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April 4, 2017
Top 40 Quotes To Think Like A Hustler
Like you, I’m a constant work in progress. I’m both a student and a teacher because there’s always more to learn. I would never claim to be better than anyone else. I will say however, I don’t THINK like everyone else. Most Hustlers don’t. Every so often I get asked, “Why do you think the way you do?” Well, there are a few straight-forward answers to that question:I wanted to be above average;I sought out men and women much wiser than myself;I was willing to make mistakes and fail in order to learn how to do something right. I became a scientist of sorts.
The essence of The Game is INFORMATION; a certain uncommon type of information. A real Hustler is a thinker.
On the ‘street layers’ of The Game, the uncommon sense was always passed from the mouth of a teacher to the ear of a student. Usually this uncommon sense came in the form of easy to remember words of wisdom – simple quotes that could be learned to keep a Hustler’s thinking in check. More logic, less emotion.
Here are some of my favorite quotes (in no particular order) I learned from my time in various Games. As simplistic as some of these might seem, they’re all laced with undeniable wisdom. All these are geared to keep the Hustler moving and shaking through life like a fish in water. Enjoy!
You’re only as strong as your weaknesses.If you don’t know or even if you do, don’t tell.A sharp tongue cuts your own throat.The toes you step on today may be the foot in your ass tomorrow. If you make $10, put up $6 and live off the rest.When there’s smoke there’s fire. You can conceal fire but you can’t hide smoke.Pressure bursts pipes. To break a chain, always pull on the weakest link. If you’re not the card dealer, don’t show your hand first.Under promise and over-deliver.The Heavenly Father gave you two eyes, two ears and one mouth. You should watch and listen twice as much as you speak.Think before you spend your money and think twice before you speak.You don’t have to chase a fox. If you put all the chickens in one bunch the fox will come to you.You lose the bait when you catch the fish.Some defeats are really victories and vice versa.It takes way too many blows to hit a nail in the dark.If you know you’re surrounded by snakes, cut the grass so you can see them.You are never as strong as you think you are. Neither is anyone else.Patience, patience, patience…If you must go through hell to get to heaven, make sure you run very fast.If you pay well, you are served well.In a storm, pray to God but still swim toward the shore.A fair exchange is not a robbery.No one notices when the floors clean, but everyone notices it when it’s dirty. If you only Hustle for yourself, in the end, you will only have yourself.There are two sides to every coin and three sides to every story.If you win, everyone wants to be your friend. If you lose only your true friends will remain.People are more likely to take the easiest route and it’s usually the wrong choice.Don’t make an enemy if you don’t have to.What’s coming in the future is paid for in the present.When you reach one goal get on with the next one.Big problems are smaller when you are looking at them from a distance.Praise and criticism are temporary just as victories and defeats are temporary.Dogs bite and claw so if you fight with one expect just that. If you don’t know what to do with your life, there’s someone out there that does.Have your cake and eat it too. Cake is made to be eaten.Eventually, no one wants to feed a greedy man.Don’t loan money to a fool you can’t afford to lose.If you’re going to sit at the table, then bring something to the table.A king is no king if he doesn’t take care of his castle. Curious about the Game? Subscribe to the Uncommon Sense Adviser – Higher level Game to help take YOUR Game to the next level. Also receive news, discounts on future books and products along with early access. Join now by clicking [HERE].
The essence of The Game is INFORMATION; a certain uncommon type of information. A real Hustler is a thinker.On the ‘street layers’ of The Game, the uncommon sense was always passed from the mouth of a teacher to the ear of a student. Usually this uncommon sense came in the form of easy to remember words of wisdom – simple quotes that could be learned to keep a Hustler’s thinking in check. More logic, less emotion.
Here are some of my favorite quotes (in no particular order) I learned from my time in various Games. As simplistic as some of these might seem, they’re all laced with undeniable wisdom. All these are geared to keep the Hustler moving and shaking through life like a fish in water. Enjoy!
