Jennifer Senhaji's Blog, page 7
September 29, 2014
Foursomes-Chosing the Right Partners
Foursomes-- If you follow me, you know I love a good euphemism or double entendre, but in this post, I'm talking about casting. Finding the right number of characters for your readers to care about.
Four seems to be a magic number.
Here are some examples, from a romance writer's point of view:
Sexy in the City -We have Carrie, Samantha (my favorite), Charlotte, and Miranda. The main story line leans toward Carrie and Big finding their happily ever after, but if we didn't have the other three, the show would've been boring. We cared about all four women, their ups and their downs, and each played a vital role in the show with their own distinct personalities.
Big Bang Theory -We have Sheldon (my favorite), Leonard, Raj, and Howard. The main story line could also be the relationship between Leonard and Penny, but there is no show without Sheldon, Howard and Raj. All of these guys keep us in stiches and play so well off each other. I want to see Sheldon and Amy kiss, Howard and Bernadette finally have a baby, and Raj finally find his match.
Seinfeld -We have Jerry, George, Elaine and Kramer. Again, the main love story could be Jerry and Elaine, but without Kramer (my favorite) and George, the show would fall flat.
All of the above are wildly successful. I know this, and you know this.
My point?
When building your cast of characters, you may have "the Stars" of your show, but supporting characters are equally, if not vitally important.
In the examples above, each character has his/her own unique personality. That is also key. You can't have four characters that are all exactly alike. Each should have their own unique traits and flaws. They are there to challenge the others, to provide a fool to the straight man, and to give depth.
With a larger cast of characters, you give your readers a bigger pool of personalities to identify with. Too many characters, and you dilute the story, possibly confusing the reader. Too few, and you may lose a reader who can't identify with your hero/heroine.
There are many romance writers who know how to do this well. Melissa Foster, Patricia Eddy, Robyn Carr, Tami Lund and Rebekah Ganiere, to name a few. Each of these writers I've read, and each did an excellent job of introducing supporting characters that bring depth to the story and end up with their own books.
Look closely at your supporting characters. Give them a life, give them a story line, give them some depth and development.
The foursome could be your key to success.
By the way, I keep trying to convince my friend (photo above) to start her own shoe blog. I thought since I was mentioning Sex in the City, the photo would be appropriate.
Jennifer Senhaji
#YourSweetandSpicyRomanceAuthor
Find me online at www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com
September 22, 2014
Want to be a better writer? Hire an editor.
This weekend, I finished the final edits on my current WIP with the help of my new editor. During the process, I learned so much about what I do right and what I do wrong. All of it, even the realization that I have a serious aversion to the comma, was amazing.
The process of sending your baby off to be judged by a professional editor can be scary. We all doubt ourselves and fear that someone will come along and say, "You suck. You're terrible. Find another passion." But I am here to tell you that as a newbie writer, my editor's suggestions and corrections are pearls of wisdom and I'm soaking them all up like a sponge.
Maybe I'm lucky. I have heard that the relationship between writer and editor can be a tough one. I think, if you find the right person, someone who encourages you, someone who is there to help you succeed, then having an editor can only make you a better writer.
What are the different types of editors and what do they do? Read this article. It explains it all and just happens to be written by my new editor.
http://www.writingwenches.com/types-of-editing-and-when-to-use-them/
Here are some of the things I've learned about myself:
It's okay, not ok.
The comma, in compound sentences, still confuses me.
The word "just" tends to be a crutch.
Numbers under 100 should be spelled out.
If you have described something in dialogue, you don't also need to describe it in the narrative.
Repeating the same words, in the same sentence, or same paragraph, sounds awkward.
When writing dialogue in contemporary fiction, it's better to use contractions.
The way I see it, this is a learning process. I have always been the type of person who wants to be the best at whatever I attempt. A barista at a coffee house or an office executive - I've been both. And in each and every job I've ever had, I've always wanted to be the best.
Now with art, and writing is an art, there is no such thing as the best. People may argue, but writing, like any art, is subjective.
I do want to be the best writer I can be and that means constantly growing. I don't want the first book I ever write to be my masterpiece, I want the last book I ever write to by my masterpiece. I want to learn and reach and improve with each work I create.
I love my editor and value my editor and thank the stars I have found her, because she is going to help me become a better writer. I anxiously await her comments and suggestions. Yes, I am editing.
In the words of one of my favorite characters, I'm ready!
You can find me at www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com #amediting#amwriting
The process of sending your baby off to be judged by a professional editor can be scary. We all doubt ourselves and fear that someone will come along and say, "You suck. You're terrible. Find another passion." But I am here to tell you that as a newbie writer, my editor's suggestions and corrections are pearls of wisdom and I'm soaking them all up like a sponge.
Maybe I'm lucky. I have heard that the relationship between writer and editor can be a tough one. I think, if you find the right person, someone who encourages you, someone who is there to help you succeed, then having an editor can only make you a better writer.
What are the different types of editors and what do they do? Read this article. It explains it all and just happens to be written by my new editor.
http://www.writingwenches.com/types-of-editing-and-when-to-use-them/
Here are some of the things I've learned about myself:
It's okay, not ok.
