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Finding Yourself

When I was a senior in high school, I thought I had the world figured out. Didn’t we all? We were adults, brand new adults with freedoms we’d never known before. Of course that meant we knew everything!

Not so much.

What has amazed me since then is how many major life decisions we’re required to make when we’re so painfully ill-equipped to make them. Pick a major, decide where to live, choose your career, rent or buy a home, start a retirement account, etc. I could go on, but you get the point.

All those choices are things I look back on now and wish I’d done something different. But every single one of them helped me to find my true self. Without the mistakes in my past, I never would have learned who I really am. My life would have taken different turns, and I don’t believe in regretting my past. I can’t change it, and I love the life I have, so why wish it were different.

Although not going into debt would have been nice.

For every decision we make, we can learn something. We should learn something. Sometimes those life lessons teach us about the world, something about our close family and friends, and almost always they teach us about ourselves. Those are the best lessons.

What You Believe

When we’re young, we’re told what to believe. We go to church with our parents (or not), we follow their rules. We listen to our teachers and other adults around us. But once we grow up, we have to take all that information and start to form our own beliefs about the world.

As a kid, everything is black and white. It’s either right or wrong, and your parents and teachers tell you which is which. But as an adult, we have to make those own determinations. We learn that life is really more shades of gray than black or white. Every choice we make has multiple consequences. Nothing is easy like when we were simple. You will argue with the people closest to you about things you never thought mattered, but all of a sudden they do.

One of the first things you learn when you find yourself is what you believe. What make you want to stand up and shout? What makes you angry? What hurts you? Then you have to figure out how to handle all that.

What You Do

I’m a timid person. I don’t like confrontation. I shy away from conflict. I avoid people who are argumentative. It all makes me uncomfortable. I envy people who can articulate their thoughts and feelings well. I have to feel prepared. If I know what I’m going to say, or am passionate about something, I have no problem standing up for things. But as a general rule, I avoid it.

I wish I could be more vocal. I wish I could stand up more. When I feel I’m unprepared for an argument, I walk away. It’s rare that I will challenge someone.

But I can write. If you give me time to process, time to think, and time to frame a response, I’m there. It’s my personality that I don’t like in-person conflict, but I like to think I’m not going to back down. I just need time. I know what I believe, and I know how to handle confrontation my way. And it took me a long time to be okay with that, but it’s all part of who I am.

Who You Are

We are all special snowflakes. Each of us has a passion, or a few, a belief system, a personality profile, etc. Each of us is made up of complex experiences, painful and thrilling, that have helped form us. We all have thoughts and emotions and ideas that are truly unique. And all that comes together to form us.

If you have siblings, you know that you can experience the same things as someone else and have completely different reactions to it. We all handle events differently. And that’s a good thing. The person you are helps you make the choices you have to make in your life. You will be the one who decides if you buy the new house or rent an apartment for a few more years. You will decide if you go to college or start working immediately. You will decide if your dreams come true or not.

Years ago, my husband and I were looking at building a new house. We loved the house and were ready to move from our townhouse since we were about to start our family. There were tons of options out there that we could have bought, but we wanted that one. A friend questioned me about it, and I told her no one would make my dreams come true for me. I still remember that moment because it was one that reminded me who I was. I stood on my own two feet, with my husband at my side, making one of my dreams come true. It wasn’t an easy process, especially since I was pregnant through all of it, but it was worth it. When we made the decision to sell that house and move 800 miles away, it was tough to let go of that dream, but I knew I was moving toward another dream of mine. And again, no one was going to make it come true for me.

 

Finding yourself is not limited to becoming an adult. I still have to find myself every few years. We change, we shift, we adjust. But at the core is always our beliefs, what we do, and who we are.

How did you find yourself?

 

How do you say no to the one thing you’ve searched for your whole life? 

He never imagined he could feel whole again. When he meets her, she brings a light to his life that disappeared long ago. He’ll do anything to hold on to it, and her. 

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Lessons Learned from My First Love

Do you remember your first love? The first person you looked at and wondered if you would see him every day for the rest of your life?

Falling in love for the first time is tough. Most of us fall in love more than once. We find someone that teaches us how to love, but that person isn’t always the person we love forever. That honor frequently belongs to another person. Someone we met later in life. But that first love teaches us so much.

