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When your partner is going through grief or depression (that lasts longer than you would like)

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When your partner is going through grief or depression (that lasts longer than you would like)

What do you do when one spouse takes longer to grieve or to get through a depression? It is a challenging place when your spouse is going through a hard time. You want them to feel better and you also don’t like the impact it is having on your life. Ultimately, being in a relationship […]

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When your spouse is unreliable

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When your spouse is unreliable

Feeling like your spouse is unreliable is very disappointing. It’s hard enough raising a family, going to work, dealing with all of the responsibilities of life! Not being able to depend on the other adult in your immediate compounds that difficulty.   What to do when your partner is unreliable There are several reasons why […]

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Should you work on your own “stuff” before trying couples work?

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Should you work on your own “stuff” before trying couples work?

For many couples, or one partner, even going to marriage counseling is a big stretch.  You may be afraid the therapist will take sides or blame you. You may even think that addressing the situation will make it worse.  That’s why it is extremely unhelpful for a therapist to tell one partner that he/she needs […]

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How do you know if you need marriage counseling?

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How do you know if you need marriage counseling?

If you’re wondering when it’s time to think about going to marriage counseling, know that here are signs that a couple would benefit from marriage counseling and some of those signs may seem obvious to one and not appear obvious to another! Signs that marriage counseling can be beneficial for you The littlest conversations turn […]

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What is the best marital therapy? How is Gottman different from Imago therapy?

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What is the best marital therapy? How is Gottman different from Imago therapy?

With all of the choices of marriage counselors practicing different kinds of therapy modalities out there, how can you know what is the best marital therapy and most importantly, what is the best marriage help for your unique situation? Let’s talk about the differences between Gottman therapy and Imago therapy as those are two very […]

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When your partner upsets with negativity

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When your partner upsets with negativity

Sometimes there’s a situation in a relationship where one partner is working hard to be more positive and the other partner is consistently negative. This can start as a minor annoyance and grow to something catastrophic for a marriage. It’s a relationship dynamic that can be incredibly hard, especially for the one that is working […]

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What to do if you are no longer physically attracted to your spouse?

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What to do if you are no longer physically attracted to your spouse?

Life happens, kids happen, weight gain happens. And sometimes our partner can look very different than they did when we first met. What can you do if you are no longer physically attracted to your partner? Let’s think back to when you first fell in love and knew you wanted to commit to the one […]

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Are there any couples that are beyond help? Is it ever just too late?

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Are there any couples that are beyond help? Is it ever just too late?

Lots of couples talk with us about their situation and then ask if they’re the worst couple we’ve ever seen. The answer is usually no of course 🙂 Underneath their question is a deeper one which is- “Are we beyond hope? Is this just too messy to fix and is it just too late for […]

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When you physically recoil from your spouse due to past sexual trauma

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When you physically recoil from your spouse due to past sexual trauma

Any past traumatic experience keeps a person in survival mode- a tensing of the physical body and the mind – as the brain has one job, which is to keep you safe. Anything that reminds you of the past trauma is going to trigger you and make you feel super reactive all the time because […]

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When you can’t trust your spouse, how can you participate in couples counseling? And why should you?

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When you can’t trust your spouse, how can you participate in couples counseling? And why should you?

If you can’t trust your spouse, you might be asking yourself why you should even spend the time sitting in the room with him/her working on your marriage! After all, they are the one that cheated and/or betrayed your trust, that wasn’t something you chose to do. This question is one that we get asked […]

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