The comma, in compound sentences, still confuses me.
The word "just" tends to be a crutch.
Numbers under 100 should be spelled out.
If you have described something in dialogue, you don't also need to describe it in the narrative.
Repeating the same words, in the same sentence, or same paragraph, sounds awkward.
When writing dialogue in contemporary fiction, it's better to use contractions.
The way I see it, this is a learning process. I have always been the type of person who wants to be the best at whatever I attempt. A barista at a coffee house or an office executive - I've been both. And in each and every job I've ever had, I've always wanted to be the best.
Now with art, and writing is an art, there is no such thing as the best. People may argue, but writing, like any art, is subjective.
I do want to be the best writer I can be and that means constantly growing. I don't want the first book I ever write to be my masterpiece, I want the last book I ever write to by my masterpiece. I want to learn and reach and improve with each work I create.
I love my editor and value my editor and thank the stars I have found her, because she is going to help me become a better writer. I anxiously await her comments and suggestions. Yes, I am editing.
In the words of one of my favorite characters, I'm ready!
You can find me at www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com #amediting#amwriting
September 15, 2014
Swoon Worthy Kisses
Swoon worthy kisses. Film makers have actors to bring those screen play kisses to life. Writers, have to find the passion in between the lines. For me, the kiss is all about the anticipation. The build up to the kiss is just as important as the actual kiss, in my opinion. The reaction, once the kiss is in progress is also important. Did his pulse race, did her lips swell, basically, did the kiss arouse. No one wants to read about a kiss that doesn't, or, at least, I don't. Here are some of my favorite film kisses with a couple of quick lines on the fly from me. Some Kind of Wonderful is my favorite movie from the 80's. I've watched this movie hundreds of times. The best part about this kiss is the build up. Best friends, one secretly in love with the other, and the moment Keith (Eric Stoltz) realizes Watts (Mary Stuart Masterson) is a woman and a great kisser. "An unexpected zing of electricity ran through my body at the touch of our lips." I like to make a point to acknowledge the stomach flips characters feel when they finally get that first kiss from someone they are truly attracted to. Originally the video clip for this kiss from YouTube was embedded here, but due to technicall difficulties had to be removed. Reality Bites is one of my favorite movies from the 90's, definitely in the top five. Love the music, love the movie, love it. Here we have two friends again, but both are fully aware of the other and the chemistry is palpable throughout the entire film. The best thing about this kiss, is that breath that Troy (Ethan Hawk) releases when he finally has Lelaina (Winona Ryder) in his arms. "I released the breath I was holding, at the sweet relief of finally connecting my lips to hers," would be my quick version of this.
Originally the video clip for this kiss from YouTube was embedded here, but due to technicall difficulties had to be removed.
The almost kiss is another type of scene where we see two characters barely restraining themselves. Secretly we hope one of them will break. The proposal scene, from the newest version of Pride and Prejudice, is a good example of this. Me. Darcy is awkwardly declaring his love, she is offended by his manner and rejecting him, but even though they are arguing and at each other's throat, the more angry they get, the more electrified the attraction. "Their breath mingled, desire pulling them together like magnets, against their better judgment," could be part of the description.
Originally the video clip for this kiss from YouTube was embedded here, but due to technicall difficulties had to be removed. Pure lust, a kiss between Colin Farrell and co-star Bridget Moynahan in The Recruit. Go check it out, I'll let this one speak for itself.
Originally the video clip for this kiss from YouTube was embedded here, but due to technicall difficulties had to be removed.
The almost painful kiss, not in terms of biting, but in tasting the forbidden fruit. Let's look at this one with Patrick Dempsey and Michelle Monaghan in Made of Honor. Watch Michelle's facial expressions. Listen to her breathing. Notice the eye contact. Originally the video clip for this kiss from YouTube was embedded here, but due to technicall difficulties had to be removed. There are so many more where these came from. When writing a kiss, you want the reader to be able to visualize the big moment based on your words, just as easily as watching it on screen. The common thread in all of the above; passion. Here is a little exercise for you writers. Pick either the scene from The Recruit or from Made of Honor, even if you haven't seen either film. Go to YouTube and watch each one. In the comments section below, write your description of that kiss. Come on, romance writers, make me swoon. I dare you. So I don't have to throw up a disclaimer, let's also keep it PG13. Thanks for reading. I look forward to your comments.
Originally the video clips for all the kisses above were embedded here, but due to technical difficulties had to be removed. Please go watch each one on YouTube if you get a chance. Jennifer Senhaji#YourSweetandSpicyRomanceAuthor Find me online at www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com
Originally the video clip for this kiss from YouTube was embedded here, but due to technicall difficulties had to be removed.
The almost kiss is another type of scene where we see two characters barely restraining themselves. Secretly we hope one of them will break. The proposal scene, from the newest version of Pride and Prejudice, is a good example of this. Me. Darcy is awkwardly declaring his love, she is offended by his manner and rejecting him, but even though they are arguing and at each other's throat, the more angry they get, the more electrified the attraction. "Their breath mingled, desire pulling them together like magnets, against their better judgment," could be part of the description.