You’re only as strong as your weaknesses.If you don’t know or even if you do, don’t tell.A sharp tongue cuts your own throat.The toes you step on today may be the foot in your ass tomorrow. If you make $10, put up $6 and live off the rest.When there’s smoke there’s fire. You can conceal fire but you can’t hide smoke.Pressure bursts pipes. To break a chain, always pull on the weakest link. If you’re not the card dealer, don’t show your hand first.Under promise and over-deliver.The Heavenly Father gave you two eyes, two ears and one mouth. You should watch and listen twice as much as you speak.Think before you spend your money and think twice before you speak.You don’t have to chase a fox. If you put all the chickens in one bunch the fox will come to you.You lose the bait when you catch the fish.Some defeats are really victories and vice versa.It takes way too many blows to hit a nail in the dark.If you know you’re surrounded by snakes, cut the grass so you can see them.You are never as strong as you think you are. Neither is anyone else.Patience, patience, patience…If you must go through hell to get to heaven, make sure you run very fast.If you pay well, you are served well.In a storm, pray to God but still swim toward the shore.A fair exchange is not a robbery.No one notices when the floors clean, but everyone notices it when it’s dirty. If you only Hustle for yourself, in the end, you will only have yourself.There are two sides to every coin and three sides to every story.If you win, everyone wants to be your friend. If you lose only your true friends will remain.People are more likely to take the easiest route and it’s usually the wrong choice.Don’t make an enemy if you don’t have to.What’s coming in the future is paid for in the present.When you reach one goal get on with the next one.Big problems are smaller when you are looking at them from a distance.Praise and criticism are temporary just as victories and defeats are temporary.Dogs bite and claw so if you fight with one expect just that. If you don’t know what to do with your life, there’s someone out there that does.Have your cake and eat it too. Cake is made to be eaten.Eventually, no one wants to feed a greedy man.Don’t loan money to a fool you can’t afford to lose.If you’re going to sit at the table, then bring something to the table.A king is no king if he doesn’t take care of his castle. Curious about the Game? Subscribe to the Uncommon Sense Adviser – Higher level Game to help take YOUR Game to the next level. Also receive news, discounts on future books and products along with early access. Join now by clicking [HERE].
Published on April 04, 2017 17:01
March 28, 2017
Learn to Play the Small Business Game
My interview with Mrs. Starr Claiborne of, L.E.A.D. Empowers.
The topic at hand is my book, Unlocking the Small Business Game.
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The topic at hand is my book, Unlocking the Small Business Game.
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Published on March 28, 2017 18:21
March 21, 2017
Are You Lying To Yourself About What You Want?
I wanted to leave you with something that will challenge you this week. For those of you that will take this exercise seriously, I think you’ll find it enlightening. Maybe even shocking.
Some people are hesitant to learn about themselves. For some it’s painful, a reminder of how much we don’t ‘have it together’. Another group of people would rather examine and judge others live's but seldom look at their own.
If the above IS NOT you, then you may appreciate this simple exercise. If you’re honest with yourself, you may discover that possibly you’ve been lying to yourself – perhaps for many years. A small percentage of you will discover that you’re on track; even if you veer off from time to time. The best part? This exercise only takes about 5 to 10 minutes. Some people can finish in 2.
Ready? Simply follow along.(1) Find a quiet place where you'll be undisturbed for about 10 minutes. Turn off the television (or radio) and put your phone on silent. You’re about to do a little thinking and the quieter, the better.(2) Grab a blank sheet of paper and something to write with.(3) Grab a seat with your paper and writing utensil and get comfortable.(4) Now, image this scenario: You have just won the Grand Prize of a sweepstakes! What’s your prize? They’re going to give you an all-expenses paid vacation. We’re talking an ENTIRE YEAR at a resort on a private island. You don’t have to pay for anything - everything you need will be provided for you. Also, there’s no need to worry about your job because you’ll still get paid your full year’s salary and your employer can’t fire you (I know, we’re stretching it but just stay with me).
