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February 4, 2017
Hawaii #54 - Cold feet
We’ve all heard those stories of "cold feet" in the days, weeks or months before the wedding, and even on the day itself. A few of us may have even witnessed it first hand with friends, family, guided someone close through it, or experienced it personally.
As was the case at a friend’s 2001 spring wedding in Hawaii, our groom to be, Lamont Lewis, was thinking about what lay ahead, just hours before the ceremony, hanging out in his suite with Bob and his best man, Isaiah Washington. Shit don’t get more real than that, as the minutes tick down to ceremony kick-off.
“I don’t know if I’m making the correct decision here,” Lamont said with some
weariness. “I’d call the wedding off, right now if I had more guts. But I don’t. So,
I’ll just go through with it and get a divorce later.”
“Wow, that’s heavy,” I said, “and you’re just realizing it right at this very moment?”
“Well, it’s been building for a while. But I can’t call it off. Everyone’s here. It would
ruin the day. There’d also be a lot of money down the drain. Ku’ene’s family would
freak out.”
“Yes, but your whole life together is at stake. Marriage is serious.”
“Nothing a divorce can’t fix. He can just play along for a while,” said Isaiah coolly,
“like a lot of other trapped married folks out there.”
When this happens, there’s a lot of stuff going on inside your head and heart, and no matter what any other person is willing to tell you, you still need to make up your own mind as to what you want to do. It’s your life after all, and you’ll be dealing with the consequences.
What to do ... what to do?
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As was the case at a friend’s 2001 spring wedding in Hawaii, our groom to be, Lamont Lewis, was thinking about what lay ahead, just hours before the ceremony, hanging out in his suite with Bob and his best man, Isaiah Washington. Shit don’t get more real than that, as the minutes tick down to ceremony kick-off.
“I don’t know if I’m making the correct decision here,” Lamont said with some
weariness. “I’d call the wedding off, right now if I had more guts. But I don’t. So,
I’ll just go through with it and get a divorce later.”
“Wow, that’s heavy,” I said, “and you’re just realizing it right at this very moment?”
“Well, it’s been building for a while. But I can’t call it off. Everyone’s here. It would
ruin the day. There’d also be a lot of money down the drain. Ku’ene’s family would
freak out.”
“Yes, but your whole life together is at stake. Marriage is serious.”
“Nothing a divorce can’t fix. He can just play along for a while,” said Isaiah coolly,
“like a lot of other trapped married folks out there.”
When this happens, there’s a lot of stuff going on inside your head and heart, and no matter what any other person is willing to tell you, you still need to make up your own mind as to what you want to do. It’s your life after all, and you’ll be dealing with the consequences.
What to do ... what to do?
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December 10, 2016
Cancun #25 - Truth + Honesty
There’s an old Chinese saying, "May you live in interesting times." Bob thinks we’re there right now, for many reasons. One facet therein is that what’s true and not, is becoming ever harder to discern, in part because there seems to be less regard to its importance to begin with. What may be more of a factor is to spin a good tale to capture ears and eyeballs, further a cause (phantom or otherwise), move the sheeple along a certain way, or win the day.
Perhaps truth and honesty are overrated, or at best, they need to be saved for a rainy day in a specific time window, for just five minutes, and only if it’s the fifth Tuesday of that month (that happens to fall on a Saturday). Then you will know it’s the real deal!
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Perhaps truth and honesty are overrated, or at best, they need to be saved for a rainy day in a specific time window, for just five minutes, and only if it’s the fifth Tuesday of that month (that happens to fall on a Saturday). Then you will know it’s the real deal!
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October 30, 2016
Amman #52 - Don't be evil
We live in a world of dualities, with the classic good / evil polarity pair being but one, like hot / cold, large / small, and love / hate among others. Where does one pole or extreme end and the other start? It can be hard to determine sometimes, and other times, it might be much more clear.
The topic came up in discussion at a Middle East wedding years back, when one of Bob’s friends had been out there having some fun and frolic the night before, and a few others in the group may have been fast to judge said friend’s behavior on the matter.
“Well, it’s all relative. It wouldn’t be my style, but I don’t begrudge Pickett taking
advantage of a spontaneous opportunity. They made a grown-up choice. It’s the
way of the world—like them Booble boys and ‘don’t be evil.’”