The first boy I ever really loved was a friend. He was someone I had fun with. We went to the movies and talked and got to know each other as friends. I had feelings for him, but he wasn’t the kind of guy who dated a lot. When we were in college, he cut all ties to me and all our other friends. We lost touch. It hurt. A lot. But I learned from him.

Be Open to Love

I never told him how I felt. I was scared he would stop being my friend. He was a really nice guy, but we were close enough that he would be honest with me. When I found out he was attracted to me, I realized I missed out on a chance at something that could have changed my life. A part of me regrets it, but I love my life. I wouldn’t have all the things I have if things were different with me and this other guy.

Let Go

When things ended between me and this other guy, it hurt. Bad. Like I said, he cut ties, but all I knew was he stopped talking to me. I was pretty crushed by it. I held on to that pain for a long time. I used it to shield me from other potential dates. When he called me, three years later, a lot of that pain came rushing back in. He explained that he dove into his schoolwork, but it still hurt me. At that point in my life, I wasn’t in a position to welcome him back into my heart. I’d fallen in love with my husband, but talking to him again gave me the option to let go of all the pain I’d carried around for years.

Love Isn’t Always Right

Love is a funny thing. We spend so much of our lives wishing we had it, but when we find it, it doesn’t always last. People fall out of love, sometimes it’s one sided, and maybe it ends. That’s a hard thing to accept, but if love isn’t right, it won’t last. We don’t want to think about love not being right. Maybe it’s not the right time or the right person. Maybe it’s not you, it really is him. But when it is right, you don’t have to question all those things. My first love was someone I still think of fondly, but it we were really meant to be together, we wouldn’t have gone three years without speaking. He wouldn’t have called me when I’d found and fallen for my husband. I don’t regret the choice I made to stay with the man I married. With him, love was right. It was everything.

What lesson did you learn from your first love?

 

How do you say no to the one thing you’ve searched for your whole life? 

She knows what she wants. When he walks in, she’s sure he’s the answer. She just has to convince him of it. 

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Taking It Local

So far we’ve talked about finding the perfect spot for your destination wedding and treating your guests while they’re there. In this last post, we’re going to talk about bringing the local area into your wedding.

Planning a wedding is stressful. No matter what, it’s going to be tough. But the actual wedding and the memories you make will make you smile for years. To make it even better, make it unique to you and where you spend your time!

Bring in the local flair!

Okay, you’re thinking I’m nuts. I get it. Bringing in something local will not make it unique to you. You’re not from there or living there or whatever. But if you chose to get married there, it’s a special place. And showing your guests a little about what you love about the area is absolutely going to make it unique!

So how do you do it? I’m so glad you asked!

Food

The easiest way to bring the local area into your wedding is to incorporate some local foods. Think barbecue in the south, a luau in Hawaii, or chicken wings if you come visit me in Buffalo! Every area has local foods that represent the culture of the area. Maybe you have a favorite restaurant in the area. See if they can fix an appetizer if you don’t want them to prepare the entire wedding. Or a special dessert. You can also try something completely new! If you’re going to an area you haven’t been to before, ask family, friends, or the person helping you plan your wedding (I highly recommend working with a local) for suggestions. It’s a wonderful way to honor the place you’re visiting and introduce your guests to something new.

Traditions

You might not think of local traditions immediately, but it wouldn’t take much to learn about them. In Hawaii, leis are a part of everything. They welcome visitors to the island, are used in many local traditions, and there are special ones for a wedding. I can’t imagine a wedding in Hawaii without leis. Just like a beach wedding wouldn’t be complete without sand in your shoes, local traditions can be a lot of fun to bring into your wedding.

Things To Do

We talked last time about treating your guests and planning events together, but I thought that was important enough to mention again here. Show your family and friends around the area where you’re staying. Your wedding doesn’t have to be just one day when you have a destination wedding. You can spend a week or a few days with your loved ones, showing them around your chosen location. In Boy vs. Girl, and all of the Opposites Attract stories, the couple getting married, and sometimes their friends and family, go surfing! You can take a tour of the local area, go visit a famous landmark, or meet at your favorite restaurant. Any number of things can bring all your guests together so they can see exactly what you love about the place you chose to celebrate your love!

How can you take your destination wedding local?

 

How do you resist what you want?