So, there’s a catch (surprise right?)... During your year in paradise you have to study ONE TOPIC of your choice. Only one! You must choose it before you get to the island and you cannot switch it once you’ve chosen it.
(5) So here’s the question. What one thing would you commit to studying for a full year? What’s something that would be that meaningful to you? What could hold your attention that long? Take your time to think about it then write down your answer.
Did you come up with your answer? If you COULD NOT then that should tell you something. It should show you that you have yet to find a PASSION in your life. That’s a huge realization because passion is important. Once your passion is identified, you can make plans and goals to change your life. You can move in a direction that is exciting and fulfilling. You may not really know what you want at this time, but there’s always time to correct that.
And what if you DID come up with an answer? Well, your answer should tell you that not only do you have an interest in the topic, but it excites you and you’re passionate about it. A year of studying only one thing is a long time. It requires focus and dedication.
So, if you came up with an answer, I have another question for you: Is what you answered a MAJOR part of your life? And I don’t mean a hobby or something you dip in and out of when you have time. I mean is this a very central part of your life?
For example, would you study interior design on our fictitious island, but the only thing you designed in real life was an art project in sixth grade? Would you study medicine but in real life you went to culinary school? Would you study music but in real life you work on an assembly line?
How far are you removed from your passion? Do you think about it often but keep pushing it aside for ‘more important things’?
The point I want to drive home is: Have you been LYING to yourself about what you really want from life? Have you settled on something just because it was convenient or easy? Are you sincerely happy with the direction your life is going in? And if not, when are you going to do something to change it?
Be brutally honest with yourself! When it’s all said and done, the longer you continue to lie to yourself the further your dreams drift away from you.
Until next time... Curious about the Game? Subscribe to the Uncommon Sense Adviser – Higher level Game to help take YOUR Game to the next level. Also receive news, discounts on future books and products along with early access. Join now by clicking [HERE].
Some people are hesitant to learn about themselves. For some it’s painful, a reminder of how much we don’t ‘have it together’. Another group of people would rather examine and judge others live's but seldom look at their own.
If the above IS NOT you, then you may appreciate this simple exercise. If you’re honest with yourself, you may discover that possibly you’ve been lying to yourself – perhaps for many years. A small percentage of you will discover that you’re on track; even if you veer off from time to time. The best part? This exercise only takes about 5 to 10 minutes. Some people can finish in 2.
Ready? Simply follow along.(1) Find a quiet place where you'll be undisturbed for about 10 minutes. Turn off the television (or radio) and put your phone on silent. You’re about to do a little thinking and the quieter, the better.(2) Grab a blank sheet of paper and something to write with.(3) Grab a seat with your paper and writing utensil and get comfortable.(4) Now, image this scenario: You have just won the Grand Prize of a sweepstakes! What’s your prize? They’re going to give you an all-expenses paid vacation. We’re talking an ENTIRE YEAR at a resort on a private island. You don’t have to pay for anything - everything you need will be provided for you. Also, there’s no need to worry about your job because you’ll still get paid your full year’s salary and your employer can’t fire you (I know, we’re stretching it but just stay with me).
So, there’s a catch (surprise right?)... During your year in paradise you have to study ONE TOPIC of your choice. Only one! You must choose it before you get to the island and you cannot switch it once you’ve chosen it.(5) So here’s the question. What one thing would you commit to studying for a full year? What’s something that would be that meaningful to you? What could hold your attention that long? Take your time to think about it then write down your answer.
Did you come up with your answer? If you COULD NOT then that should tell you something. It should show you that you have yet to find a PASSION in your life. That’s a huge realization because passion is important. Once your passion is identified, you can make plans and goals to change your life. You can move in a direction that is exciting and fulfilling. You may not really know what you want at this time, but there’s always time to correct that.
And what if you DID come up with an answer? Well, your answer should tell you that not only do you have an interest in the topic, but it excites you and you’re passionate about it. A year of studying only one thing is a long time. It requires focus and dedication.