Originally the video clip for this kiss from YouTube was embedded here, but due to technicall difficulties had to be removed. Pure lust, a kiss between Colin Farrell and co-star Bridget Moynahan in The Recruit. Go check it out, I'll let this one speak for itself.
Originally the video clip for this kiss from YouTube was embedded here, but due to technicall difficulties had to be removed.
The almost painful kiss, not in terms of biting, but in tasting the forbidden fruit. Let's look at this one with Patrick Dempsey and Michelle Monaghan in Made of Honor. Watch Michelle's facial expressions. Listen to her breathing. Notice the eye contact. Originally the video clip for this kiss from YouTube was embedded here, but due to technicall difficulties had to be removed. There are so many more where these came from. When writing a kiss, you want the reader to be able to visualize the big moment based on your words, just as easily as watching it on screen. The common thread in all of the above; passion. Here is a little exercise for you writers. Pick either the scene from The Recruit or from Made of Honor, even if you haven't seen either film. Go to YouTube and watch each one. In the comments section below, write your description of that kiss. Come on, romance writers, make me swoon. I dare you. So I don't have to throw up a disclaimer, let's also keep it PG13. Thanks for reading. I look forward to your comments.
Originally the video clips for all the kisses above were embedded here, but due to technical difficulties had to be removed. Please go watch each one on YouTube if you get a chance. Jennifer Senhaji#YourSweetandSpicyRomanceAuthor Find me online at www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com
September 8, 2014
A Moroccan Wedding
The beat of the drums, the scent of mint tea permeating the air, the rich and savory meats and the sweet almond filled pastries, the brilliant colors of the hand made caftans and takchitas, the comfort of a home away from home; Morocco can evoke these senses all at once. The smells, sounds, tastes, feel, and sight of so much beauty in one place is magical. Morocco is an exotic place to visit and yet the people there make you feel at home right away. I have been to Morocco several times, and there are still places I have yet to see. The architecture, the history, the coast, oh and did I mention the food.
Here are some pictures of my Moroccan family
celebrating my nephew's birthday. This is earlyin the day before the musicians arrived and beforemost of the guests arrived. I wanted to capture as many of the different caftans and takchitas I could before I was too caught up in the dancing. In the summer time, most people stay out and awake later than your average person. If it's not a party, it's a wedding. Weddings are most often hosted in outdoor tents built for the occasion in the bride's neighborhood. You an hear the music from blocks away, but no one complains. They acknowledge a wedding is taking place and somehow sleep through it.
Most events, birthdays, baby showers, engagement
parties, weddings are hosted at home, but it's notjust lunch or dinner. No. It is an all out celebration including live music, dancing, dinner, sometimes breakfast, since you can't let your party goers go home hungry and a display of the latest in Moroccan fashion. Most couples meet their future spouse at a party or wedding and these events are what make up the majority of your social life. 
In the summer time, most people stay out and awake later than your average person. If it's not a party, it's a wedding. Weddings are most often hosted in outdoor tents built for the occasion in the bride's neighborhood. You an hear the music from blocks away, but no one complains. They acknowledge a wedding is taking place and somehow sleep through it.
From my experience, a Moroccan wedding typically takes about 3 days to complete. First you have the wedding contract, hand written by the religious leader of the local mosque. Then you have the henna party, where the bride and usually most of the women in the family have their hands and feet decorated in beautiful henna tattoos. Next you have the actual wedding, that typically starts in the evening and can last all night long. The following morning, there may be a brunch or breakfast hosted by the in-laws. It is like having a three day party. You enjoy delicious food, amazing music (usually a live orchestra or band), and admire a gorgeous bride who changes outfits more times in the one night than most people do in a week.I have been to many Moroccan weddings over the years, including my own. Yep. I had a Moroccan wedding. Why you ask? Easy. I married a Moroccan in Morocco.
My wedding was planned for me. I didn't wear a white dress or walk down the isle on the arm of my father when I married my husband. I didn't have to worry about flowers or food or guest lists or even my own wedding dress. What I did have to do is show up. My mother, father, stepmother, my mother's best friend, and my daughter, all got on a plane to Rabat, Morocco. We had a small family wedding, as there had been a recent death in family, but it was amazing and I wouldn't change a thing. I did decide to bring one thing with me; an Indian sari, which many brides choose to include in their wedding wardrobe. In Morocco, the bride traditional changes seven times during the wedding ceremony, not to mention the changes she makes during the henna party. My wedding dress had already been made for me, but I've always loved how beautiful women look in a sari.
The wedding was wonderful. My hands and feet were decorated with henna tattoos, along with my mother, stepmother, daughter, mother in law, sisters in law, etc. Most importantly, the people I love most were there.
Rings were exchanged, along with the sharing of dates and milk. Then we were admired by all and gifted with dancing, food, laughs, hugs, and well wishes. The party continued all night and in my case we ended our celebration somewhere around 5am. Most weddings last until 7am or 8am the next day, but I was just fine going to bed when I did :)
My husband and I have been married for fourteen years. Since, I have been to many more Moroccan weddings, some here in the states, most in Morocco. If you ever have a chance to go to Morocco, I highly recommend it. If you go in the summer, you are sure to find yourself surrounded by weddings.How did I meet my husband? That is another story.
