Life, the universe, and everything

31 years ago today I married Kelley for the first time. It had no legal force. In fact, where we got married—in the back garden of our Atlanta home—being queer, doing queer, was actively illegal.1 Exactly 20 years later, we got married again, this time with the full might of the State of Washington and the United States of America behind us.2

Those double rings carry the weight and joy of 42 years of love. Kelley is my life, my universe, my everything.

11 years ago: The second wedding31 years ago: The first weddingThe applicable law, Bowers vs Hardwick, was not reversed until 1998. I always called Kelley’s parents my outlaws, because they were witness to and did not attempt to prevent an illegal act. ︎Because, as the best 25th anniversary present ever (this one the anniversary of the day we met), SCOTUS struck down DOMA. ︎