gibson

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Is this book about recognizing & forgiving & changing or is it about analyzing & shifting the pain back onto others? I am interested in healing of the entire family- not just for me.
Gryffin One thing this book tries to tell is that people can not heal their parents. To keep yourself mentally healthy, you should detach from your parents or…moreOne thing this book tries to tell is that people can not heal their parents. To keep yourself mentally healthy, you should detach from your parents or make the border clear. So maybe this book cannot help heal the entire family.
Some sentences in this book do seem to assume the adult child is 100 percent mature. It's not always true (not true with me). But in my experience I agree with this idea. As an adult child, I am still easily emotionally affected by my parents, because they are my parents. Some kind of detaching from them helped me get more influences from other people, think independently and differently, and hopefully become a more emotionally mature person.
Whether it's about emotional maturity or not, it's hard to heal people if they don't think they have anything wrong.(less)
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Is it worth the read?
Cindy In a word, Yes. So worth it and so easy to read. Wish I'd read it years ago....would've answered so many questions.…moreIn a word, Yes. So worth it and so easy to read. Wish I'd read it years ago....would've answered so many questions.(less)
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Does this book include emotionally violent parents? From the description, it seems it mostly covers irresponsible/distant parents but not necessarily verbal abuse, manipulation and that kind of stuff.
Atiyeh Not really. In a few parts, for example, the author wrote about immature parents who punish their children when they see their children's true emotion…moreNot really. In a few parts, for example, the author wrote about immature parents who punish their children when they see their children's true emotions. However, punishing and abusing kids have been not fully written in this book.(less)
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Does this deal with the legacy of more substantial abuse? "Immature" doesn't seem like it applies to situations like beating and captivity.
Jordan Amy No, it doesn't deal with that. It's about emotional issues, not more direct physical abuse. I'd recommend No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, and Intern…moreNo, it doesn't deal with that. It's about emotional issues, not more direct physical abuse. I'd recommend No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, and Internal Family Systems therapy - based on my research and experience, it seems to be the most effective at dealing with serious childhood issues like that. It's worked wonders for more than one of my friends. Good luck and I hope you find what you need!(less)
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