K. Kumar's Blog, page 24

Achieving Wellness Goals IV

If you accept your own limitations with regards to what you can possibly achieve with regards to wellness, than you are necessarily in the best position to achieve your wellness goals. If you start from a position where you don't compare yourself to others, where you don't begin with a projection of an image of yourself as a great athlete or body builder, then you are in the best position to achieve your wellness goals. If you begin at a point where you are not trying to use wellness as a mea...

Achieving Wellness Goals III

When one pursues a goal to lose weight or improve wellness, is it really about improving one's wellness or is it about a desire for other things? Is wellness an end in itself or a means to an end? We often don't think of wellness in these terms, it seems clear enough that being healthy and well is good in itself and does not need any great explanation.
But if you explore the issue a bit further, one's pursuit of wellness can often take on strange manifestations. In the first case, what does we...

Achieving Wellness Goals II

The way to achieve something, anything, is to set a goal. The best goals are objective goals that are easy to measure and verify. You need a goal to start, otherwise you'll never have the necessary direction and focus. When it comes to wellness, and specifically to weight loss, it is best to have a specific target weight and a time by which who need to achieve this goal.
By setting a specific weight and date by which to achieve the goal, you end up setting a measurable target, and the date add...

Resentment

In talking about things you can control and things that you cannot control, it is also necessary to speak of resentment: Source: GoogleResentment is strange idea, but it is such a destructive and consuming thing that it can have an outsized influence on the world we live in. I have felt resentment in my life, and I have made a more conscious effort to diffuse it when I sense it coming on. The unfortunate thing is that people are never taught about resentment and its destructive effects. What o...

What you Cannot Control...

There are things that a person can control and things that a person cannot control. I remember seeing a Venn diagram years back with two circles, one was labeled things that matter and the other was labeled things you can control. The overlapped section of the two circles was labeled things that you should focus on. Seeing that Venn diagram had a strong effect on me, it made sense at the time and I have tried to view the world through that mind frame. In short, you have to accept th...

The Past, Present, and Future

We must accept the past, present, and future for what it is-not what it was, is, and will be. That is the trick of language, the reality of life. The truth is that the past still hangs around in the present and plays its part in the future. There is no way to express this, there is no super tense in English that can encompass the past in the present and the future. We have this tendency in our language to separate these ideas out, but it is well played out trick. An idea lingers, a memory sta...

Rwanda and "Acts of Genocide"

I recently completed an excellent book, We Wish to Inform You Tomorrow We Will Be Killed With Our Families: Stories From Rwanda (Philip Gourevitch). If you want to try to get an understanding of what transpired in Rwanda 20 years ago, this is the book to read. This is a very difficult book, the intricate details of the massacre are really hard to process. Of particular interest to me was the role of the U.S. during and after the genocide.

I was not aware that UN had declared genocide a crime u...