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Scene Structure: Printable Handout for Scene Analysis

Chapter number ____Scene number____
STRUCTURE:Point of view Character ____________________________Weather ____________________________Location ___________________________Date, day & Time ____________________Character’s scene goal:
Character’s motivation:
Scene conflict:

“Disaster” or What is achieved?:

ESSENTIAL ELEMENTS:(From The Scene Book by Sandra Scofield)

Event & EmotionWhat do the characters do and how do they feel?





Function:What does the scene reveal? What purpose does it show?





Structure:Describe the beginning, middle and end.





Pulse:
What about the scene is vibrant?

Want to Write Sexy? Week long online sex scene writing seminar

Dates: February 18-February 25, 2018. Cost: $35.00
Would you like to:Create satisfying sex scenes?Examine how  the best sex scenes are structured?Be sure to infuse your sex scenes with emotion?Make sure your sex scenes move the story forward?Are you:Totally new to writing sex scenes?Have some experience but looking for ways to punch your sexy writing up?Searching for an opportunity to brush up your skills?If you’re nodding yes to some or all of these questions, this online course may be for you. Taught by an erotic romance author and college writing professor, this course will be a combination of daily challenges, lessons, scene work-shopping, and instructor feedback.
Of course, all correspondence and submissions can remain anonymous.
Week long online sex scene writing seminar will be taught by me erotic romance author/college writing professor Isabelle Drake.

To sign up, or get more information, email: isabelle@isabelledrake.com.

Femdom back in the day: Thanks Ingrid Pitt for starting something awesome

Thanksgiving is awesome, family is great, shopping--online or actually in a store--it’s all wonderful stuff, but if you’re like me…sometimes you just need some sexy, over-the-top drama. If you're fan of classic vampire movies, campy horror, or sexy girls, you have to watch Hammer Film's, The Karnstein Trilogy.
This first one, The Vampire Lovers (1970), centers features a lesbian vampire who uses her awesomeness to lure young women to her. Not just any gorgeous vampire, but the courageous Ingrid Pitt, a woman who spent her childhood in a Nazi concentration camp.  It's based on the 1872 novella Carmilla by J. Sheridan LeFanu. Coolness from back in the day.
If you aren't a vampire classics fan, there’s another reason to watch this: to see if you think the girl on girl action is hot. Or, in this case, how hot. Maybe ask yourself why. What is it about two woman being sexual together--without a man--that’s so intriguing to mainstream audiences? In the past this scenario was a ‘naughty pleasure,’ something to be enjoyed but not taken seriously. However, in recent years, female-driven erotica and erotic romance has taken off. The popularity of cuckolding and femdom stories is also on the rise.
My thinking is that there are two reasons for this. Social media, the obvious one. Privacy and easy access afford the opportunity to enjoy, or experiment with, whatever intrigues. The second reason is the increase in younger readers. In the past, the typical age of the romance reader was about 30-60. Thanks to the popularity of YA books, and the creation of the new adult genre, younger women are reading romance--and women this age don’t want ‘the usual.’ Young women aren’t looking to reinforce their traditional values, they want to test boundaries. They want adventure. They seek vicarious thrills.
Readers of Pink Bow, my cuckolding story on Wattpad, are over 70% female and mostly under thirty. A story about a husband who arranges a ménage for his new wife is untraditional, to say the least, but with 31,000 reads, its definitely popular.  Have I gone off topic? No. Not at all. There’s a history for everything and this sexy, forward thinking, if campy, film is part of the history of female driven entertainment. Curious? Want to check these evil-but-gorgeous vampires? Start with the trailer. It isn't as awesome as it could be, but it gives you an idea of the treat you’ll be in for if you hunt down this 70’s classic No matter how you watch it, plan ahead: red wine and dark chocolate will be a must.

Giant Girls and the Men Who Want Them: Macrophilia, Fetish 101

According to Playboy and the recent Pornhub annual report, giantess women are the new big thing in fantasyland. The demand for macrophiliac images, videos, and stories are on the rise and show no sign of slowing.  