You can find me online at www.jennifersenhajiauthor,com
Thanks for reading.
September 1, 2014
Writing Wenches
Who are the #WritingWenches ? You have heard me mention them before, you have seen the hashtag on Facebook and Twitter, but you still have no idea what or who I am referring to.
I am proud to say, I am a Writing Wench.
You can enjoy a new post everyday by one of our talented wenches on our blog at http://writingwenches.wordpress.com/
We are writers and readers of every genre and are consistently pulling together the best that the literary world has to offer in the form of writing tips, author interviews and entertaining stories about life. We are well trained in the art of cheekiness, and are proud to serve up content that is both engaging and informative.
We reside in seafaring ports, idyllic rural spaces and urban enclaves across the globe—and our interests are as diverse as the places we live.
We call ourselves wenches because we throw ourselves into our craft with fiery determination and reckless abandon—but don’t let the name fool you—our status is not defined by gender!
With authors, editors and readers at your fingertips—be prepared for the most well-rounded literary experience on the web—and a whole lot of laughter along the way!
Currently, we are working on a holiday anthology that will be available for purchase this holiday season. My contribution to the anthology is a sweet and spicy romance entitled Angels in Disguise.
Angels in Disguise takes place on New Year's Eve when Gabe and his friends and Alex and her friends all head to a New Year's Eve music festival looking for a good time. Gabe, a self proclaimed connoisseur of women, is looking for a fun hookup and Alex, is a good girl, trying to reclaim her fun after a bad breakup. The two meet and soon friendly banter turns into an unexpected attraction. Who will end up with who at midnight? Who is the angel in disguise?
I never thought about writing a short story before, but the Writing Wenches have made it possible and together, we are publishing a boxed set of holiday stories.
Maybe the Writing Wenches are my Angels is Disguise.
#YourSweetandSpicyRomanceAuthor
You can stalk me online at www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com
Thanks for reading.
August 24, 2014
Sexy New Things
I took a long weekend with my husband and two kids, a mini vacation before school starts, in San Diego. While I was contemplating my Monday blog post, a couple things happened on this trip that I thought were extremely sexy. Everyone has different things that turn them on and I have several, but during this trip I found a couple new ones.
I witnessed my husband change a tire for the first time when we got a flat after a day at the beach. He pulled over, took out the spare and got to work while my kids and I stood next to the car and watched. He changed the tire with ease, on the side of the road, in like 10 minutes and I stood there thinking...hello sexy.
Spending a long weekend in San Diego, I played at three different beaches, over three days and spent most of my time riding the waves on my new boogie board. I've always wanted to learn how to surf, but haven't yet. I say "yet" now, instead of "never did" because after this past weekend, I think I might just get around to it. I had so much fun. And each time I walked out into the waves, with my board under one arm, skin sun kissed, I thought...damn I'm sexy.
Let me qualify this by saying, normally I do not feel sexy in my bikini at all, except when my husband ogles my boobs. Then I feel like I can conquer the world...oh yeah compliments from my husband are sexy.
No a bikini is not a comfortable look for me, but I felt sexy walking into the surf. And I felt sexy when I magically changed in and out of my bikini on the beach under my towel like a pro.
So yeah my husband surprised me and I surprised myself. Maybe I was a beach bum in a former life with a grease monkey man, who knows, but I found a couple of new things I think are sexy.
Find me online at www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com
On my website you will find all my links; Facebook, Twitter, Goodreads and more. Thank you for reading and feel free to leave a comment.
I witnessed my husband change a tire for the first time when we got a flat after a day at the beach. He pulled over, took out the spare and got to work while my kids and I stood next to the car and watched. He changed the tire with ease, on the side of the road, in like 10 minutes and I stood there thinking...hello sexy.
Spending a long weekend in San Diego, I played at three different beaches, over three days and spent most of my time riding the waves on my new boogie board. I've always wanted to learn how to surf, but haven't yet. I say "yet" now, instead of "never did" because after this past weekend, I think I might just get around to it. I had so much fun. And each time I walked out into the waves, with my board under one arm, skin sun kissed, I thought...damn I'm sexy.
Let me qualify this by saying, normally I do not feel sexy in my bikini at all, except when my husband ogles my boobs. Then I feel like I can conquer the world...oh yeah compliments from my husband are sexy.
No a bikini is not a comfortable look for me, but I felt sexy walking into the surf. And I felt sexy when I magically changed in and out of my bikini on the beach under my towel like a pro.
So yeah my husband surprised me and I surprised myself. Maybe I was a beach bum in a former life with a grease monkey man, who knows, but I found a couple of new things I think are sexy.
Find me online at www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com
On my website you will find all my links; Facebook, Twitter, Goodreads and more. Thank you for reading and feel free to leave a comment.
August 18, 2014
Reviews-It's Time to Post
Recently, on the Writing Wenches blog, I talked about my approach to reviews and the different things I take into consideration when posting a review.
