Misti B.'s Blog, page 2
June 26, 2014
Misti B radio interview
Misti B sits down to talk to Take 12 Recovery..
June 25, 2014
Misti B Talks to Dr Judy
“Bringing humor to Al-Anon, a 12 Step Group for individuals who are dealing with alcoholism their lives is a very unique concept. It’s a known fact that humor releases chemicals into the body that help us heal. This book’s a must read for anyone who’s ever experienced a family member or friend with alcoholism.”
Dr. Judy Rosenberg, author, therapist, host Dr. Judy Show
June 23, 2014
My Bestest
There are times when my efforts to do my “very best” cause me to be thoroughly obnoxious. Hyper-competitive, over-achieving, driven by the need to be more, better, best. Best of the best. Better than the best of the best.
My best often pushes people away, because when I go into overdrive, I can be daunting and a bit intimidating to the people I love and demand a lot from.
It’s not easy for me to allow myself to “be” without having a goal or accomplishment in sight. I have to remind myself that not a machine. I am a human being who needs love. I wouldn’t mind a deep tissue massage and a week at an Aruban resort, too, but it’s not required.
When my focus is on how I’m doing and in being “the best,” I miss out on the beauty of life. So, when I feel myself getting rattled and panicked about being the best, I get quiet and ask for God’s guidance, because I can be more of an attraction to others when I I’m not pushing to be the best.
The thing is, not everything I do requires my “very best.” Sometimes “good,” or “okay,” is enough. Which is important for us Al-Anons to remember, because being average is such a rare occurrence! Still, as an Al-Anon of epic proportions, I need to constantly be reminded that better isn’t always best.
Maturity, Schmaturity: One Al-Anon’s Take on the Checklist for Maturity
Yes, I’ve read Al-Anon’s Checklist for Maturity, and the part about: “A mature adult …does not automatically resent criticism, realizing it may contain a suggestion for self-improvement.”
I didn’t automatically resent your criticism and, I did spend some time thinking about the “feedback” you gave me. I appreciate you saying it was “for my benefit.” The funny part is, your criticism got me to look at myself and I also noticed a few things about you, too!
I heard what you said about my communication style and how it could be improved, however, I’ve noticed the way you speak to your assistant could be a little nicer. I know, it’s a separate issue, but you aren’t exactly the best dresser I’ve ever met, either. I also noticed you playing “solitaire” on the computer while I was trying to talk to you about the pool needing cleaning.
I hope you don’t take my comment about your clothes in the wrong way. You’re not atrocious looking. Not at all. It’s just that, for example, the suit you had on yesterday added some weight to your frame; a frame that doesn’t need any adding to. And I mean that in the most positive way possible! You’re not big. You’re what they call healthy. Sturdy. Remember that line of kid’s clothing called “Huskies?” Clothing designers would never get away with that today.
Sorry. I digress. I have a tendency to do that when I’ve been subject to totally unconstructive criticism. Can we talk more about this later? I’ve got an Al-Anon meeting to get to.
November 2, 2013
Hey Al-Anons, Lighten Up!
Let’s face it, we Al-Anons aren’t especially well-known for our humor (go ahead, do an online search for “Al-Anon” and “humor,” or “funny”). The silent sufferers, the hall monitors of the recovery community, Al-Anon lives are the stuff of which country music lyrics are made.
Frankly, we have a reputation for taking all the fun out of party and taking down the streamers afterwards…
Until now.
LIGHTSTEPPER was created to bring more humor to recovery. It’s time we Al-Anons threw a little party in honor of our own growth.
In fact, Rule 62 in the A. A. Big Book –and you know how Al-Anons love rules – states, “don’t take yourself too damn seriously.” Aren’t we entitled to lighten up – even if it’s just a little – on that journey to better mental health?
Hopefully, these non conference-approved meditations will bring you a daily smile. Grins, of course, are most likely conference approved. At least, we’re fairly sure they are.