In case you’re not one of those typing in “giant woman porn” and hitting search, a macrogynophile is someone, usually a man, who is sexually attracted to a giant person, usually a woman. The word macrophilia translates to “lover of large.” The largeness is typically in height. Even though new giantess sites are now popping up all over the internet this passion isn’t new. Are you familiar with the ’58 movie, Attack of the 50 Foot Woman? You know the one about the beautiful woman who’s turned into a vengeful magnificent giant after encountering some aliens? Oddly sexy, right? How about the adventures of Tom Thumb--I mean the original from the Brothers Grimm. Weirdly intriguing.

Men who long for giant woman dream about being smothered by her huge breasts, squashed beneath her behemoth feet, or--a special subfantasy of the giantess crowd--vore--which is being eaten by this gorgeous gargantuan. Swallowed whole.

Why, you want to know? Other than the obvious, the idea of being overtaken by a giant woman is kinky and unique, why would a guy be particularly excited by a giant woman? One theory is that because in most societies men are seen as powerful and dominant, they find the idea of being released from the pressure and responsibility that comes along with those assumptions both freeing and frightening. This combination ignites the fight or flight instinct and by choosing to fight, even in their imagination, they get an adrenaline rush. That leads to arousal and… You see? In this case the fear is safe--like the rush you get from watching a good horror movie. Another theory is that one often applied to kinks and fetishes. An adolescent experiences something non-sexual yet he is suddenly and inexplicably powerfully aroused, and so from that moment forward the person associates sexual arousal with the otherwise non-sexual experience or object.

Frequently there are BDSM themes or erotic humiliation elements woven into the giantess fantasies. According to sex therapist Pamela Supple, “Power, domination and vulnerability are at the heart of macrophilia."It's allowing your mind to go wherever it wants to go, whilst engaging in play to gain the maximum sexual arousal. Some want to feel and experience terror – being crushed or controlled. Everyone is different in what they want to experience." Supple also believes macrophilia has enjoyed a massive surge in popularity in the past few years, citing the internet's crucial role in helping to both create and facilitate the fetish. And, in some cases, introducing the fetish to those who have been looking for a name for what they feel.

Obviously, this particular fantasy can be difficult to act out in real life, as 50 foot women are hard to find. However, there are some unusually tall women who specialize in catering to men who love them for their statuesque stature.



Women, if you’re feeling left out, and wonder if there is a parallel world where you get to fantasize about giant men, the answer is yes. It’s just not as common. The speculation on this is that there isn’t enough reality breaking to really give this traction. Men are already typically bigger, we’re accustomed to being somewhat smaller. So the step outside of the usual just isn’t that far. Still, if you’re one of the rare women who share this interest, check out https://giantesskatelyn.com/.

Never Have You Ever Ever, sex-positive game, home and office edition.

What do sweet tea, brownies, free books, prize boxes filled with sex toys, swag bags featuring sexy body chains from Unbound Boxes, and highly personal, potentially inappropriate questions about your sex life have in common? If you joined us at the raved about Lady Smut Blogger’sRTBooklover’s convention event, Never Have You Ever Ever, you already know the answer.
If you weren’t able to join us, no worries. You don’t have to wait until next year to play. Here is the Never Have You Ever Ever home and office edition. How do you play? They trusted me with the mic...

