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September 2, 2014
July 24, 2014
Back from the Hospital, Again.
Had an operation last friday, forgot to update y'all. Guess what, I'm not dead.
umbilical hernia operation-- belly button had a blowout, basically, and they had to stitch it back in place.
Ugh, lemme warn you away from Percocet. That stuff gave me panic attacks, dizzy spells, left me feeling depressed and disoriented and everything STILL tastes terrible despite me going colt turkey yesterday. Probably be Saturday before food stops tasting like soap.
Coinkidinkally, I understandably have one or two financial issues due to the unforseen expenditures of this little abdominal adventure... if you were looking to make a commission, buy a book, or just drop a donation in my paypal bin, now would be a great time to do it.
umbilical hernia operation-- belly button had a blowout, basically, and they had to stitch it back in place.
Ugh, lemme warn you away from Percocet. That stuff gave me panic attacks, dizzy spells, left me feeling depressed and disoriented and everything STILL tastes terrible despite me going colt turkey yesterday. Probably be Saturday before food stops tasting like soap.
Coinkidinkally, I understandably have one or two financial issues due to the unforseen expenditures of this little abdominal adventure... if you were looking to make a commission, buy a book, or just drop a donation in my paypal bin, now would be a great time to do it.
July 21, 2014
Dear Niece, Dear Nephew-in-law-to-be: Get the prenup.
You know, I find it interesting how people I know react to the idea of prenups. The same people who wouldn't let their children buy a TOASTER without a warrantee will tell their sons and daughters to marry with no binding legal protection whatsoever. She: "WHY do you want me to sign a prenup? Don't you trust me?" My response: IF you're so trustworthy, why are you so scared to sign a prenup? Either you don't trust HIM, or you got PLANS.
And yes, that goes for all you good Christian folk out there too. Divorce courts are full of people who swore "till death do us part." And the ratio of Christians in that group is the same as the general population. I personally know Christians with divorces. And sermonize all you want about it, we're talking boots-on-the-ground practicalities here.
Marital law in this country is a joke. A man can be faithfully married for decades, and the first news he gets that his wife has been cheating on him is when she serves him with divorce papers so she and her boyfriend can go "find themselves." 90% of all custody cases are decided in favor of the mother and the alimony decisions are just as ugly... the man is expected to stand there and take it while his ex-wife takes his house, his car, his kids, and screws her boyfriend in HIS BED while HE pays for it all.
(I find it really interesting that the women, especially, who get all disgruntled when you talk about prenups suddenly change their tune when they learn prenups were originally created to protect young women from unscrupulous men (the cliche'd "wealthy young heiress" scenario.) The hypocrisy of it stinks like a steaming pile of dog crap...)
And no matter how much I may believe in the soundness of a young couple's marriage, I STILL say get the prenup. Why? Because right now, at this very minute, there are people walking to and fro on this earth for whom it will be to their immense advantage and satisfaction to get your marriage legally attacked or annulled. Maybe they want your kids; Children's Protective Services might find it's easier to confiscate your children if your marriage contract has holes in it. Maybe they want to wreck your home out of envy or spite. Maybe it's part of their social agenda to throw marriage into disarray. Wild-eyed tinfoil hat territory? So was gay marriage twenty years ago. And marriage vows already hold less binding legal authority in this country today than pinky promise on a preschool playground.
And tell yourself whatever you like, you personally will go through low points. Terrible lows, where you will readily contemplate things you wouldn't even imagine doing today. It is to your advantage to know that, even at your lowest point in your marriage, somewhere sealed away in a safety deposit box is a legal guarantee that noone is going to walk away a "winner" if you decide to welsh out on your marriage.
And yes, that goes for all you good Christian folk out there too. Divorce courts are full of people who swore "till death do us part." And the ratio of Christians in that group is the same as the general population. I personally know Christians with divorces. And sermonize all you want about it, we're talking boots-on-the-ground practicalities here.
Marital law in this country is a joke. A man can be faithfully married for decades, and the first news he gets that his wife has been cheating on him is when she serves him with divorce papers so she and her boyfriend can go "find themselves." 90% of all custody cases are decided in favor of the mother and the alimony decisions are just as ugly... the man is expected to stand there and take it while his ex-wife takes his house, his car, his kids, and screws her boyfriend in HIS BED while HE pays for it all.
(I find it really interesting that the women, especially, who get all disgruntled when you talk about prenups suddenly change their tune when they learn prenups were originally created to protect young women from unscrupulous men (the cliche'd "wealthy young heiress" scenario.) The hypocrisy of it stinks like a steaming pile of dog crap...)
And no matter how much I may believe in the soundness of a young couple's marriage, I STILL say get the prenup. Why? Because right now, at this very minute, there are people walking to and fro on this earth for whom it will be to their immense advantage and satisfaction to get your marriage legally attacked or annulled. Maybe they want your kids; Children's Protective Services might find it's easier to confiscate your children if your marriage contract has holes in it. Maybe they want to wreck your home out of envy or spite. Maybe it's part of their social agenda to throw marriage into disarray. Wild-eyed tinfoil hat territory? So was gay marriage twenty years ago. And marriage vows already hold less binding legal authority in this country today than pinky promise on a preschool playground.
And tell yourself whatever you like, you personally will go through low points. Terrible lows, where you will readily contemplate things you wouldn't even imagine doing today. It is to your advantage to know that, even at your lowest point in your marriage, somewhere sealed away in a safety deposit box is a legal guarantee that noone is going to walk away a "winner" if you decide to welsh out on your marriage.
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