I’m going to be a dad for a second
This has been on my mind for the last few days, as I’ve watched a loud and determined bunch of unhappy people do their best to make happy and successful people feel as bad as they do.
Everyone who becomes a fully-functioning adult — every single one of us — goes through a time in our lives when we are a shit. The difference between shitty adults and awesome adults is growing out of that. Take charge of your life, and make changes to make yourself happier and improve your relationships with people who aren’t dickwagons.
Having committed to making those changes in your life, resist the urge to fall back with an old crowd who will drag you back into old patterns. Time you spend with people who are shits is time you are not spending with people who are awesome, and when an awesome person sees you with a shit, that’s one more awesome person who you didn’t have an opportunity to bring into your life.
Life is too short to be a shit, and you tend to attract to your life what you offer in return. So if you look around yourself and discover that you’re surrounded by shits, change that as quickly as you can. It may not be easy (in fact, it won’t be easy, at first), but I promise you that you’ll be happier when you do.
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Words of wisdom, thanks Dad!
Sadly, one man's dickwagon is another man's pope-mobile.
Good advice. And maybe letting the dickwagon know why are ending whatever you had with them will someday (happening over and over again) they will realize they are the dickwagon...and change?Cheers!
Thanks Will, it's nice to have confirmation that i have done the right thing. Changing your "people" influences is very difficult but each completion of growth away from negative has rewards of positive and healthier relationships that help us grow into stronger positive people.
Wil, this should be part of every high school graduation ceremony in the country! Well said, sir, and very, very true. I think it does take a certain amount of maturity to recognize the dickwagons in one's life, but knowing that there will be some dickwagons and some awesome people, can help you recognize one from the other. Also, being allowed to be a shit when you are young IS important. We can't grow from nothing. I can see it now.....Wil Wheaton's high school graduation speech.....Kids, you can be a shit, and you've been shits for the last four years. And, you may have had some dickwagons for friends. Now it's time to grow up and stop being a shit. Cut the dickwagons loose, and find some awesome people to have in your life. And, above all, even though you've been a shit and it was okay in high school, as an adult, remember, don't be a dick.