“Thanks for the hall pass, Bob,” said Pickett, smiling. “I’ll sleep better tonight.”
“Hold on there, I’m not done. ‘Don’t be evil’ is nothing like ‘do good,’ which is more
proactive. It’s rather a bit more ambivalent—like, ‘lemme wait and see if I benefit
before I wade in.’ Or maybe, ‘by pausing, I can hinder things.’ Bad stuff can also
happen when nothing’s done, but no one was ‘evil’ per se. There’s a whole gray
spectrum between ‘doing good’ and ‘being evil.’”
You know that stuff be truth, and folks be pullin' that kind of crap every single day of the week (and twice on a Sunday), be it for bidni$$ or in their personal lives.
So, how evil is / was Booble, and how do they stack up to all the other evil going on out there in the world, uhm, like say Halloween and its origins, creepy clowns and other small shit like that?
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The topic came up in discussion at a Middle East wedding years back, when one of Bob’s friends had been out there having some fun and frolic the night before, and a few others in the group may have been fast to judge said friend’s behavior on the matter.
“Well, it’s all relative. It wouldn’t be my style, but I don’t begrudge Pickett taking
advantage of a spontaneous opportunity. They made a grown-up choice. It’s the
way of the world—like them Booble boys and ‘don’t be evil.’”
“Thanks for the hall pass, Bob,” said Pickett, smiling. “I’ll sleep better tonight.”
“Hold on there, I’m not done. ‘Don’t be evil’ is nothing like ‘do good,’ which is more
proactive. It’s rather a bit more ambivalent—like, ‘lemme wait and see if I benefit
before I wade in.’ Or maybe, ‘by pausing, I can hinder things.’ Bad stuff can also
happen when nothing’s done, but no one was ‘evil’ per se. There’s a whole gray
spectrum between ‘doing good’ and ‘being evil.’”
You know that stuff be truth, and folks be pullin' that kind of crap every single day of the week (and twice on a Sunday), be it for bidni$$ or in their personal lives.
So, how evil is / was Booble, and how do they stack up to all the other evil going on out there in the world, uhm, like say Halloween and its origins, creepy clowns and other small shit like that?
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September 18, 2016
Barcelona #62 - Picking Partners Presciently
We’ve all seen this situation before, if not perhaps experienced it firsthand. It’s when someone (or your own sorry ass) has a new partner, and it seems that new person is not liked by just about everyone.
It’s quite common that new love ain’t gonna be loved by all equally, right away, or ever. But, if said individual is reviled and despised by every single mofo—family, friend and foe alike, one should consider it a subtle hint. Ya think?!
It seems that some of us will still continue the mad march to marriage, and dealing with the consequences thereafter.
Sometimes, the match is just otherwise bad to begin with, and it doesn’t take very long at all for shit to slip sideways.
Maybe what's needed is just thinking a wee bit about your "forever" partner beforehand, knowing what they're really about and if a good fit for the long haul.
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It’s quite common that new love ain’t gonna be loved by all equally, right away, or ever. But, if said individual is reviled and despised by every single mofo—family, friend and foe alike, one should consider it a subtle hint. Ya think?!
It seems that some of us will still continue the mad march to marriage, and dealing with the consequences thereafter.
Sometimes, the match is just otherwise bad to begin with, and it doesn’t take very long at all for shit to slip sideways.
Maybe what's needed is just thinking a wee bit about your "forever" partner beforehand, knowing what they're really about and if a good fit for the long haul.
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August 2, 2016
Santiago #30 - Illuminati(on)
So one is out there living life in the rat race, and over time, it slowly dawns on your sorry ass that stuff in the world really doesn’t seem to work the way they say it does. You start spending time questioning stuff, and doing a little digging, and then you incrementally shine some added light on the darker, hidden corners of the world. Not that it’s lying buried deep, but more hidden in plain sight, amidst all the background noise of distractions and events supposedly happening out there.
And you won’t see or read about any of it in the mainstream news. This stuff is also NOT taught in school either, because they definitely don’t want folks to figure it out.