Gather a group of your friends.Do a trial run to make sure they know how to raise their hand. Do this by asking, “Do you want to play this highly personal and potentially inappropriate game?” Anyone who raises their hand is in. Now that they’re in, here are the rules:
You ask a question.If their answer is “yes,” they raise their hand.If their hand is up, they are still in the running to win.If their hand goes down, they’re out.
Variation: allow game players to rejoin if their subsequent answer are “yes.” To do this, they simply raise their hand to get back in. Later, you can switch to sudden death.Variation: add your own questions.
The first round is the sweetness round. Here, the sweetest of the sweet is revealed. The sweetness finalists who attended our RT event were gifted with a box of sex toys…but, maybe you could simply offer your winners the great, well-kept secret underground website that only very few people know about: PORNHUB.
Ready, set, read the questions to reveal the sweetest of the sweet.Raise your hand if you’ve had less than 2 sexual relationships in your whole life.Keep your hand up if you’ve NEVER given or received oral sex.Keep your hand up if you’ve NEVER EVER tried masturbating.Keep your hand up if you’re a vaginal virgin.Keep your hand up if you’ve NEVER EVER EVER French kissed someone.
The second round is the naughty round. Who among you has done…if not all, a lot. Same rules. Hand up for yes. Down for no. Again our RT finalists were gifted with an awesome box of sex toys. What should you give your winner? How about a pad of paper and a pen, so they can start writing some steamy romances for us all to read.Raise your hand if you’ve ever done any role-playing.Keep your hand up if you have any piercings below your neck.Keep your hand up if you’ve ever intentionally seduced someone.Keep your hand up if it’s not your bellybutton.Keep your hand up if you’ve ever gotten or given a lap dance.Keep your hand up if you’ve ever done any bondage or spanking.Keep your hand up if you’re a member of the mile high club.Keep your hand up if you’ve ever had sex with a younger person (by which we mean you were over the age of 30, and the person was at least 9 years younger).Keep your hand up if you’ve ever had anal sex.Keep your hand up if you’ve ever used a strap on toy .Keep your hand up if you’ve ever interacted with a stripper or stripper–male or female.Keep your hand up if you’ve ever had sex with more than one person at the same time?Keep your hand up if you have been, or been with, a unicorn.Keep your hand up if you’ve ever participated in an orgy.Keep your hand up if you have a rumpus room at home.
There you have it, the official, abbreviated home and office edition of the first ever Lady Smut sex-positive game.

Miss June

Scandals, Secrets, and Subversion: Why I'm hooked on CW's Riverdale

Die hard fans of Archie and Betty and Veronica Comics will either love or hate the CWs new series Riverdale. Aside from the characters names and appearances, pretty much the only thing that is consistent with the old school comic series is the setting--the small, idyllic, East coast, town of Riverdale. Most everything else everything is different and way more scandalous. The series pushes the boundaries for sure and, as a die hard vintage Archie Comics fan, I'm here to say I love it.**Spoiler warning: from here on out I will tell you some things about the story-line. Not enough to ruin it, only enough to entice you.The series starts with the death of Cheryl Blossom's brother, Jason Blossom. A suspicious death isn't scandalous but the near incestuous relationship between the twins it. Its hard to ignore the did they or didn't they questions the relationship provokes. Don't believe they'd put that on mainstream  TV? Check out this picture.Many of the relationships go beyond what you typically see in a teen series. All-American high school football player, Archie Andrews, and Mrs. Grundy, the music teacher, are making music. But not in the classroom.The characters are awesome too.Moose, a stereotypical dense jock in the 1950's Riverdale, is a more realistic, complex, and actualized human in this new version. He has a brief  fling with Kevin Keller who quickly moves on to the town's bad boy.  Who could blame Kevin? We've all fallen for the bad boy. At least in our minds.Is it wrong of me to think the brooding writer Jughead is hot?Vixen Veronica provides a continual vintage-inspired fashion show.Want more of the scoop? Check out the trailer for next week's episode:[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sUvAz...]