So, if you came up with an answer, I have another question for you: Is what you answered a MAJOR part of your life? And I don’t mean a hobby or something you dip in and out of when you have time. I mean is this a very central part of your life?
For example, would you study interior design on our fictitious island, but the only thing you designed in real life was an art project in sixth grade? Would you study medicine but in real life you went to culinary school? Would you study music but in real life you work on an assembly line?
How far are you removed from your passion? Do you think about it often but keep pushing it aside for ‘more important things’?
The point I want to drive home is: Have you been LYING to yourself about what you really want from life? Have you settled on something just because it was convenient or easy? Are you sincerely happy with the direction your life is going in? And if not, when are you going to do something to change it?
Be brutally honest with yourself! When it’s all said and done, the longer you continue to lie to yourself the further your dreams drift away from you.
Until next time... Curious about the Game? Subscribe to the Uncommon Sense Adviser – Higher level Game to help take YOUR Game to the next level. Also receive news, discounts on future books and products along with early access. Join now by clicking [HERE].
Published on March 21, 2017 20:50
March 14, 2017
25-Minutes With A Mack
What does it take to step into manhood? This podcast was taken from the 1st, Gentleman’s Game Class, given in August 2016. This class was taught by myself for members of,
The Uncommon Sense Adviser
.In my continued effort to clear up misconceptions about various Games the, Gentleman’s Game Class, allows me to reach out directly to like-minded men who seek improvements in life and their relationships with women.
Being a Mack is about much more than just being good with women – it’s a Perspective and lifestyle that requires an understanding about what being a MAN is, and how to function from that center of POWER. Once that power is recognized and exercised the man changes and then so does his life.
This class sample is authentic Real Game taught how the Game was meant to be taught; from mouth to ear – for those with ears to hear it. Get a small dose, listen in now!
*this class audio was edited with respect for the gentlemen who attended*
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Published on March 14, 2017 17:20
February 28, 2017
Real Game: The Art Of Process
Who likes to lose? Nobody, right? But you can’t win all the time, that’s just not being realistic. There’s a saying in The Game, “Human beings don’t like to lose, but they won’t do what it takes to win.”When I was younger, like most young people, I never wanted to look like I couldn’t do something. When someone said I couldn’t, I would try anyway. I wanted to prove I could but the results were usually disastrous as you can imagine. Going in with no knowledge about what I was doing and backed with only the intention to look impressive usually didn’t work out well. Now that I think back, I can only recall a handful of times it worked out.
What I’ve found throughout my years with speaking to people from all walks of life are that human begins really DO NOT like to lose. People who don’t even try to win, still hate to know they’ll lose. It’s a strange irony because some people get stuck in their comfort zones. They’ll run scared before they try something new – even it is may benefit them in the long run. It’s called a comfort zone for a reason.
Winning is great. It’s where the accolades are, the recognition, the congratulations, the positive results and the “crown” we wear called success. Who doesn’t want that? But winning is the finish line, what about the rest of the race?
Let’s be honest, most people never set themselves up for the BIG WIN. In fact, most people mentally defeat themselves before they even start. As soon as 1 thing goes wrong, that’s it! They get discouraged and throw in the towel. They immediately give up and go in another direction. There’s no nice way to say this, so I’ll just keep it real – this behavior is a sign of a mental weakness. This shows a mind that will never achieve a BIG WIN because it can’t focus long enough to see positive results.
All things happen in and through time. Time is the leveler of ALL playing fields. You can be rich or poor; healthy or unhealthy; successful or not; but everyone on the planet only has 24-hours in a day.
When people don’t see immediate results, they back off. Usually they back-off completely. That’s almost like driving from your house, to your friend’s house, but you suddenly stop and go back home just because there's a couple slow moving cars ahead of you. That’s sound ridiculous, right? Well it should sound silly, because it is. There’s supposed to be other cars on the road, just like there’s supposed to be adversity when attempting anything new. You can move around certain obstacles in your way as long as you follow the “rules of the road”. And certain obstacles will move out of your way on their own.
