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Common Criticism Mistakes – Part 2

Many people have received little or no formal training on how to offer corrective communication or criticism. If they have, the training frequently raises more questions than it answers. As a result, there are a lot of people out there who are ineffective givers of criticism. Because the mistakes are so rampant, I’ve identified and […]

Common Criticism Mistakes – Part 1

For criticism to be accepted and acted upon, it needs to be sincere and its purpose needs to be genuinely perceived to be of help. The giving of criticism is a skill that, when managed properly, can change relationships and people’s lives for the better. Unfortunately, the lack of resources and proper training on the […]

Criticism and Stress

For many of us, criticism is the most dreaded form of communication. Rarely, do we enjoy giving criticism and we almost never enjoy receiving it. Why then, are we so resistant? Perhaps it’s because criticism has the potential to hurt others and devastate relationships. Simply put, dealing with criticism is stressful! According to a survey […]

Tips for Accepting Control

We’ve recently been exploring control and what it is you can do to accept control in order to achieve your goals. To wrap up this larger discussion, here are a few tips for what it is you can do to take personal control in your life. They are great reminders! STOP Stop thinking that control […]

Working with Choice

Another key element that underlies the ability to have a sense of control in our lives is choice. Simply put, as long as you have choices, you are in control! By creating more choices in your life, you advance your pursuit of control. Here are a couple of suggestions on how to create more “choice” […]

Letting Go of Negative Situations – Part 2

Some of us have a difficult time visualizing things. Others (and this may be you) may not care for the Wastepaper Basket Quick Charge or Helium Balloon Quick Charge introduced in my previous blog. Not to worry. Not all of us are visual. So, you might want to try other types of Quick Charges which can […]

Letting Go of Negative Situations – Part 1

Letting go of negative situations and outcomes is an important skill to have in your toolbox. It allows you to refocus and reinvest your energies into more positive channels and can help you in establishing a sense of control. But how exactly can we harness our energies to rebound from temporary setbacks, disappointments, or even […]

Letting Go

When striving to enhance performance, the ability to “let go” is a valuable skill, and one well worth cultivating. Letting go is closely related to flexibility, which I covered in my last blog. Letting go involves a combination of backing off, going with the flow, trusting yourself, and, for some, having faith in a higher […]

Cultivate the Ability to Be Flexible

As I alluded to in my previous post on performance and rigidity, one of the skills worth cultivating in your professional and personal life in order to maximize performance is the ability to be flexible. Since you don’t know when you will be faced with the next hurdle or difficult situation, it’s important to incorporate […]

Performance and Rigidity

In today’s fast-paced work environment, how can we keep up? With ever-changing deadlines, real-time decisions and the shifting dynamism of teams, how can we survive and thrive? To address these challenges, many of us seek to stay in control – of ourselves, or our environments. But in striving to stay in control, many of us […]