This is a quote from author Amy Joy. I’ve been pondering what she meant by it. I’m not 100% sure if I’m right, but I’ve found a meaning that applies to me.
I’ve always found I’m more reluctant to do anything (read a book, see a movie) if someone continually harangues me about doing it. I think some people can relate. After all, often our worst book memories are from those we were forced to read in school. They usually weren’t to our taste but were considered the ‘right’ ones for use in school. Let’s face it, they also usually weren’t exactly what I’d call lighthearted books either – Lord of the Flies, Animal Farm, 1984. Hardly relaxing reading!
Does imposing a book on someone with insistence that they read it do any good at all? Certainly, some people seemed to have been turned off reading entirely because they were forced to do it as a part of the school curriculum. But if we don’t tell our friends about the books we love will they ever read and discover that joy for themselves?
Perhaps the difference is in how we talk to them about our favourite books. If we just say, ‘You need to read this! Here it is!’ I don’t think that’s going to work, but if we don’t tell them to read it and just talk about how enjoyable we found it ourselves and how much was in it that we related to, perhaps our enthusiasm will be contagious. Then our friend can be credited with discovering it themselves, rather than reading it because we hounded them into it.
Published on March 31, 2014 15:44
I also agree about how you talk about it. The person needs to know WHY you think they will relate to it. I have read a lot of books and I have a lot of friends who read a lot, but I don't recommend every book I read to every person because I know this person doesn't like sex scenes, and that one doesn't like suspense, and this other one doesn't like historical fiction. You can't force someone to love a book as much as you love it, and if you are into something that they aren't, it's probably not a good idea to try to persuade them that they just need to try this one book. You'll be disappointed when they don't have the reaction you were looking for and they won't trust your judgment anymore. It's kind of like the old saying "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink." You can give a friend a book, but you can't make him/her read it or love it. They have to discover for themselves what speaks to them about that book.