Confidence is key in whatever you do. But confidence comes with experiencing SMALL WINS. When you get a SMALL WIN, this will usually propel you to keep trying – to do something again for a bigger result. The issue is, most people never stay motivated long enough to get a small win. Or they get 1 or 2 but dismiss them because they weren’t the BIG WIN. They look for fireworks and blowing trumpets to let them (and everyone they’re trying to impress) know they’ve made it. But with enough SMALL WINS, they would eventually get to the BIG WIN.
Any forms of advancement, growth, improvement or success are all PROCESSES – a course marked by gradual changes. They don’t happen overnight. You can’t take a wand and magically materialize your ideal situation into existence. Every process involves TIME. If you can’t stay focused for a long period of time then you’ll never make it to the BIG WIN. And our “training ground” to garner any sized win is making the best use of your time EVERYDAY. You have to step up to the plate, EVERYDAY.Not try to see what happens, not test the waters, but making the same decision everyday until you see a result – a SMALL WIN. Then you keep going and learning and adjusting until you finally arrive at the BIG WIN.
This sounds so simple because it is.
This requires focus, mental fortitude and a degree of emotional control. Fear, doubt and worry cannot be allowed to take hold of you. When they do, you’ll give up.
Consider the athlete that trains almost everyday with a definite focus for improvement. How about the singer, the author or musician who hones their craft by using it daily? Every small improvement is a SMALL WIN. There is something to be said for natural talent, but natural talent not used will only yield mediocre results.
Everything you do, or plan to do, is a PROCESS. It will take time, commitment, dedication and sacrifice. And while you keep that in mind and move forward, you set a very powerful force in motion. A force that allows almost anyone to accomplish almost anything. And this Dominating Force is available to everyone. The first step to activating this force is decided on EXACTLY what you want. The next step is identifying obstacles in your way. These can come from within you (fear, doubt or worry) or outside of you. Once your decision is made, keep going until you start seeing results – SMALL WINS.
Allow yourself to go through the process. Whatever process that is for you – nobody else, just you. Then one day you’ll finally arrive at that BIG WIN. This is Real Game, consider yourself laced.
IMPORTANT NOTE: The first, Gentleman’s Game Class , of 2017 is this weekend so there will be no blog post next week. THE BLOG WILL RETURN, WEDNESDAY, MARCH 15th, 2017. Until then, keep it moving! See you in a couple weeks.
Published on February 28, 2017 16:19
February 21, 2017
How to Take Charge of Your Negativity
We all deal with it. Feelings of doubt, fear and worry. In this Special Edition podcast I want to give you some easy, practical tools that you can use to start taking control of these harmful emotions. Here’s some of what you’ll learn:What causes a negative mental state?Are you really a positive person, or a negative person?How your “inner kingdom” works and why it needs to be managed correctly.How a single decision can be used to positively effect your life.And moreNo fluff, no complicated language, just simple straight-forward Game on how to become a better and more effective YOU. Listen in now!Use the audio player below or click the icon to download the mp3 to your computer or mobile device. [image error] How to Take Charge of Your Negativity.mp3File Size: 10438 kbFile Type: mp3Download File Curious about the Game? Subscribe to the Uncommon Sense Adviser – Higher level Game to help take YOUR Game to the next level. Also receive news, discounts on future books and products along with early access. Join now by clicking [HERE].
Published on February 21, 2017 18:01
February 14, 2017
Business Psychology: A Quick Lesson
A fair exchange is not a robbery. But that depends on a person’s perspective on what’s fair. Take for example a close female friend of mine. She’s a sweetheart really, but she can get bossy when it comes to business. I’m all for that – things need to be right.She came to me with an idea for a business brochure. I thought that was a great idea, especially considering her market and the services she offers. Where my friend lives, people are generally not very familiar with what she does. Because of that, it requires a lot of explaining. If she had a brochure she could save some time by just handing it off with a basic explanation depending on who she’s speaking with.