Been there, done that. Had the scars on my heart to prove it. I was not getting involved with anyone else. It wasn’t worth it. But she didn’t want anything except a fling. We agreed from the start. Then everything changed. I wanted more. But I was the only one. 

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Boy vs. Girl, the best of friends

When I started Big & Beautiful, I knew I wanted the series to center around a group of friends. I loved creating that tight group, and I wanted the same as I continued the series with Opposites Attract. But men are different than women. Their relationships aren’t the same. Sometimes that makes them a little more fun!

Excerpt from Boy vs. Girl

Thankfully, Alvin stopped in the kitchen when he got to Opposites Attract. “You screw up today?” 

“No! Why?” 

“Kiana said something to Ada when I was walking by. She’s kind of pissed.” 

I shook my head. “She wrote no onions on the back of the menu and I missed it. I also missed her note on the back about me being responsible for desserts.” 

“Damn, you did screw up.” 

I flipped him off. 

Alvin laughed. “Does everything have onions?” 

I sighed. “Not everything. And I took them all out. Tell me if you can taste the onions in any of this.” 

He dipped a chip into the salsa I set in front of him and sniffed it. He eased it into his big fat mouth, testing it with the tip of his tongue first. 

I just shook my head. 

Then he went for a spoonful of chicken salad. He finished with the fried rice. 

“How is it?” 

He shrugged. “It’s good.” 

“Does it taste like onions?” 

He shrugged again. “How would I know?” 

“You’re worthless. Get out of my kitchen.” 

He grabbed another chip full of salsa and popped it into his mouth on his way out the back door.

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Treat Your Guests

If you missed my last post about choosing a great location for your destination wedding, you can read that here. 

Congratulations again!

Planning your wedding is so much fun, but it can be stressful. When you plan a destination wedding, things can be both easier and harder.

Once you’ve decided where you’re going to get married, you need to talk to your guests. Destination weddings tend to be smaller since a vacation is involved, but that just means you won’t be inviting your mom’s first boss that she still sends a Christmas card to, but hasn’t seen in twenty years. Count your blessings!

The guests that do come to your wedding will be the people you’re closest to. They will be your parents, your best friends, your siblings. They’re going to be paying a lot of money to share in your wedding with you, so treating them, and treating them well, will be very important.

Most of you won’t be able to pay for your guests to travel. If you can, you’re a rock star, but if you can’t, don’t feel bad. Most of us wouldn’t be able to pay for flights, hotels, and meals for multiple people for an extended stay in a fabulous location. That’s okay! Your family and friends can handle it, and the number that are willing to is a testament to you and how much they love you. If they can’t come, don’t feel bad. Maybe you can plan a night out when you get home with family and friends who couldn’t make the trip.

For those who do make the trip, I want to share a few things you can do to make them feel special and to help them have a great time.

Plan Ahead

Before you even tell them about the wedding, find accommodations they will enjoy. If everyone coming is family, or close friends, consider looking into large houses for rent. You could offer up the idea of everyone sharing one large space and splitting the cost instead of everyone getting a hotel room. If you don’t think that will work, do research into local hotels and hold a block of rooms at a discounted price for your guests. Having everyone stay in the same location will make it possible for them to carpool to events or plan things together. If you do a little research ahead of time, it’ll make things easier for them.

Get Together

Depending on how long everyone is in town for, you could plan a group activity. Wherever you’re going, there’s bound to be a lot to do. Think of something the majority of your guests would enjoy, whether it’s surfing in Hawaii, a museum tour in DC, or hiking in the mountains, take time for everyone to get together. Plan it well in advance, and if possible, you can pay for it. Your guests will appreciate the time with you and your soon-to-be spouse in a low-key environment.

Share Ideas

You know the location. Maybe it’s not a place you’ve been to often, or at all, but you’re planning your wedding there. You know it better than your guests are likely to. Put together a visitor’s guide of your favorite places and things to do. You can email it to all your guests before the wedding so they can plan ahead, and include a copy in a gift basket you leave in the room for them. This way they have built in ideas to stay busy without having to figure it all out themselves.

Give Back

One of the sweetest things you can do for your guests is give them a gift. They traveled to be with you for your wedding. They’re the people you’re closest to in the world. You love them, I know you do. So give them a gift. Maybe take whatever you would normally have as a favor and include it in a gift basket. Take a few local items, a couple things that mean something to you, and a few useful items for their trip. Most hotels will be happy to leave gift baskets in the rooms your guests will be checking in to.

