Sara Raasch's Blog, page 457
August 12, 2014
watermistress:
So I was watching Pride and Prejudice again to...
So I was watching Pride and Prejudice again to pass time until the Perseid Meteor Shower and this month’s Supermoon tonight, and I decided that it was the perfect excuse to draw Zuko in that outfit. Enjoy. :)
August 11, 2014
"O Captain! My Captain! our fearful trip is done;
The ship has weather’d every rack, the prize we..."
O Captain! My Captain! our fearful trip is done;
The ship has weather’d every rack, the prize we sought is won;
The port is near, the bells I hear, the people all exulting,
While follow eyes the steady keel, the vessel grim and daring:
But O heart! heart! heart!
O the bleeding drops of red,
Where on the deck my Captain lies,
Fallen cold and dead.
O Captain! My Captain! rise up and hear the bells;
Rise up—for you the flag is flung—for you the bugle trills;
For you bouquets and ribbon’d wreaths—for you the shores a-crowding;
For you they call, the swaying mass, their eager faces turning;
Here captain! dear father!
This arm beneath your head;
It is some dream that on the deck,
You’ve fallen cold and dead.
My Captain does not answer, his lips are pale and still;
My father does not feel my arm, he has no pulse nor will;
The ship is anchor’d safe and sound, its voyage closed and done;
From fearful trip, the victor ship, comes in with object won;
Exult, O shores, and ring, O bells!
But I, with mournful tread,
Walk the deck my captain lies,
Fallen cold and dead.
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Walt Whitman, “O captain! My captain!” (via clothobuerocracy)
rest in peace, robin…
(via rufiozuko)
August 9, 2014
August 8, 2014
"A thought experiment: Imagine how people might react if Taylor Swift released an album made up..."
A thought experiment: Imagine how people might react if Taylor Swift released an album made up entirely of songs about wishing she could get back together with one of her exes.
We’d hear things like: “She can’t let go. She’s clingy. She’s irrational. She’s crazy.” Men would have a field day comparing her to their own “crazy” exes.
Yet when Robin Thicke released “Paula” – a plea for reconciliation with his ex-wife Paula Patton disguised as an LP — he was called incoherent, obsessed, heartfelt and, in particular, creepy.
But you didn’t hear men calling him “crazy” — even though he used it as the title of one of tracks.
No, “crazy” is typically held in reserve for women’s behavior. Men might be obsessed, driven, confused or upset. But we don’t get called “crazy” — at least not the way men reflexively label women as such.
“Crazy” is one of the five deadly words guys use to shame women into compliance. The others: Fat. Ugly. Slutty. Bitchy. They sum up the supposedly worst things a woman can be.
WHAT WE REALLY MEAN BY “CRAZY” IS: “SHE WAS UPSET, AND I DIDN’T WANT HER TO BE.”
“Crazy” is such a convenient word for men, perpetuating our sense of superiority. Men are logical; women are emotional. Emotion is the antithesis of logic. When women are too emotional, we say they are being irrational. Crazy. Wrong.
Women hear it all the time from men. “You’re overreacting,” we tell them. “Don’t worry about it so much, you’re over-thinking it.” “Don’t be so sensitive.” “Don’t be crazy.” It’s a form of gaslighting — telling women that their feelings are just wrong, that they don’t have the right to feel the way that they do. Minimizing somebody else’s feelings is a way of controlling them. If they no longer trust their own feelings and instincts, they come to rely on someone else to tell them how they’re supposed to feel.
Small wonder that abusers love to use this c-word. It’s a way of delegitimizing a woman’s authority over her own life.
Most men (#notallmen, #irony) aren’t abusers, but far too many of us reflexively call women crazy without thinking about it. We talk about how “crazy girl sex” is the best sex while we also warn men “don’t stick it in the crazy.” How I Met Your Mother warned us to watch out for “the crazy eyes” and how to process women on the “Crazy/Hot” scale. When we talk about why we broke up with our exes, we say, “She got crazy,” and our guy friends nod sagely, as if that explains everything.
Except what we’re really saying is: “She was upset, and I didn’t want her to be.”
Many men are socialized to be disconnected from our emotions — the only manly feelings we’re supposed to show are stoic silence or anger. We’re taught that to be emotional is to be feminine. As a result, we barely have a handle on our own emotions — meaning that we’re especially ill-equipped at dealing with someone else’s.
That’s where “crazy” comes in. It’s the all-purpose argument ender. Your girlfriend is upset that you didn’t call when you were going to be late? She’s being irrational. She wants you to spend time with her instead of out with the guys again? She’s being clingy. Your wife doesn’t like the long hours you’re spending with your attractive co-worker? She’s being oversensitive.
As soon as the “crazy” card is in play, women are put on the defensive. It derails the discussion from what she’s saying to how she’s saying it. We insist that someone can’t be emotional and rational at the same time, so she has to prove that she’s not being irrational. Anything she says to the contrary can just be used as evidence against her.
More often than not, I suspect, most men don’t realize what we’re saying when we call a woman crazy. Not only does it stigmatize people who have legitimate mental health issues, but it tells women that they don’t understand their own emotions, that their very real concerns and issues are secondary to men’s comfort. And it absolves men from having to take responsibility for how we make others feel.
In the professional world, we’ve had debates over labels like “bossy” and “brusque,” so often used to describe women, not men. In our interpersonal relationships and conversations, “crazy” is the adjective that needs to go.
”- Men really need to stop calling women crazy - Harris O’Malley (via saltwaterhours)
August 7, 2014
Top Ten Tuesday| Most Anticipated Books of Fall 2014
This weeks Top Ten Tuesday topic hosted by Broke and Bookish is Top Ten Books I’d Give to Readers Who Have Never Read X. This was too difficult of a topic for me since I don’t think I have read enough books in one certain category to make up a list. I decide instead that with Fall quickly approaching I would make a list of the Top Ten Most Anticipated Books of Fall 2014!
ANNOUNCING!
I’m going places! With people! Cool places! Cool people! Will I see you in September? I hope so!
MWAH!
Totally my first tour ever! My first time going to Phoenix and Seattle! I hope to see some of you there:D
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A secret from THE ETERNITY KEY and cover reveal contest winner(s)
Four things from me today!
1. I’m going to be a panelist at Salt Lake Comic Con! I am so super excited—and they even made me this cool profile pic.
2. My ARCs of THE ETERNITY KEY arrived! I was so thrilled to get this box of books. I swear it feels like I just barely typed “the…
I LOVE THIS BOOOOOOOOOOOK.
August 6, 2014
August 5, 2014
Trust Me Cover Reveal
Very excited to show off the cover for TRUST ME, I’M A NINJA, the sequel to RELAX that’s coming out in less than a month. I wasn’t sure me and my designer could top the first, but she did! I love everything about it, especially the green color. If you’ve read the first book you know how important that green is:)
Click through to check out the cover and summary. (WARNING: Spoilers for book one in summary.)
Prettyyyyyyy