She found a designer who was willing to barter. He would design the brochure and she would provide her service to him for free. That’s a fair exchange. But that’s when the complications started. Poor guy, he wasn’t ready!
Designing in itself is not easy. It takes time and you also want to use the elements the client wants. My friend however kept coming up with more and more revisions. Color changes, font changes, the use of certain images, layout changes, etc. All of this is fine and perfectly acceptable – but this delayed the finished brochure by almost 2 months.
The final product is excellent; a job well done. The revisions seems to have paid off but was it worth delaying a much needed marketing piece? In my opinion, yes it was. I don’t think it should have taken 2 months, but things have to be right.
Let me give you a little piece of business Game.
When you have a business card, brochure or a post card as marketing materials, these become your sales people. They have the potential to sell your product or service 24/7 when you’re not around. These need to represent what you do, or have, very clearly. Poor images, color choices or a shoddy design directly reflect on you and/or your business. If they’re really bad, they will “un-sell” you and/or your business.
When I teach the mentality of business I always stress that everything you do needs to come from a very clear CENTER. Everything needs to be cohesive and make sense when it relates to your brand. If you’re not being clear, you’re being confusing. And let me give you some more business Game:
“A confused customer does not buy.”
This simple principle extends to every business. When you go to a fast food restaurant, they have number combos. When you go to the movies you’re usually a line to buy a ticket. Available movies and show times are made clear. The process has been stream-lined for you so that nothing is confusing. Too much confusion and some people would just walk away. It may sound simple, but this is the psychology behind many choices businesses make. And only the “big boys” can bend these “rules”.If you’re just started out in your business, remember part of your responsibility is to make things CLEAR. Simplify them as much as possible. It may make sense to you, but it’s not you that matters – it’s your potential customers and clients that matter.
Let’s trackback to the first sentence of this post, “A fair exchange is not a robbery,” and this works on many levels. When you’re doing business there’s an exchange: Your goods and/or services for money (usually). Most people want good quality at a fair price. If the price is high and people don’t feel as though they got what they paid for, they feel “robbed”. This works on the other side of the coin as well. If someone buys a cheap product and it doesn’t last long, they still feel “robbed”. Even though they know the old saying, “You get what you pay for.”
A challenge that every entrepreneur faces is balancing PERCEIVED VALUE of their product or service with what someone is actually willing to pay. Too high, less potential sales – but you have to sell less to make a profit. Too low and potential customers may view your offering as cheap or low-quality – which means you have to sell more to make a profit. But you may be fighting an uphill battle because of its lesser PERCEIVED VALUE.
So, what do you do? You research.
You have to research your market, your potential customers, what your competition is already doing, what technology is coming in that may change quality for better or worse; and even perceived value for better or worse. Sometimes it’s best just to get something out there just to test the reaction. There’s a lot of analytics and some entrepreneurs find this boring and tedious. Personally, I’m one of them. But this is necessary work. If you treat your business like a hobby, you earn hobby money. Period, simple.
To my entrepreneurs: Is that thing on? Is your mind, one of your most important tools, on? Or is it off? Do you keep yourself in the right head-space? Is going through 2 months of revisions for 1 piece of marketing material something you’re willing to do? Do you understand its long-term importance and the wide reaching effects? Word of mouth spreads like wild-fire. Don’t set yourself up to burn down your own forest.
Remember everything you do must communicate clearly and simply. Think of that like a Hustler’s anthem.
Until next time…
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Published on February 14, 2017 19:09
February 7, 2017
Do You Let Fear Keep You From Success?
I was having a conversation with a close friend and eventually the subject of fear came up. He realized that debilitating emotion was the root cause of many of his decisions. These decisions kept him from moving forward with business ideas; it complicated romantic relationships and caused problems with family. It takes a lot of courage to admit that you’re scared. A person’s ego will look for every excuse and justification in the book to keep a blind eye to what’s really causing an issue.Fear is one of those subtle emotions that if you don’t recognize it, it can literally Dominate. In The Game we say, “The Dominant force always wins,” and what’s meant by that is what is strongest will eventually come out on top. Even if you don’t recognize it’s there, even if you don’t see it or even if you’re trying to ignore it.