If you’re going to a beach location, add sunscreen and a hat to a small beach bag with a map of the area that has all your favorite beaches marked. You could throw in a few bottles of water or a bottle of wine, too.

If you’re headed into the city, give a gift card to a favorite local restaurant. Add in a flyer about the museum down the street and a pint glass from the local brewery you always stop by first.

If you’re keeping it quiet at a lakeside retreat, give your guests a welcome basket with snacks and bottles of water (reusable with your name and date could be fun and useful). If a grocery store is far away, they’ll really appreciate the food. Add in walking or driving directions to your favorite spots to keep them entertained.

Be Present

The hardest thing with any wedding is feeling like you got to visit with all your guests. For a destination wedding, you might luck out and have a longer period of time with your guests. If you do, try to be there with them. Plan a trip to the spa with your mom, sister, and girlfriends. Plan a date night with your dad. Spend time with your grandma when everyone else is out doing something else. No matter what you think, your life will be different when you get married. You’ll still see the people you love, but it might be more of a challenge, and it might not be one on one. Take some time to see the people you love the most and tell them how much you appreciate them sharing your special day with you.

They love you!

No matter what you do, your guests love you. They want to be there with you, and adding in a little something extra that they don’t expect will be a nice surprise when they show up to celebrate. Have fun with it!

What would you do to treat your guests?

 

How do you resist what you want?

I never should have gotten involved. I was smarter than that. But she was impossible to resist. And after I stopped resisting, I wanted more and more of her, from her, with her. It was my fault. I knew better. I still couldn’t stop myself. 

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Where will your dreams take you?

Congratulations! You’re getting married. The easy part is over. You found the one person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Now you need to plan the wedding.

And you thought finding him was hard. Ha!

I’m just kidding, well sort of. Planning your wedding is not as easy as we’d all like to think it is. You can have anything you want. It’s your big day. But I know that isn’t always practical.

What could be a lot of fun is a destination wedding. Where would you go?

Destination weddings have become more and more popular over the last few years. It’s a chance to get away from all the stress of every day life and relax with your closest family and friends in a different location. No, it isn’t cheap, but you can do it in a way that doesn’t break the bank.

First, you have to figure out where you want to go.

Did you meet somewhere that’s special to you? Did you go on vacation somewhere that you love? Are you planning a honeymoon? Those answers could help guide you to your ideal destination wedding location.

Just for you

If you met somewhere special, it might be a good choice for a destination wedding. My husband and I met in college, and we love our alma mater. We’ve been in the crowd at football games when fans have actually gotten married at halftime, or been brought onto the field before opening kick-off to be announced. That would be pretty awesome!

There are all kinds of ideas to use the place you met, especially if you don’t live there anymore. Take a trip down memory lane, literally, and turn it into a wedding adventure for all your guests!

Going back

Where was your first vacation together? Or your favorite vacation? If you’ve ever been someplace together that you loved and wanted to return to because it became your place, maybe you should get married there. A destination wedding doesn’t have to be somewhere tropical or popular. You can go back to the lakeside cabin you rented your first weekend away. Or to the mountain resort you stayed at on a skiing trip. Or, yes, you can head back to the beach where you first said I love you. Think of a place that is special and meaningful to the two of you, and go there!

Two birds, one stone

If you’re planning to go on a honeymoon, you can always plan your wedding at the same location. Friends of mine eloped on a cruise ship. They got married on the ship before they left their first port of call and spent the rest of the cruise on their honeymoon. When we were on our honeymoon in Hawaii, a couple and their families wandered off the beach in wedding wear into the luau we were at, clearly having just been married on the beach at sunset.

One of the obvious downsides to getting married in the same location where you’re going on your honeymoon is you might spend your honeymoon with family and friends instead of with just your new spouse, but if you’re okay with that, go for it!

What speaks to you?

Planning your wedding is one of the most personal things you can do. You’re blending your private life with your future spouse and your public life with family and friends. It’s a chance for you to show your family and friends the things you love about each other and love to do together. And the right destination will definitely start your marriage off in a way that’s special and meaningful and perfect for you.

Where do you dream of getting married?