Reviews are important.
On 7/7/2014, I published Sweet Dreams. I have sold books on Amazon, B&N, iBooks and Smashwords. Now I am looking for those people who read Sweet Dreams to post their reviews.
Reviews are an author's bread and butter. Especially a newly published author. There is no reason for anyone to take a chance on an unknown author. That is why the review is so important.
It lets the potential reader know what to expect, how other readers enjoyed the book, and if they would purchase other works by this author.
It is word of mouth gone digital. Now that everything is online, readers looking to discover a new author will read the reviews that have been posted and take that into consideration before buying.
If the author is unknown, how do they find the book? Well maybe they saw something on Twitter, maybe the book came up in the "People Who Purchased This Also Purchased..." pitch at the bottom of the page. Maybe a friend recommended the book or the reader found a post on Facebook or a book blog recommending it when searching under books.
Who knows how they found it in the sea of books out there. The important thing is they found it. The first thing a potential reader will most likely do is to read the synopsis (book blurb). Next, they check the reviews of other customers.
The photo above is a snapshot of my reviews on Amazon, the first being my favorite. Why is the third not my favorite? It is 5 stars after all and the first is 4 stars. Well, I love the third review. It gives you an idea of the style of the book and the reviewer is now a fan, and I love that. But the first review, "Super Enjoyable" is exactly how I wanted my readers to feel after reading Sweet Dreams.
Now, I am all for the short and sweet review. I do not post long reviews of books I read and I get to the point listing a couple of details so that it is evident that I actually read the book. Authors love to hear positive feedback from their readers about which character was their favorite or which scene was the most engrossing.
The professional reviewers and book bloggers out there are great at leaving six paragraph reviews of how the book made them feel and what they like about the author and the story, without spoilers. And bless them, that is why they are professional reviewers.
I just want the people who have read and enjoyed my book to post a review, in the hopes that someone will read the review and decide to use that recommendation to purchase my book.
How do you leave a review?
Simple, if you purchase the book online you would simply leave a review at that online retailer's site. You can also leave a review on Amazon or on Goodreads or both. Neither Goodreads nor Amazon require that you purchase the book from them to leave a review on their site. They only thing they are asking for is a few details about the book so they can tell by your post you actually read it. If you are going to take the 1 minutes to post a review, you need to make sure the post is not just "Loved It". It should say something about a specific character or plot point without being a spoiler. To find the review button on Amazon, just scroll to the bottom of the book's page and click on the button titled "Write a customer review". Easy, peasy, lemon squeezy.
So here it is. I am asking my friends, family and fans, who have read Sweet Dreams, to please post a review of Sweet Dreams. Below are the links for Sweet Dreams on Amazon and Goodreads, to make it easy.
Amazon Link: http://www.amazon.com/Sweet-Dreams-Jennifer-Senhaji/dp/1499785577/ref=tmm_pap_title_0
Goodreads Link: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22458936-sweet-dreams
Oh, and you can check out the Writing Wenches blog at http://writingwenches.wordpress.com/
Thank you for reading and reviewing.
Jennifer Senhaji, Your Sweet and Spicy Romance Author
www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com
August 11, 2014
So I Published A Book-Now What?
So I published a book.
I am so proud of myself for actually finishing my book and publishing it. It was a great experience and I learned so much about myself while writing it.
Now what?
Well, now I talk about it. I market it, I ask people who've read it to please review it, but most importantly, I write the next one.
Yes, time to write the next book.
The best way to get your name out there and to sell more books, is to write more books.
Hey, I never started writing Sweet Dreams to make money, although if it becomes a best seller and then gets made into a film, I am not going to complain.
No, I wrote Sweet Dreams because I wanted to tell a story. I wanted to tell a story that would make you smile, make you laugh and make you fall in love with the characters. And I wanted to see if I could actually do it.
So now I am writing the sequel.
I also started writing a short story. A short story that will hopefully be part of a book of shorts or a boxed set in collaboration with my fellow Writing Wenches.
Oh, did I mention that I have joined a writing group called Writing Wenches.
We have a blog, which goes live today and can be found at http://writingwenches.wordpress.com/ . I will be contributing to the blog every other week and yes, we are putting together a book of short stories. Pretty awesome.
I am also thinking of submitting a short story to another company accepting submissions.
It's overwhelming, but exciting. I feel like every day, through one of my fellow Wenches or writer friends, I discover another activity I want to be a part of.
Right now, I am a noob., when it comes to writing. I recognize it and I embrace it. I only hope to grow and improve with each work I complete, learning as much as I can along the way. But there is also so much to learn about marketing, about using social networks. There is software and applications and all sorts of new goodies to help me as a writer promote and grow and well just get my name out there.
I feel like there are so many things I want to do and so little time.
I love it and I am really excited to be a part of it.