According to studies, the fear of success is caused by the fear of failure. It’s the underlying Dominant force. When you fear failing at something, this affects the decisions you make. These decisions are usually decisions that will actually CAUSE failure – it’s a vicious cycle – a self-fulfilling prophecy. You fear failing, it causes sub-optimal decisions and the result of these terrible choices is failure.
As human beings, there are also other things we fear such as being emotionally hurt, not being “good enough” (feelings of inadequacy), not being accepted, not feeling cared about, being embarrassed, being judged and many more. This is all based in fear.
When I started my first business, I was doing a round of cold-calls and left a message with a business owner. I was 17 at the time and still living at home with my parents. This business owner returned my call the next day when I wasn’t home. My mother picked up the phone and the business owner automatically assumed that she was my wife. My mother was wise enough to realize this was a business call and just played along.
When I returned home my mother passed on the message. The business owner wanted to meet with me over lunch and discuss possible future business together. Now, potentially, that was a good thing. But what did I feel about the situation? I felt fear. Here I was, just 17 years old. I knew very little about business and I was scared to meet with this gentleman and possibly embarrass myself. I made the decision NOT to go. In fact, I never returned his phone call.
When I look back at that decision now, it feels silly. Whether that meeting went well or not, I chose not to even TRY. Who’s to say, we could have done business together or at the very least, I could have gained a mentor. That alone would have drastically changed my life. I don’t regret the decision I made, but I do recognize that decision was based in fear and therefore was the wrong choice. Live and learn, correct?So, what are your fears keeping you from? A better career, owning a business, standing up for your self-respect, looking into something you’re curious about?
Fear is all imagination. It’s a movie or story that you play out in your own mind. It’s not real unless you accept it as something that can BECOME real. Can your fears become real? Of course they can but look on the other side of the coin – what if they don’t? What if what you want is just on the other side of the lie you have in your head? To not even try is to be dormant. You cut yourself off from making your life just a little sweeter.
You can try to lie to yourself, you can make up justifications as to why you shouldn’t try something, but at the end of the day you know why you didn’t do it. It’s rooted in fear – plain and simple.
Don’t allow fear to get the best of you. To change your life, you have to get outside of your “box”; your comfort zone. It’s really simple: the same actions produce the same results; same causes, same effects. If you’re not happy with your effects then you need to make different decisions. Our enemy fear will always be there. It will torment you; it will tell you whatever you want to hear. It will trick you and pull you back into your comfort zone so you can feel safe and secure. And in that place, you will remain miserable.
The choice is yours, it always has been. Either you will or you won’t; you do or you don’t. You can’t play the “victim card” on this one, because nobody is doing anything to you, but you.
In the Game we say, “Life is a series of problems that must be solved,” and one of biggest problems to solve is actually YOU. The way you think and how you talk to yourself need to change otherwise you’re going to have to accept your life not changing. Your life can’t change because you’re not doing anything to MAKE it change. It can’t happen any other way. Think about it.
Until next time…
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Published on February 07, 2017 17:29
January 31, 2017
Ask A Hustler #25: Mack Misconceptions?
The first podcast of 2017 has arrived and it’s big one! In this podcast we’re going to explore some common misconceptions about what a Mack is and how he relates to the woman or women in his life.What is a Mack and Lady relationship exactly?Does a Mack force or manipulate women to do things?Is being a Mack about sleeping with a lot of women?How does a Mack gain the respect of a woman?Should a Mack be honest?Is a Mack supposed to always act coldly?Does a Mack “prey” on weak women?
All these misconceptions and many more are addressed and clearly answered. Get laced.
FAIR WARNING, THIS IS PG-13.
