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Play to Win

Bronnie Ware worked as a nurse for seriously ill people for many years, often being with them just before they died. In her conversations over the years, she noted thatpeople in her care told her they had the same types of regrets. She wrote a blog post about it called “Regrets of the Dying.” The […]

Don’t Try Harder, Try Smarter

If there was anyone “born lazy,” it was me. Growing up, I was content to play video games all day. When it came to school work orchores, I wasn’t interested. I’ve never had the type of work ethic or inexhaustible motivation that some people seemed to have. Heck, I’d have been happy to have an […]

Why All Diets Fail

Can you guess the #1 issue with 99.9% of all weight loss solutions ever devised? Sustainability. Neither 30-day diets or 10-day juice fasts are real solutions for weight loss. These are foreign behavioral and dietary anomalies that your mind and body will force-correct in time. They can create the illusion of change, but unless your […]

4 Scientifically Proven Ways to Relax Your Mind

Mental relaxation is elusive. Even during physical relaxation, the mind can stress out. Someailments likemuscle tension are oftencausedbya mind that can’t stop (perhaps because of anxiety). It’s best torelax the mind directly because the mind controls the body.If you are able to relax the mind, the body will follow. Here are some ways to directly […]

How to Win the Mental Battle and Overcome Resistance

I’m familiar with “not feeling it” when it comes to doing productive and healthy behaviors. I’m familiar with the struggle that takes place inside of the mind, when part of you wants to do what’s best for you, but another part of you feels like doing nothing or something more fun. This internal battle causes […]

Be Happier With A Positivity Bias

Caption: Cats are the key to happiness, but if you’re allergic or something, try developing a positivity bias. Negative events are almost universally more interesting to us than positive ones. The other day I saw a murder caseTV special about a psychopath killing a nice woman. Ugh. After it was over, I felt angry and […]

Events Don’t Make Winners

It’s hard not to see it the wrong way. Sports teams hoist the trophy after they win the big game, and not a moment sooner.Only one teamis namedchampion, even if the teams are similarly skilled and equally deserving of victory. This distorts our view of success. The losing team sulks because they lost,buttheymay still be […]

Sink Your Sunk Costs (or Be Sunk)

I recentlyvisited San Antonio, TX to see if I wanted to live there.It looked just about perfect on paper. I paid for roundtrip airfare, car rental, and a hotel for several days. Shortly after arriving,I realized that San Antonio has somewhat high population densityand a road system that resembled a pile of worms. I like […]

Beware of Advice From Successful Outliers

The danger of listening to anyone who has been successful is the great chance that they don’t fully understand the reason(s) for their success. For example, theworld is stuck on “getting motivated” because so many peoplecredit it as the key to their success. Good Habits Get WinsandMotivation Steals the Credit Habits are stealthy because they […]

Never Live Like You’re Behind

Is there an area in which you feel like you’re “behind” where you should be? Do you feel behind infriends, money, respect, free time, happiness, productivity, fitness, health, organization, relationships, or success in general? If an area comes to mind, think about it as you read through this post. Duke Was Behind, and Then This […]