Spring is in the air...a basic primer on the female orgasm

Something you already know: the female orgasm is more (much more) complex than the male counterpart. See? You did already know that. Here are some things you may not.While men reach orgasm more quickly and frequently, 90% of the time as compared to the woman’s 25%, the male orgasm is usually shorter, reportedly less intense and requires a longer recovery time.Quick facts:26-32, estimated peak age for a woman’s sexuality, but equal amounts of research show sexual satisfaction is more connected to overall life satisfaction.relaxation, studies shows its single most important element in regard to reaching bliss.15-40 minutes, that’s the average length of time it takes for a woman to orgasm.women are much more likely to need a “reset” due to distraction or unexpected position changes during those 15-40 minutes.muscular contraction in the lower abdomen precedes the orgasm and can be used by a lover to determine whether a technique is getting the desired results.the labia deepens in color as blood flow increases, another signal lovers can watch for.too much clitoral stimulation is counterproductive as it becomes desensitized, yep--another factor for partners to consider.That list alone isn’t enough to make things complicated. Here's more: there are four types of female orgasms.Clitoral:With 8,000 nerve endings its no wonder this ultra sensitive spot is the most common way for women to achieve orgasm. Good news, stimulation there is quick and easy and works consistently. Less good news, the result is not as physically powerful as the other possibilities.Vaginal:While there is some controversy as to whether or not the G-spot exists, many women state that they have had an orgasm as a result of stimulation inside the vagina alone (excluding clitoral stimulation). The G-spot is an area, not a particular “spot,” of sensitive tissue. Achieving the big O this way can take longer and require more mixing it up via positions, but this type delivers legendary results. Never had a vaginal orgasm or lost touch with your G-spot? Consider trying Ben Wa Balls to tone up your interior. Blended:Ahhh…yes, the best of both worlds--clitoral and vaginal orgasms simultaneously. This mind-blowing experience is the longest lasting and most physically intense, but also the most difficult to achieve. The trick to achieving this Mecca of Satisfaction is persistence and patience. Lots of foreplay in the form of touching everywhere, kissing everywhere, and--dare I suggest it--gentle, intimate conversation.Multiple:Not to be confused with several orgasms that occur at different times in the same session, multiple orgasms occur one after the other, a roll of mind-melting pleasure. Not all women are cut out for this one, as the continual stimulation may not “work” for some; however, those who do achieve it reach their peak several times in a row, usually with altered positions. A possible method to increase your chances and avoid the over-stimulation that can prevent multiple orgasms, ask your partner to stroke your clit over a silk scarf or your panties.The female orgasm is in some ways the icing on the intimacy cake. It’s part of the process of that leads to pregnancy, but not a required part. So, its technically “unnecessary.”Ha! Says who? Scientists. What do they know?Okay, they do know a lot. But on this issue, they just might be wrong. I’d say the big O is necessary and ought to be on everyone’s holiday wish list. Thoughts? Shout out in the comments.

Why don't you? The appeal of Fifty Shades of Grey

“Why don’t you write something like Fifty Shades of Grey?”We romance writers get asked this question by friends and family. I have to admit this question puzzles me. Each time I’m asked I wonder:Do you mean, why don’t I write something about two people seeking love and connection?Do you mean, why don’t I write something erotic?Do you mean, why don’t I write something that pushes the boundaries of relationships?I only wonder these things because me asking them aloud would draw attention to the fact that the person asking the question hasn’t read any of my books. Of course, I don’t care whether or not the person has read my stuff but …well, I don’t want to make things awkward by pointing that out. Besides, as a writer, here’s the question that makes the most sense to me:Do you mean why don’t I write something that sells millions of copies and creates just as many devoted readers and fans?That one I don’t have an answer for. Nobody does. Many--many--of us writers have tried to figure out why that series in particular took off like that.
In my other life, I teach freshman composition at a college. We write essays, the standard sort that college freshman have been writing for years. Thesis statements, MLA formatting, research. All the usual stuff. One place where I get to mix things up is in the prompts. So, wondering what my students think of the 50 phenomenon, I include a prompt about the widespread popularity of the series. The prompt encourages the students to question the contrast between the book’s content, the relationship between the two characters, and the current wave of new feminism. Bottom line--why do women connect this book?As you might imagine, the prompt generates interest. After reading several essays I've found a distinct difference between the younger, 18-20, and older, 25-30 women in regard to Mr. Grey’s relationship appeal.
The younger women find him super romantic. They are drawn to the idea of having a man so dedicated to you that he is “interested” in every aspect of your life. They don’t find him stalky or boundary-crossing, they find him devoted. These younger women write very little about the sex; they write almost exclusively about the attentive relationship. It seems that while young women view career and societal contribution as essential and validating, they still long for a dedicated partner.The older women write about the sex. They are drawn to the idea of an extremely intense almost completely sexual relationship that has no emotional commitments. These women reflect that while they hope to have an emotionally intimate relationship in the future, they are, at present, busy with school and work and don’t have time to develop “that sort of thing” right now. This staying-single-longer, waiting-for-real-commitment life plan is on the rise,  but as noted above with the younger set, this older set seeks devotion. They simply define devotion in a different way.
If you’re one of the thousands, maybe millions, of people who've had this conversation--why is 50 so compelling--I’d love to hear what you think. Give a shout in the comments.