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Published on January 31, 2017 17:13
January 24, 2017
Real Game: Information VS Knowledge
There’s a difference between information and knowledge. This was personally something I had confusion about for many years. It caused me to waste a lot of time.In The Game we have a saying: Knowledge, Wisdom and Understanding. It breaks down like this:
(1) Knowledge: The learning phase;
(2) Wisdom: Learning how and when to use the knowledge you’ve acquired;
(3) Understanding: The “marriage” of knowledge and wisdom – complete insight.
Because you truly understand something means you can be looked at as an expert. This of course doesn’t mean you know every facet about something, but you could be considered an authority in that particular area you thoroughly understand.
A big problem is that some people get INFORMATION and KNOWLEDGE confused. If you’re not gaining knowledge, then you’re not really learning something. If you’re not learning something, then you may never acquire wisdom about it and reach a full understanding. So to simplify it – which I always like to do – let’s look at the dictionary to define these 2 words.
Information (noun)
(1) knowledge communicated or received concerning a particular fact or circumstance; news.
(2) knowledge gained through study, communication, research, instruction, etc.; factual data.
(3) the act or fact of informing.
Knowledge (noun)
(1) acquaintance with facts, truths, or principles, as from study or investigation; general erudition.
(2) familiarity or conversance, as with a particular subject or branch of learning.
(3) acquaintance or familiarity gained by sight, experience, or report.
(4) the fact or state of knowing; the perception of fact or truth; clear and certain mental apprehension.
That’s a mouth-full I know. But as we go through these definitions we see some differences. Information is primarily data and facts. Knowledge can also be facts but, it also involves study, investigation, learning, experience, familiarity, and awareness. Getting information can lead to knowledge, but alone it’s just being informed about something. Stay with me.
EXAMPLE
: Information would be getting the temperature for the day; the fact that there was an accident on the interstate near you; someone telling you that there’s a sale at your favorite store. Information is good, but there is little learning or study involved as there is with acquiring knowledge.So, it’s good to discover that your car not starting could possibly be the cause of your battery or alternator (or a few more things), but if you don’t KNOW what those are and how to check them, then you’re stuck. You would have to seek out someone who KNOWS and UNDERSTANDS more than you. You have information but no practical application of that information. You have facts but are unable to apply them to investigate or solve the problem.
If you took the time to learn how the battery and alternator work together in your vehicle, then you would have acquired knowledge; something tangible that you could use.
I’m not sure about you, but when I was in high school learning algebra, a common complaint among us students was, “When are we ever going to use this in real life?”
Granted, this was because we were lazy. However, there’s some validity behind that statement. Although you acquired information (facts) AND knowledge (learning the application of the information), once you know longer use it, you lose it. Unless your career or business path involves mathematics, would you use algebra? Do you even remember the more complicated formulas? Has your child ever come home and asked you for help with their algebra homework and you sat there looking crazy as you tried to recall the information?
You may have learned and gained KNOWLEDGE about algebra at 1 point in your life, but since you stopped using it then you didn’t proceed to gain WISDOM in it. You don’t know how and when to apply algebra equations, so you really don’t UNDERSTAND algebra.What does all this mean? Glad you asked.
I used to read – a lot. And although I had a lot of information, very little of that was knowledge. I could quote things, recite facts and regurgitate other’s ideas, but if you asked me how to USE that information for my benefit, most of the time I couldn’t.
I would read an entire book on real estate investing. I gathered a lot of information and a little knowledge, but since I never applied that knowledge, then I didn’t really learn anything. It was just facts and statistics floating around in my head. I sounded smart, but I had no WISDOM – I didn’t know HOW or WHEN to apply that knowledge. Therefore I could never claim to completely UNDERSTAND it.
I’ve said this before: knowledge is not enough! The best way to really learn something is to USE it. Then as you make your errors and mistakes you grow wise. You know how to use it and when. After that point, you start to really understand it.
Game is a great thing. It’s all information and knowledge but if you never use it, then you’ll never actually learn it. You end up cutting yourself off from wisdom and understanding. If don’t understand what you’re doing then you could be doing more harm to yourself than good. Peep Game.
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Published on January 24, 2017 16:12