Bob’s just some single guy at a wedding in South America, but for a few moments, he was thinking about such stuff while sitting in the back of the church, being a little bored with the full-on Catholic ceremony going down.
I struggled with longer form ceremonies of any nature, unless there was something very
unusual going on. But even then, I was not looking for extreme religious experiences—like,
say, the evil Illuminati child sacrifice "coming-of-age" practice performed deep within the
Vatican’s bowels and in other super-secret European lairs. The planet was filled with
crazy-ass fucked-up shit, and not enough occupants knew what was really going down.
So whaddup with all that!?
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And you won’t see or read about any of it in the mainstream news. This stuff is also NOT taught in school either, because they definitely don’t want folks to figure it out.
Bob’s just some single guy at a wedding in South America, but for a few moments, he was thinking about such stuff while sitting in the back of the church, being a little bored with the full-on Catholic ceremony going down.
I struggled with longer form ceremonies of any nature, unless there was something very
unusual going on. But even then, I was not looking for extreme religious experiences—like,
say, the evil Illuminati child sacrifice "coming-of-age" practice performed deep within the
Vatican’s bowels and in other super-secret European lairs. The planet was filled with
crazy-ass fucked-up shit, and not enough occupants knew what was really going down.
So whaddup with all that!?
FULL POSTING:
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June 28, 2016
Meet the Author Monday | Heidi Angell
Meet the Author Monday with Bob Boguslavski
June 27, 2016 | Heidi Angell
Hello Lovelies,
Another exciting author interview, today we get to meet Bob Boguslavski, who is a world wanderer, part-time typist, occasional wedding guest, marriage dodger, digital crate digger, experience + inane info accumulator and bon vivant. He is quite a creative fellow. Let's get on to the interview!
Hello Bob, and welcome to An Angell's Life. What is the current book you are promoting?
Wedding Chronicles is my first novel (of an eventual trilogy), which recounts some of the nuptials I have attended around the world, spun from a unique, “out there” male perspective.
Its delivery and style is NOT your typical female-narrated and -driven romance novel with guaranteed HEA.
FULL POSTINGS:
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June 27, 2016 | Heidi Angell
Hello Lovelies,
Another exciting author interview, today we get to meet Bob Boguslavski, who is a world wanderer, part-time typist, occasional wedding guest, marriage dodger, digital crate digger, experience + inane info accumulator and bon vivant. He is quite a creative fellow. Let's get on to the interview!
Hello Bob, and welcome to An Angell's Life. What is the current book you are promoting?
Wedding Chronicles is my first novel (of an eventual trilogy), which recounts some of the nuptials I have attended around the world, spun from a unique, “out there” male perspective.
Its delivery and style is NOT your typical female-narrated and -driven romance novel with guaranteed HEA.
FULL POSTINGS:
http://www.HeidiAngell.com/#!Meet-the...
http://BobNBoguslavski.com/News/view/...
June 13, 2016
Brands and altered reality
Throughout Wedding Chronicles, a bunch of brands and product placement references have been sprinkled about, but many are not spelled correctly. Bob does know how to spell, most of the time (depending on the language), and it's done on porpoise here for effect.
Kokee Kola + Appfull
Same deal going on here with certain "f(r)ictionalized" people mentions like Dom Cruz, Will Klintun, Rick Chany, Anne Coalturd and others, for the purposes of satire and parody.
It may have been presciently planned on Bob's part, but there seems to be a tie-in to real changes similarly going on today right in front of our eyes. Many brands / products, media (e.g., books, movies, TV shows, music), titles, names, symbols, events and other references have all mysteriously seemingly subtly changed.
It's something called the Mandela Effect.
FULL POSTING:
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Kokee Kola + Appfull
Same deal going on here with certain "f(r)ictionalized" people mentions like Dom Cruz, Will Klintun, Rick Chany, Anne Coalturd and others, for the purposes of satire and parody.
It may have been presciently planned on Bob's part, but there seems to be a tie-in to real changes similarly going on today right in front of our eyes. Many brands / products, media (e.g., books, movies, TV shows, music), titles, names, symbols, events and other references have all mysteriously seemingly subtly changed.
It's something called the Mandela Effect.
FULL POSTING:
http://BobNBoguslavski.com/News/view/...