 

I needed to do something to take my mind off being stuck on an island and unable to get in the water. He was a really nice distraction. Until I started to want him more than my dream. 

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Boy vs. Girl is here!

I’m so happy for this day to arrive! After being away from Winterville for months, I was thrilled to bring most of the Big & Beautiful gang back together in a new Opposites Attract story.

But outside Noah and Tara’s wedding, we have Micah and Ginny getting to know each other. It starts as an innocent hook-up. No strings, no depth, just sex. But sex becomes more and neither of them knows how to handle it.

I love it when that happens!

Excerpt from Boy vs. Girl

“I’m not sure about him,” Kapena whispered, leaning against the bar next to me. “There’s a hot woman hitting on him, and instead of ditching us, he’s lying and telling her he’s with someone else. What’s up with that?” 

“Why are you asking me?” I blurted. 

Kapena laughed slightly and cocked his head at me. “What’s up?” 

“What do you mean?” 

“You’re snappy today. You PMS’ing?” 

“Seriously, Kapena? I’m in a shitty mood so I must be on my period? That’s low, even for you. You know me better than that.” 

He stalled and tossed his long hair over his shoulder. “Yeah, I do. And I’ve always talked to you like I am now. You’re one of the guys. That’s what I invited you over here. You’re acting like a woman right now. Like a jealous woman.” 

“Guess what? I am a woman. I have boobs and a vagina and messy shit called emotions. And Micah shouldn’t have to take home some slutty bitch just because she’s hot. He should be able to choose who he sleeps with, not be told.” 

Kapena leaned back and looked closely at me. His head swiveled to take in Micah, who was staring at me. Then Kapena looked back at me. “No shit? Something’s going on with you two?” 

I glanced at Micah and shook my head. “No. You know how I am. He’s got commitment written all over him, and I’m not sticking around long enough to make one. We slept together a couple times, but it’s just sex.” 

“Then why are you acting like a jealous girlfriend?”

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Boy vs. Girl, what are you good at?

I can’t believe Boy vs. Girl will be out in just two weeks! Are you ready for it?

I am. I can’t wait to share Ginny and Micah with you. They start out as friends of friends. They don’t really know each other. But it isn’t long before they’re more than either of them bargained for.

Ginny is definitely the aggressor in this relationship. She’s a woman who knows what she wants, and what she’s good at. What are you good at?

Did you notice the cover is new, too? I’m redesigning all the Opposites Attract covers. The new cover will be on every book when it comes out, and I’ll get new covers on Order vs. Chaos and Better vs. Worse. I hope you like them!

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Faking It

Football is a complicated sport. Sure, we want to believe the men who play are just lumps of muscle without much in their heads, but they have to remember complicated plays and move at lightning speed in order to do well. That’s even harder at every level they move up in the game. The men who play professional football are the best of the best. They’re smart and fast and talented.

They’ve also studied the game for years.

You’re not going to know everything about the game of football in a few posts from me. Hell, I don’t know everything. Not by a long shot. But I know enough to get by, and can fake it the rest of the way. I’ve been watching football for more than three decades. Consistently. I’ve never played, but I’ve watched hours and hours of games, in person and on TV. I can impress men who think they know more than every woman they’ve ever met, and I regularly do.

So can you.

How? Follow three quick and easy tips.

Watch the ball.

The majority of flags will be thrown because of something that happens around the ball. If you keep your eyes on the ball, you’ll see if the receiver steps out of bounds. You’ll see if he gets one or two feet in after he catches the ball. You’ll see if it gets tipped and thrown off its course. You’ll see a lot. So will everyone else, but you won’t be standing there asking what happened (most of the time) if you keep your eye on the ball.

Watch the quarterback. Or the kicker.

The quarterback is arguably the most important person on the field at any given time. When he’s not on the field, during a kick-off, punt, or field goal attempt, the kicker is the most important person. Why do I say that? Because that’s the person in charge of the play. If the quarterback throws the ball, then gets hit, there could be a flag (the defense can take no more than two steps to allow for momentum – if they don’t stop, they get a penalty). Any time the kicker is hit (unless someone gets blocked into him), a flag comes out. These are considered defenseless players. They shouldn’t be hit at that point. So watch them.

The quarterback will control the game. You’ll see a sack coming that he doesn’t. You’ll see where he’s going to throw the ball before he lets go. You’ll see a perfectly timed leap by the defense to block that pass. You’ll see a lot if you keep your eyes on the quarterback.

