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Hey there everyone,

You know that thing that happens sometimes, when you slowly drift out of contact with a friend? Something changes in your life, or maybe a few things, and you slowly start to see them less often. Call them less often. Talk less often.

And before you know it, it’s been *ages* since you’ve talked. And it just feels weird reaching out for no reason? And it feels weird reaching out when you *do* have a reason too, because then you worry that it seems like you only give them a...

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Published on August 09, 2018 02:13
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message 1: by Lupi (new)

Lupi Hello Pat,
I've only discovered you and by the videos and interviews I've seen, you seem like a genuine dude. I don't know, this may be just a bump in your life, a challenging one, that I know you can conquer. I am currently reading your KingKiller Chronicles and I am hooked!
Perhaps, you should write short stories :)

Lupi
P.S. in my eyes, fairweather fans will only complain when you post on your blog site...so...write stories! even short ones!


message 2: by Julia (new)

Julia Your posts are so genuine Mr. Rothfuss! Thank you, and I'm sorry that you are going through a rough time right now.

I went through something like you talk about at the beginning. In my life, I have *one* friend from school, one sibling, and a handful of family. Don't get me wrong... I have tons of "relatives", but the ones that I consider "family" are the few that still like me.

Here is my advice: reach out to the few people you believe to be genuine. In May I sent e-mails out to two former high school friends because they were having birthdays, and I got really positive responses from both of them and ran into one in town last month. I sent out a birthday text to one of my cousins who is the one person I think is still a good person out of everyone else who has alienated me, and he was really grateful to receive it.

My advice is to look out for the little people who have a positive impact on your life. Honestly for me, these are the cashiers at the grocery stores, taxi drivers, strangers who smile at me in a restaurant.

Please know that your books are having a very positive impact on my life, and I am proud to list them among my favourites! :)


message 3: by Lauren (new)

Lauren Baker Love you dude


message 4: by 5 Star Reader (new)

5 Star Reader Growing old sucks. Watching your loved one passed onto the next life takes a little piece of my soul everytime. Ahh old friend hope you write again soon.


message 5: by Brenda (new)

Brenda Lower Thanks so much for sharing. Life goes in cycles and sometimes I feel like that too. It takes courage- so thanks for letting us know.


message 6: by Lukáš C. (last edited Aug 12, 2018 09:51AM) (new)

Lukáš C. True… it is so weird...
Just about to read Your Wise Mans Fear and The slow Regard of silent things. Wanted to say you are doing a great job thus take all the time you need.
Wanted to ask You, I have seen a few short stories from the KGC published with another from different authors, Won´t you collect them and put them into a one book? I think it would be great to have this edition in our bookshelves next to your 3 main books and TSROTST, tbh.


message 7: by Brinn (new)

Brinn I don't mind waiting for day 3 to be published. I just wish we could get an update on when the book will be released. We know that he finished the story be for he published the first book, so why not tell the story his way instead of some TV series writers way. Making us wait for day 3 does not make Patrick Rothfuss a coward, and he is probably not finished as an author, but, I do think his readers deserve a real update plain and simple.


message 8: by Marcus (new)

Marcus Personally I think grim maunderings, the shape of the world, and impending mortality are what people ought to write about. For two important reasons: 1) because it does no good to keep that stuff in, and 2) because their things we all deal with. Either way, you’re definitely not alone.


message 9: by Dave (last edited Aug 13, 2018 06:50AM) (new)

Dave I just realized that I don't know how to make a heart on a keyboard.
All the carebear love to you, Pat.
Alt-3 : nope.
<3 there is that one, what about the other direction?
E> doesn't work
8> that might be close
Anyway, Be Excellent, Pat!
Thanks Julia: ❤💕💖💙


message 10: by Julia (new)

Julia Dave wrote: "I just realized that I don't know how to make a heart on a keyboard.
All the carebear love to you, Pat.
"


Right click and select "Emoji" from the top of the list... there are some hearts to choose from! ❤💕💖💙


message 11: by Kate (new)

Kate Berinhout Love this guy, man


message 12: by Julia (last edited Aug 13, 2018 09:48AM) (new)

Julia Dave wrote: "I just realized that I don't know how to make a heart on a keyboard."

😊


message 13: by Dawn (new)

Dawn Folley They,re not a lock; you just have to peer harder through the keyhole. Buy non serious non prescription reading glasses, then its your choice. Apparently I now look intelligent with them on the end of my nose. Laugh Mr Rothfuss, it's good for you. Grief and being orphanned are strange. Mortality, grey hairs ; Ha. I take my grief out from time to time and dust it off, and muse on the wonder of the parted and weep and tell my children stories. Thinking of you.


message 14: by Sam (new)

Sam Dear pat, im going trough exactly the same right now, just know that your words touched me knowing there's someone out there feeling the same. You are never alone, love you!


message 15: by Alta (last edited Aug 27, 2018 02:44PM) (new)

Alta Peter I just read your blog and it got me thinking. After my brother passed away, two years and five months ago at the age of 29, I've realized how difficult to me was to reach out to people after that. And it still is. It's like I got stuck in a place there are dementors flying all over my head. And once time passed, it became more and more difficult to talk to them. I would just ask myself: "What could I possibly say to them now?" I felt (and I still feel) I am such a different person they might not be able to recognize my true self in the person showing up in front of them. Sometimes, it's like I don't even remember how I used to be. It's like being stuck at the bottom of a deep well.

I am aware that talking about my struggles won't do any help, but I want you to know you are not alone.

With my brother's passing, I feel such a pressure thinking one day I will have to take care of my parents on my own. You are not alone! You are an amazing writer and there are so many around the world who love your work and the way your characters make them feel. I am pretty sure you are an even more amazing human being for those who know you personally.

From my experience, these kind of messages don't give one too much comfort, but it is better to share these feelings with you rather than just ignoring your post.

In the darkest times, what got me through the day was reading. Hiding away in worlds where other people wouldn't be able to find me. It was like having a hideout. There was a time after I lost my brother when I couldn't even read, or listen to music. I would just stay still for hours, feeling nothing at all. Since I had bills to pay, I forced myself to function (even though I felt like a fraud). But that's how I discovered your Kvothe; by having "forced" attempts to connect with people. Someone I was working with told me his son was crazy about these fantasy novels and that was all it took. I fell in love with Kvothe instantly: how determined he was, how full of life despite all the sufferings he'd been through. The way you dealt with sensitive issues, such that the feeling of loss and grief... I felt like someone was trying to reach out to me. For that time, your creation was my Narnia.

Don't feel to desolate about the fact that you need reading glasses. It's not a lock on the door, but rather the key that would grant you access to Narnia for a long period of time. Rather than keeping all these thoughts to yourself, you should be sharing your feelings with people who care about you. Because your readers do too!
Sending my love and please, don't be a stranger!


message 16: by Katelb1123 (new)

Katelb1123 Lupi wrote: "Hello Pat,
I've only discovered you and by the videos and interviews I've seen, you seem like a genuine dude. I don't know, this may be just a bump in your life, a challenging one, that I know you ..."


Lupi wrote: "Hello Pat,
I've only discovered you and by the videos and interviews I've seen, you seem like a genuine dude. I don't know, this may be just a bump in your life, a challenging one, that I know you ..."



message 17: by Katelb1123 (new)

Katelb1123 Read The Slow Regard of Silent Things, it is a masterpiece!


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