May 8, 2016
Tenerife #18 - Kicking it up a notch
On a great stag night two days before the wedding, Bob was out with groom Dudley Steele and another dozen buddies from England, Spain, the Netherlands and Germany in Puerto de la Cruz on Tenerife's north side.
Rounds of warm-up beers were followed by dinner at an Indian restaurant, where "somebody" decided it might be interesting to see how much heat could be put out there in one dish.
What culinary experience ensued, with some violent reactions, was the group getting “ghost peppered” there.
On the Scoville scale of measuring the “bring the heat” factor, the Indian Ghost Pepper, or bhut jolokia (and a few other names), is way up there at the top.
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Rounds of warm-up beers were followed by dinner at an Indian restaurant, where "somebody" decided it might be interesting to see how much heat could be put out there in one dish.
What culinary experience ensued, with some violent reactions, was the group getting “ghost peppered” there.
On the Scoville scale of measuring the “bring the heat” factor, the Indian Ghost Pepper, or bhut jolokia (and a few other names), is way up there at the top.
Full Posting:
http://BobNBoguslavski.com/News/view/...
March 12, 2016
Los Angeles #70 - Japanese Vending Machines
At a wedding as best man right after the Northeast Blackout of 2003, you find yourself in conversation about things being REALLY different in Japan with a relative of the bride, since a large contingent from her family are over across the Pacific for the event.
That Asian country has a ton of very kool things going on, and just one of those is the ubiquitous vending machine. That distribution mechanism / channel has been taken to a whole new level of near-art, way beyond the more functional and mundane electromechanical boxes typically found on this side in North America.
From funky and colorful designs, to high-tech user interfaces and inner workings, and the actual products dispensed—which run the gamut from food, snacks, beverages (including alcohol), and a whole lot more to undergarments, pets, and even cars—the Japanese vending machine is in a world unto itself, as countless foreigners can attest to when living or traveling there.
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That Asian country has a ton of very kool things going on, and just one of those is the ubiquitous vending machine. That distribution mechanism / channel has been taken to a whole new level of near-art, way beyond the more functional and mundane electromechanical boxes typically found on this side in North America.
From funky and colorful designs, to high-tech user interfaces and inner workings, and the actual products dispensed—which run the gamut from food, snacks, beverages (including alcohol), and a whole lot more to undergarments, pets, and even cars—the Japanese vending machine is in a world unto itself, as countless foreigners can attest to when living or traveling there.
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February 14, 2016
Westport #94 - Reactive vs Proactive
What with Valentine’s Day on, why not cover something different? When everyone is thinking all hearts, roses and chocolates, look to Bob N. Boguslavski for an alternative view on that ever so highly commercialized take on relationship romance.
It provides a nice and smooth lead-in to what someone really wants to talk about today.
An ages-old conundrum over what wins the day, strategy versus tactics, or being proactive versus reactive, can be applied to almost any situation in life. This no doubt includes when to puke, chunder, regurgitate or whatever other euphemism one prefers to employ, even if it’s the Cockney rhyming slang expression, Wallace and Grommit. Bob’’s also rather fond of another British term, pavement pizza. One can always rely on the Brits to keep things classy!
Said ‘act,’ no matter how labeled, can occur anywhere heavy drinking is on deck, including a wedding. But sometimes, it may be done on porpoise [sic], to reposition or refortify oneself for yet more imbibing, or to void off future ill effects which can happen when one is passed out or sleeping.
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It provides a nice and smooth lead-in to what someone really wants to talk about today.
An ages-old conundrum over what wins the day, strategy versus tactics, or being proactive versus reactive, can be applied to almost any situation in life. This no doubt includes when to puke, chunder, regurgitate or whatever other euphemism one prefers to employ, even if it’s the Cockney rhyming slang expression, Wallace and Grommit. Bob’’s also rather fond of another British term, pavement pizza. One can always rely on the Brits to keep things classy!
Said ‘act,’ no matter how labeled, can occur anywhere heavy drinking is on deck, including a wedding. But sometimes, it may be done on porpoise [sic], to reposition or refortify oneself for yet more imbibing, or to void off future ill effects which can happen when one is passed out or sleeping.
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