Bondage Rope Starter Guide: the busy woman’s cheat sheet on what to get to get what you want.

Thinking about buying some bondage rope? If you are, you won’t be alone this weekend.First time thinking about buying rope? Again, you won’t be alone this weekend.Headed to the hardware store because you want that rope - in - a - hurry?Sounds good. But you may want to think about what’s going to work best for you ahead of time. You know, to avoid that awkward moment when the helpful salesperson asks you what type you want then, in attempt to assist you better, asks you what you want it for. See what I mean? [image error] There are three things to consider.  FiberThink of fiber as the rope’s texture and appearance. It’s what the rope is made from, so fiber determines the look, texture, pliability, smell, and overall aesthetic. The four most common fibers used in bondage are hemp, jute, nylon and MFP.
Hemp RopeHemp Thanks to the fact that its natural, hemp offers great smell and texture. It’s soft but strong. It ‘breathes’ and bends, tucking itself into the contours of the body. The texture makes it easy to secure knots and this rope adjusts to varying tension levels.Bonus, it has great old-school appeal, making it easy to imagine you’re being bound by a pirate or roped by a cowboy.Notes on hemp:it can be put through the washer but looses strength with each washing.it looks wonderful in person but is hard to photograph.its more expensive than the other commonly used roped.
Jute
Jute, the other natural choice, is nearly the opposite of hemp. This fiber starts out very strong, sturdy and rough. This makes it a favorite of those who prefer edge in their rope play. That same firm texture makes it hold knots very well and photograph really well.Bonus, this rope is light and so travels well. And yes, it also has that old school appeal of hemp.Notes on jute:it has enough grip to stay in place, but not as much as hemp. As a result, careful tensioning is required when using jute.it can be tricky to wash and must be stretch dried to retain length.it requires careful selection when purchasing. Be sure to ask about the weave, as loosely woven jute will not last very long.
Nylon and MFP (multi-fiber polypropylene) These are manufactured, oil-based ropes, so cost quite a bit less than the natural alternatives. Because they are not natural, they maintain their round shape consistently and over a long period. They both wash easily and can be used in the water.Something to consider, they don’t hold body heat. As a result, some users find these feel less natural and say they fell disconnected from these ropes.Bonus, these fibers comes in many bright colors, are super shiny and photograph great.Notes on nylon and MFP:in regard to weight, they are about the same as jute.they are very strong.they can be tricky to use as they are slippery so tension can be difficult to control.
DiameterA good diameter to start with is between 4mm-8mm. 7mm and 8mm are frequently selected due to strength and comfort. Obviously, strength is very important when considering suspension. Also, the thicker ropes are easier on the skin and, as a result, are the better option for longer bondage sessions.Thickness impacts rope stiffness and weight. Thicker ropes are more stiff. The stiffer the rope is, the less pliable it is. Therefore, knots and intricate patterns can be difficult. Thicker ropes are also heavier and, consequently, more difficult to transport.
LengthIn regard to length, consider what the rope will be used for, ie, simple wrist ties or full body suspension, and the size of the person being bound.  The North American standard is about 30 feet, with 15 foot spares. The Japanese have a more complicated system of deciding rope length, basing the decision on the measurements of the rigger. The idea is to use a length that the rigger can work with easily and fluidly. That measurement is typically between 23 and 27 feet with 12.5 foot spares.Not buying any rope for yourself? No worries. In an effort to make this knowledge useful, take yourself to the opening of FIFTY this weekend, reread your tattered paperbacks, and check out what they use, see if you would have made the same selections.