M.A. Wilder's Blog, page 20
April 22, 2013
"Whenever I hear someone talking about how it’s wrong to have sex and sexiness in YA novels, what I..."
Whenever I hear someone talking about how it’s wrong to have sex and sexiness in YA novels, what I actually hear is this:
I’m terrified that the first fictional sex a teenage girl encounters might leave her feeling good about herself. I’m terrified that fictional sex might actually make teenage girls think sex can be fun and good, that reading about girls who say no and boys who listen when they say it might give them the confidence to say no, too – or worse still, to realise that boys who don’t listen to ‘no’ aren’t worth it. I’m terrified that YA novels might teach teenage girls the distinction between assault and consensual sex, and give them the courage to speak out about the former while actively seeking the latter. I’m terrified that teenage girls might think seriously about the circumstances under which they might say yes to sex; that they might think about contraception before they need it, and touch themselves in bed at night while fantasising about generous, interesting, beautiful lovers who treat them with consideration and respect. I’m terrified of a generation of teenage girls who aren’t shy or squeamish about asking for cunnilingus when they want it, or about loving more than one person at once, and who don’t feel shame about their arousal. I’m terrified that teenage girls might take control of their sexuality and, in so doing, take that control of them and their bodies away from me.
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“Why YA Sex Scenes Matter,” Foz Meadows (via aimmyarrowshigh)
…THIS is why i wrote a sex scene in my YA book, why i wrote a hero who confirmed consent multiple times and who wore protection without the heroine even having to ask, this is why i wrote a heroine who gave serious thought to saying yes and who wasn’t afraid to speak up before, during, or after, this is why i wrote a heroine who enjoyed cunnilingus and a hero who was more than happy to perform it, this is why i wrote characters with diverse backgrounds and diverse sexual orientations flexing their sexiness, exploring their sexiness, owning their sexiness all in the hopes that it may, in some small way, inspire teens—especially teenage girls—to “take back control of their sexuality and their bodies.”—THIS is why i write.
April 15, 2013
YA - Q&A: Round 1
A: you end up on an alien planet, in a supernatural/paranormal love triangle, while running for your life alongside your bff.
turdlewexler:
cantaby:
rika84:
turdlewexler:
ladysaviours:
edgar allen poe joins a...
edgar allen poe joins a fraternity
edgar allen bro
edgar allen poe makes an enemy
edgar allen foe
edgar allen poe drives into a ditch
edgar allen tow
edgar allan unclogs a drain
edgar allan flow
edgar allen poe becomes a quarterback
edgar allen throw
edgar allan poe becomes a rapper
edgar allan yo
April 11, 2013
w-writes problems #42
my characters’ reaction when i try to tell them what to do
April 10, 2013
"“…now, i am not going to stand here and tell you that failure is fun…i had no idea..."
“…now, i am not going to stand here and tell you that failure is fun…i had no idea then how far the tunnel extended, and for a long time, any light at the end of it was a hope rather than a reality.
so why do i talk about the benefits of failure? simply because failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. i stopped pretending to myself that i was anything other than what i was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. had i really succeeded at anything else, i might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena i believed i truly belonged. i was set free, because my greatest fear had been realised, and i was still alive, and i still had a daughter whom i adored, and i had an old typewriter and a big idea. and so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which i rebuilt my life.
you might never fail on the scale i did, but some failure in life is inevitable. it is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default…”
”- J.K. Rowling - 2008 Harvard Commencement Address
April 6, 2013
hurray, it's typo saturday!!!
yup, that’s me trying to put a positive spin on a negative sitch (hey, i’m nothing if not creative, lol).
seriously, i just wanted to say thanks to all you readers, for your endless patience as i battle my way through post-publication woes. i am aware of the sneaky typos that weaseled their way into the original copy. i am also aware of the glitch in the matrix, a.k.a. the formatting issue, that occurred last saturday, march 30th. both issues have been rectified and i am working tirelessly to make sure that you have access to the cleanest copy of Armored available.
i’ve also petitioned amazon to notify readers of the changes that have been made and to make the current copy available for free to people who have already downloaded theirs. unfortunately, i am being told that i have to wait 4 weeks for amazon’s decision. in the meantime, trust that i am doing everything that i can to address any and all editing errors. the perfectionist in me will not let this go. i take the reader-experience very seriously, so i am genuinely sorry for any inconvenience this may have caused. i appreciate your help in this effort, and i am happy to hear that those who downloaded an early copy of Armored are still enjoying the book, regardless of any typos.
anywho, i’ll be sure to keep you guys posted. in the meantime, much ❤ and happy reading!
sincerely,
“management”
April 5, 2013
the waiting game
answer: easy, by watching tangela ekhoff recaps til my eyes explode.
April 4, 2013
excuse me???
i’m sorry, come again? you said tvd won’t be back til the 18th, and there’s no new scandal until the 25th? umm, yeeeeaaah. thanks, but no thanks.
April 3, 2013
this show is SO amazing, i cannot believe smash is going from...
this show is SO amazing, i cannot believe smash is going from grammy and golden globe nominations to the saturday night death slot (starting this month). i have such a bad feeling about this :( …seriously, nbc, you give up on amazing shows WAY too fast *cough* southland *cough*… just sayin’
