It's time to start blaming the actual rapists
Trigger warning for rape, assault, battering, stalking.
Over and over it happens. You shouldn't have been drunk/drinking. You shouldn't have been there. You shouldn't have gone into his apartment/room. You shouldn't have dressed that way. (I mean you, granny, in your sexy flannel pastel birdie print floor length Lantz nightgown.)
It was you, person who was assaulted/battered/raped. You used your mysterious power for pain, dragged that man over, forced doors to open, close, lock as you made him batter you, as you forced his hands to lock around you, constrain you, and you continued to make him do all those other things that followed. It was all your fault. If you hadn't made him do it by your behavior, presentation, actions, he wouldn't have raped you. He's not that kind of guy. He wasn't in your house looking for someone to rape. He didn't approach you at the bar/club/restaurant/grocery story/playground because he was looking for someone to rape. He didn't follow you because he was looking for someone to rape. He didn't rape you because he wanted to rape. You came on to him. You dresses provocatively. You went to dinner with him and didn't put out. You dressed like a prostitute. You wanted it.
I have an idea. It doesn't matter who the one who was assaulted is; what condition s/he was in; how s/he was dressed; what social activities s/he was engaged in; whether s/he was married to the rapist; if s/he supposedly came on to that person.
The blame is with the rapist and only the rapist. Can we all say that together? The Blame Is With the Rapist.
Now let's go to our ignorant and disbelieving and shocked governmental and judicial officials, our prosecutors, and our law enforcement personnel, and to every loudmouth who sounds off on the subject and say
THE BLAME IS WITH THE RAPIST.
Over and over it happens. You shouldn't have been drunk/drinking. You shouldn't have been there. You shouldn't have gone into his apartment/room. You shouldn't have dressed that way. (I mean you, granny, in your sexy flannel pastel birdie print floor length Lantz nightgown.)
It was you, person who was assaulted/battered/raped. You used your mysterious power for pain, dragged that man over, forced doors to open, close, lock as you made him batter you, as you forced his hands to lock around you, constrain you, and you continued to make him do all those other things that followed. It was all your fault. If you hadn't made him do it by your behavior, presentation, actions, he wouldn't have raped you. He's not that kind of guy. He wasn't in your house looking for someone to rape. He didn't approach you at the bar/club/restaurant/grocery story/playground because he was looking for someone to rape. He didn't follow you because he was looking for someone to rape. He didn't rape you because he wanted to rape. You came on to him. You dresses provocatively. You went to dinner with him and didn't put out. You dressed like a prostitute. You wanted it.
I have an idea. It doesn't matter who the one who was assaulted is; what condition s/he was in; how s/he was dressed; what social activities s/he was engaged in; whether s/he was married to the rapist; if s/he supposedly came on to that person.
The blame is with the rapist and only the rapist. Can we all say that together? The Blame Is With the Rapist.
Now let's go to our ignorant and disbelieving and shocked governmental and judicial officials, our prosecutors, and our law enforcement personnel, and to every loudmouth who sounds off on the subject and say
THE BLAME IS WITH THE RAPIST.
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Grace
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Dec 20, 2011 11:01PM
And the way people talk is like the rapist had no choice! Any decent person is able to control themselves, no matter what the victim does.
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And notice these arguments are never used when it is a man being raped by another man. Then the rapist is evil incarnate.Sadly though, these same arguments are used in child abuse cases. And some times they are successful.
Grace wrote: "And the way people talk is like the rapist had no choice! Any decent person is able to control themselves, no matter what the victim does."Of course they can control themselves! Otherwise they would grab their victims in the middle of the frat, the livingroom, the bar, the street, and commit their crime right there! They wouldn't come up from behind or hide their faces; they wouldn't do all the things they do to conceal their crimes and lie when they've caught.