I also still read on a daily basis. If you want to be a writer you have to read. A lot. Before I ever thought about writing, I was an avid reader. I was a one book every two days, sometimes less, Barnes and Noble junkie. Just because I am busy writing, doesn't mean I don't make time to read. I have to read, it is one of the things I most enjoy. Funny thing is, it's also paramount to becoming a good writer. Ask any successful author, or read their interviews, since most of us are not lucky enough to know them personally. You cannot be a good writer without being an avid reader. You have to experience different genres, different styles of writing in order to find your own.
So now I read, I write, I work, I network, I promote and I learn. I learn from my successes, from my mistakes and from my fellow writers.
What an amazing, never ending journey.
What is your journey?
Life is short. Go out and live it.
You can find me online at www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com
I am so proud of myself for actually finishing my book and publishing it. It was a great experience and I learned so much about myself while writing it.
Now what?
Well, now I talk about it. I market it, I ask people who've read it to please review it, but most importantly, I write the next one.
Yes, time to write the next book.
The best way to get your name out there and to sell more books, is to write more books.
Hey, I never started writing Sweet Dreams to make money, although if it becomes a best seller and then gets made into a film, I am not going to complain.
No, I wrote Sweet Dreams because I wanted to tell a story. I wanted to tell a story that would make you smile, make you laugh and make you fall in love with the characters. And I wanted to see if I could actually do it.
So now I am writing the sequel.
I also started writing a short story. A short story that will hopefully be part of a book of shorts or a boxed set in collaboration with my fellow Writing Wenches.
Oh, did I mention that I have joined a writing group called Writing Wenches.
We have a blog, which goes live today and can be found at http://writingwenches.wordpress.com/ . I will be contributing to the blog every other week and yes, we are putting together a book of short stories. Pretty awesome.
I am also thinking of submitting a short story to another company accepting submissions.
It's overwhelming, but exciting. I feel like every day, through one of my fellow Wenches or writer friends, I discover another activity I want to be a part of.
Right now, I am a noob., when it comes to writing. I recognize it and I embrace it. I only hope to grow and improve with each work I complete, learning as much as I can along the way. But there is also so much to learn about marketing, about using social networks. There is software and applications and all sorts of new goodies to help me as a writer promote and grow and well just get my name out there.
I feel like there are so many things I want to do and so little time.
I love it and I am really excited to be a part of it.
I also still read on a daily basis. If you want to be a writer you have to read. A lot. Before I ever thought about writing, I was an avid reader. I was a one book every two days, sometimes less, Barnes and Noble junkie. Just because I am busy writing, doesn't mean I don't make time to read. I have to read, it is one of the things I most enjoy. Funny thing is, it's also paramount to becoming a good writer. Ask any successful author, or read their interviews, since most of us are not lucky enough to know them personally. You cannot be a good writer without being an avid reader. You have to experience different genres, different styles of writing in order to find your own.
So now I read, I write, I work, I network, I promote and I learn. I learn from my successes, from my mistakes and from my fellow writers.
What an amazing, never ending journey.
What is your journey?
Life is short. Go out and live it.
You can find me online at www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com
August 6, 2014
Tolerance-Hot Topic
Ok, so I am a blogger that normally keeps my hot topics limited to romance writing. I am a newly published romance writer, but there is more to me than just romance.
The below statements are my own.
I consider myself an open minded, liberal democrat. I was raised Catholic and became Protestant as an adult. I married a Muslim man and we raise our children in both faiths. Now I should mention that I don't attend church regularly, in fact, I can't remember the last time I went, but I pray on a daily basis. My husband and I have never once had an issue over the differences in our religious or spiritual beliefs. An example of this would be how we recently celebrated the Ramadan holiday, a holy month for Muslims, in which they take time to fast during daylight hours. Ramadan is also a time to show charity for those in need, practice prayer and come together with family and friends in the evenings to break the fast each day. This has been my experience as the wife of a Muslim man.
This year my husband celebrated Ramadan by fasting and all of the above. I did not fast, but enjoyed the evenings when meals were shared. Our daughter, who has fasted every Ramadan since she was 8 years old and is now 21, did not fast this year, by her choice, which we respect. Our son, who is 10, fasted for the first time this year, only fasting 1/2 day each day, since the hours between sunrise and sunset are so long in the summer.
And you know what? It was all good. We celebrate all our holidays this way, getting double the holidays if you will, Easter, Eid, Christmas, Ramadan, etc. I think we have the bests of both worlds.
Now as far as world beliefs go, I am by far, no expert in any respect, but from where I sit, this is how I see it. Keep in mind that many of the below have several different sects, like Catholics and Protestants or Sunni and Shi'ite, you get the picture.
There are Christians, Jews, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, Sikhs, Atheists, Agnostics. Those who practice Wicca, Eastern Folk Religions, Tribal Religions, Spiritism, Spiritualism, Philosophy, cults and so on.
And there are others that don't identify with any of the above or something else entirely.
I believe in Free Will. Whether you are religious or not, the human race has Free Will.
Free Will, I think everyone can agree on, although there are always exceptions.
What is my point?
I'm getting there.
For argument sake, if everyone on earth believes the human race has Free Will, then why oh why isn't there more tolerance for the diversity of our beliefs?
You believe something that I don't. That is just fine with me. You have Free Will to believe what you want.