The kicker is the same. When he’s getting ready to kick the ball, you’ll see him focused and ready. You’ll see him focused, even with someone charging him. Players can try to block a kick, but they’re not allowed to hit the punter or kicker. It’s ugly when that happens. Picture it. The punter has the ball, punts it away, his leg is up and he’s balanced on one foot. And a huge man comes in and tackles him. That could end a career. So he’s protected. Now, if the snap sucks and he has to chase the ball and becomes another player on the field, that’s different. He can be tackled, but if he’s kicking, he’s somewhat safe. (It is football!)

Watch the line of scrimmage.

A lot happens at the line of scrimmage. It’s where the ball is set at the beginning of each play. If someone jumps before the snap, you’ll see it watching the line. After the snap, the quarterback has to know where the line is so he doesn’t step over it and throw the ball. If he does, it’s a forward pass, which isn’t allowed in front of the line of scrimmage. It’ll also tell you if the offense moved the ball or got taken down for a loss. The men on the sidelines with the orange markers will show what down it is and you can judge how far the ball needs to go. On TV, they use colored lines to show you all this. You know it’s important if they developed technology to make sense of it!

It was quick, and it was dirty, but I hope you learned something through this short series of posts. I love football. It’s my favorite sport to watch, so much that I barely care who’s playing when I watch a game. It’s a fun game, and if you’re in the US, it’s everywhere! Bring on football season!

Where do you keep your eyes during a play?

 

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She doesn’t have time for a cocky football player or a relationship. She doesn’t really want him either. At least, that’s what she tells herself. Then he makes her laugh, and makes her feel beautiful, and she’s not sure what she wants anymore. 

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Follow the Rules!

One of my big pet peeves is when things aren’t fair and equal. Yeah, I know, that’s life, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay.

When you’re playing a game like football, with rules that are supposed to keep things balanced between the two teams on the field, you need to make sure everything is equal. Both teams, no matter their inherent skill, should have an equal shot at winning. Yes, one team is always going to be better, but the refs shouldn’t make that difference even broader.

There are more rules than I can go over right now, but I want to touch on a few that are common and important. Are you ready?

Ready? Set. Go!

The quarterback decides when the ball should be snapped. The has a signal for the rest of the team. The first person to move is the center, the guy who has his hand on the ball. Until the center moves, no one else is allowed to move, once everyone is set.

If the offense jumps before the center snaps the ball, it’s called a false start. If the defense jumps, it’s offsides. Either way, the play is reset in a new spot – usually either five yards forward or back depending on who jumped. There are times when the penalty is more severe – like when someone comes across the line and tackles the quarterback – but typically, you’ll see either a false start or offsides.

Stay out of the way!

Pass interference is another common one. Basically, neither team can prevent the other from catching the ball by getting in the way of a player. You can smack the ball away, catch the ball instead of the player it was intended for, or get a hand in so he can’t catch it, but if you shove the guy out of the way, they’re going to throw a flag. That’s on offense or defense. If the ball is coming to you and you shove the defender away so you can catch the ball, you’re going to get a flag. It works both ways, but pass interference is more commonly called on the defense.

Catch the ball!

Have you ever wondered how everyone around you knows if the catch on the sidelines was good or not? Usually it’s the receiver’s feet. In professional football, two feet need to touch the field in bounds. In college and lower levels, only one has to touch. A foot is considered pretty much any part – a toe, the entire foot, even a knee. Once a player’s knee touches the ground, he’s considered down (mostly), but a knee and a toe will count in professional football as a completed pass.

The other part of that is the receiver has to have control before he gets that foot or two in bounds. That means the ball can’t be moving. If he’s bobbling the ball, he needs a step or two (depending on the level) after he has complete control of the ball. If he’s diving for it, he has to land and keep control of the ball. There are some exceptions to this, when the rule on the field is that the ground knocked the ball out and otherwise he would have maintained control. For the most part though, as long as he gets his feet down, he’s good.

There’s always more!

Yeah, there are more rules. Lots more really. But if you can understand those couple rules, you’ll get most of the game. Next time we’ll talk a little bit about how to fake the rest of it so you can follow along with the game and know what’s going on.

What other rules do you not understand?

 

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