What To Do When You’re Offended
I debated with myself for a long time before I decided to post this. I try to never post things that are controversial, but I can’t get this off my mind. Most of you know I’m a Christian. But I’m not really offended by much, and I let most things slide. I’m okay with people using the “f” word if they want, although I don’t personally use it. Most words don’t bother me, really. I do have issues with people using God’s name disrespectfully, but if it’s on their own blog or whatever, that’s their right. I’m not going to preach about it. LOL. But I saw something on Facebook that offended me so badly, that my face got hot and tears came to my eyes. It was so offensive toward God that I couldn’t believe someone posted it. Now here’s the question. Since I’m likely to see that kind of thing again (I’ve seen other things similar from this person), do I unfriend them? I don’t want to make a big issue of it, but I can’t stop thinking about what I saw. I never want to see it again. I have friends who are atheists and agnostics, and most of them wouldn’t post that, simply out of respect for others. Would this person even notice if I unfriend them? I don’t really know them that well anyway. I don’t ever want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but this hurt me down to the core. I can’t unsee what I saw. What should I do?
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Nanci, I think some people post things and don't really care about the impact it might make on other people. I love technology and the ability to connect with people online, but it has its downside for sure. I don't really consider this person a real friend, so they probably couldn't care less if I unfriended them. I'll probably do it.
Good for you. You are an intelligent, successful person who creates amazing stories that are enjoyed by so many people. Remember that and smile.
Thanks, Nanci! I appreciate your support. :)
I work in the education community (administrative level) and this area of internet communication is a "hot button" topic because of the concept of free speech. It's great to reach out to the world but often people forget that it is made up of individuals.
I closed my Facebook account because of this same kind of thing. I'd rather have a small group of friends who can certainly express their opinions but are still cognizant and respectful of the opinions and feelings of others within our group.
While I don't think you should close your account, I do think you should unfriend that person. Will they care? Did they care when they made those comments? It is more important to maintain your self respect and integrity than to allow anyone to insult it.