Now, for the point.
I don't understand, as the human race, why anyone would or could justify killing another human being because of a difference of beliefs. This has been going on since the beginning of time, I know, I get it's nothing new. But I don't understand it. I don't understand why, if you believe in Free Will, you would ever try to impose your will over another. For me, there is no reason for the violence we see in the world today.
If I can share my home and respect and love someone that was raised with a different belief structure than my own, why can't nations that boarder each other do the same. Why can't people living within a nation or the same city, of different beliefs, all show some tolerance for their fellow human beings.
You don't have to agree on a belief or how to practice it. Let them do their thing, and you do yours.
Why is that such a difficult concept?
Why are children becoming the casualties of war, waged by adults who don't value the gift that is human life?
Life is short. Life is a gift. We are lucky to be alive.
Why aren't people that have degrees and are smarter than me, figuring this whole thing out and saying enough already?
Why is it only in a zombie apocalypse or alien invasion movie that we see people finally putting aside their differences and coming together as human beings to help each other?
Why?
I am a citizen of the US and my belief has always been this is a county that was founded for religious freedom, freedom of speech, freedom to basically live your life and practice your faith as long as you are not causing harm to others.
I truly believe that any faith or philosophy or belief or lack thereof is personal. It is between you and God, or the universe or the earth or whatever, but it is your right, your human right, because of Free Will, to decide what that is for yourself.
As the human race, we have enough things to worry about without trying to impose our belief structures on others.
We have places in the world where human beings still live without clean water or food. We have places on earth where slavery of children and women still exists. We have people struggling to find a peaceful place to worship. We have people struggling to put food on the table or provide shelter for their family. There are so many people who don't have access to medicines. Families of all kinds struggling to get by on a limited income. People looking for work. Parents trying to provide education to their children. Children, who don't have parents.
Why are we not helping our fellow human beings instead of killing each other over who has the "right" beliefs?
Is it all about power? What good is power if there aren't any people to exude that power over because everyone is dead?
Is it land? What good is land if having all the land means destroying the earth and humanity in the process?
Why oh why aren't the geniuses of the world having a conference and figuring all this out? If they are, why isn't anyone listening?
I mean, we learn how to resolve conflict without violence as children. The first time we hit another child we are told to use our words instead of our fists.
People in power, use your words!
Please use your words.
Words are powerful, they can do great things.
We share this planet and we are intelligent beings.
We are all human.
WE ARE ALL HUMAN!!!
Leave a comment if you like.
Thanks for reading.
www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com
The below statements are my own.
I consider myself an open minded, liberal democrat. I was raised Catholic and became Protestant as an adult. I married a Muslim man and we raise our children in both faiths. Now I should mention that I don't attend church regularly, in fact, I can't remember the last time I went, but I pray on a daily basis. My husband and I have never once had an issue over the differences in our religious or spiritual beliefs. An example of this would be how we recently celebrated the Ramadan holiday, a holy month for Muslims, in which they take time to fast during daylight hours. Ramadan is also a time to show charity for those in need, practice prayer and come together with family and friends in the evenings to break the fast each day. This has been my experience as the wife of a Muslim man.
This year my husband celebrated Ramadan by fasting and all of the above. I did not fast, but enjoyed the evenings when meals were shared. Our daughter, who has fasted every Ramadan since she was 8 years old and is now 21, did not fast this year, by her choice, which we respect. Our son, who is 10, fasted for the first time this year, only fasting 1/2 day each day, since the hours between sunrise and sunset are so long in the summer.
And you know what? It was all good. We celebrate all our holidays this way, getting double the holidays if you will, Easter, Eid, Christmas, Ramadan, etc. I think we have the bests of both worlds.
Now as far as world beliefs go, I am by far, no expert in any respect, but from where I sit, this is how I see it. Keep in mind that many of the below have several different sects, like Catholics and Protestants or Sunni and Shi'ite, you get the picture.
There are Christians, Jews, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, Sikhs, Atheists, Agnostics. Those who practice Wicca, Eastern Folk Religions, Tribal Religions, Spiritism, Spiritualism, Philosophy, cults and so on.
And there are others that don't identify with any of the above or something else entirely.
I believe in Free Will. Whether you are religious or not, the human race has Free Will.
Free Will, I think everyone can agree on, although there are always exceptions.
What is my point?
I'm getting there.
For argument sake, if everyone on earth believes the human race has Free Will, then why oh why isn't there more tolerance for the diversity of our beliefs?
You believe something that I don't. That is just fine with me. You have Free Will to believe what you want.
Now, for the point.
I don't understand, as the human race, why anyone would or could justify killing another human being because of a difference of beliefs. This has been going on since the beginning of time, I know, I get it's nothing new. But I don't understand it. I don't understand why, if you believe in Free Will, you would ever try to impose your will over another. For me, there is no reason for the violence we see in the world today.
If I can share my home and respect and love someone that was raised with a different belief structure than my own, why can't nations that boarder each other do the same. Why can't people living within a nation or the same city, of different beliefs, all show some tolerance for their fellow human beings.
You don't have to agree on a belief or how to practice it. Let them do their thing, and you do yours.
Why is that such a difficult concept?
Why are children becoming the casualties of war, waged by adults who don't value the gift that is human life?
Life is short. Life is a gift. We are lucky to be alive.
Why aren't people that have degrees and are smarter than me, figuring this whole thing out and saying enough already?
Why is it only in a zombie apocalypse or alien invasion movie that we see people finally putting aside their differences and coming together as human beings to help each other?
Why?
I am a citizen of the US and my belief has always been this is a county that was founded for religious freedom, freedom of speech, freedom to basically live your life and practice your faith as long as you are not causing harm to others.
I truly believe that any faith or philosophy or belief or lack thereof is personal. It is between you and God, or the universe or the earth or whatever, but it is your right, your human right, because of Free Will, to decide what that is for yourself.
As the human race, we have enough things to worry about without trying to impose our belief structures on others.
We have places in the world where human beings still live without clean water or food. We have places on earth where slavery of children and women still exists. We have people struggling to find a peaceful place to worship. We have people struggling to put food on the table or provide shelter for their family. There are so many people who don't have access to medicines. Families of all kinds struggling to get by on a limited income. People looking for work. Parents trying to provide education to their children. Children, who don't have parents.
Why are we not helping our fellow human beings instead of killing each other over who has the "right" beliefs?
Is it all about power? What good is power if there aren't any people to exude that power over because everyone is dead?
Is it land? What good is land if having all the land means destroying the earth and humanity in the process?
Why oh why aren't the geniuses of the world having a conference and figuring all this out? If they are, why isn't anyone listening?
I mean, we learn how to resolve conflict without violence as children. The first time we hit another child we are told to use our words instead of our fists.
People in power, use your words!
Please use your words.
Words are powerful, they can do great things.
We share this planet and we are intelligent beings.
We are all human.
WE ARE ALL HUMAN!!!
Leave a comment if you like.
Thanks for reading.
www.jennifersenhajiauthor.com
August 4, 2014
The Generation Gap
The generation gap...
This weekend I attended my annual family picnic. It is centered around my grandmother'a birthday and close to my aunt's and uncle's birthday as well. We celebrate every year, the first weekend in August and this year my grandmother turned 90.
90! Wow, that is an amazing milestone to reach. You can only imagine everything she has been witness to in her life time.
How about the the fallout from WW1. Living through the WW2, the rise and fall of the Soviet Union. Korean War, Vietnam, Desert Storm, Iraq, Afghanistan, 911...Ok, what else?
The civil rights movement, JFK and Martin Luther King, the feminist movement, the Berlin Wall coming down.
Also radio, early film, tv, fax, cell phones, computers, the internet, the mind boggles.
Amazingly enough, when I was born, my grandmother's grandmother was still alive. That was 5 generations, there is a picture somewhere of us all. When my daughter was born, my great grandmother was alive and my daughter remembers her. She was a tough, tell it like it is kind of woman.
This weekend we had a photographer at the picnic who captured some photos for us including a photo of each of the 4 generations now together for this event. My kids were in the great grandchildren photo.
We laughed together. Played numerous games together. There was horseshoes, three legged race, watermelon eating contest, baseball, volleyball, water baloon toss and bingo.
And the 4 generations ages 4-90 all played and ate and enjoyed each other's company.
Lucky... I am truly blessed to have a family that makes the effort to come together every year and just be together. Some of my cousins came from out of state.
Every generation has their own experiences, but the truly amazing thing is when you can come together as one and share them.
Then you see the generation gap is not as big as we think it is.
This weekend I attended my annual family picnic. It is centered around my grandmother'a birthday and close to my aunt's and uncle's birthday as well. We celebrate every year, the first weekend in August and this year my grandmother turned 90.
90! Wow, that is an amazing milestone to reach. You can only imagine everything she has been witness to in her life time.
How about the the fallout from WW1. Living through the WW2, the rise and fall of the Soviet Union. Korean War, Vietnam, Desert Storm, Iraq, Afghanistan, 911...Ok, what else?
The civil rights movement, JFK and Martin Luther King, the feminist movement, the Berlin Wall coming down.
Also radio, early film, tv, fax, cell phones, computers, the internet, the mind boggles.
Amazingly enough, when I was born, my grandmother's grandmother was still alive. That was 5 generations, there is a picture somewhere of us all. When my daughter was born, my great grandmother was alive and my daughter remembers her. She was a tough, tell it like it is kind of woman.
This weekend we had a photographer at the picnic who captured some photos for us including a photo of each of the 4 generations now together for this event. My kids were in the great grandchildren photo.
We laughed together. Played numerous games together. There was horseshoes, three legged race, watermelon eating contest, baseball, volleyball, water baloon toss and bingo.
And the 4 generations ages 4-90 all played and ate and enjoyed each other's company.
Lucky... I am truly blessed to have a family that makes the effort to come together every year and just be together. Some of my cousins came from out of state.
Every generation has their own experiences, but the truly amazing thing is when you can come together as one and share them.
Then you see the generation gap is not as big as we think it is.
