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Anybody Still Out There From Ten Years Ago?

Wow, sometimes I look at myself and just say, “Wow”. I wonder what is wrong with me, where my head is, how I even get through the day sometimes.
So, funny thing. I had some stuff going on last night (like always) and was trying to get around to writing my blog. Just as I was sitting down to try to get inspired, – not that I needed inspiration, there were already four different ideas in my head, it was just a matter of picking one and getting on it – I took a quick gander at Facebook. I saw a video posted by the publisher of my first three books, where his washing machine was “walking” across the floor during the spin cycle. How crazy is that because I had just been sitting on my washer during the spin cycle because it is all off balance. I replied to his video saying that and he responded that I could write a blog post about that. So, here I am and that’s all I have to say about that.
Because then I scrolled a bit more on Facebook, and one of those friendship anniversary things came up. Apparently, it is the ten-year anniversary of me being friends with someone I’ve known for much longer than that. Which reminded me what March 1 was and what I really wanted to blog about today.  
And .  . .
 . . . When I actually got into my file where I write my blog, that whole topic hit me in the face. A few days ago, I had been planning on writing about this, so I wrote myself a reminder. Good thing, because I totally forgot until seeing that Friendiversary. Hence the question initially posed – what is wrong with me?
Anyway, Sunday was the ten-year anniversary of this blog!!! Well, not really. I think it was actually February 26, but I wrote something very short and very lame, just to figure out this whole blogging thing and then I later deleted it.  
Is anyone still out there reading this who has been with me since the beginning? Let me know! I love hearing from you.  I haven't changed too much in nearly sixty years, have I? I surely haven't changed in ten.

Unconditional Love

    And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13 (New International Version)

Over the last few weeks, I’ve been writing about the different kinds of love that are talked about in the Bible. Today, finally, we’ve arrived at the final one, agape love, which is unconditional, immeasurable, incomparable, and pure. It is the love which God feels for us, and which we should strive to feel towards others.
You’ve probably read 1 Corinthians 13 in its entirety – you know, the lines about love being patient, kind, not envious or boastful or proud and that it never fails. Those verses are often used in marriage ceremonies, and we should feel this towards our spouses. Unfortunately, thanks to our sinful natures, we often fall short.
After the book of Psalms, the book of John mentions the word “love” more than any other book of the Bible. Thirty-nine times in the New International Version of the Bible, in fact.
  For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16
This is the first Sunday in Lent, so the famous John 3:16 verse is a good place to begin our six-week journey to the cross and ultimately unto eternal salvation.
Thank You, God, Heavenly Father, for sending Your Son to be our Savior. Help us to focus on that every day of our lives, but especially from now until Easter morning. Amen.   (I spent probably too much time going through my thousands of pictures to find a good one of white flowers, representing the purity of Jesus's love for us. But the morning glories above reminded me of new life in the morning, as in Easter morning. And the crocus below reminded me of all of the new life which blooms in the Spring. So, I had to share these two pictures, as well.)

Quick Trip out of Town

Last Friday, Hubby and I took a quick, overnight trip to the south-east part of the state to see our son. I wish I had time (and energy right now) to tell you specifically where each of these pictures is. I can tell you we went from East Troy to Mukwonago, then back to East Troy to Elkhorn to Lake Geneva and back.
Every time I go down to visit Nick, I am reminded of how much there is to see in that area and tell myself that I’m gonna spend more time next time. Next time…                I can tell you this is the Elegant Farmer - wonderful, fun food store.  

Hubby and Wes, grandpuppy #1 


The rest of the pictures are in Lake Geneva. 

Only close-up of my boy. 

Ash Wednesday and Giving Up

I’ve been reading the novel, “In this House of Brede” by Rumer Godden. If you’ve never heard of it, it is about an abbey in England in the 1950s and 1960s and the group of women who have devoted their lives to God by becoming claustral nuns there.
It is sometimes hard to follow because there is so much dialogue and it’s not always clear who is talking. Plus, some of those conversations are from the past and I sometimes get lost wondering if they are talking about something that happened previously or is going on right now. I’m muddling through, though, and like the book more than I expected to.
I initially wanted to bring it up because these women, these nuns who have professed total devotion to God, are still full of sinful thoughts and actions. No one is perfect which is why we need religion, why we need God’s forgiveness, why we need to get down on our knees sometimes and just send up all the prayers we can. Not only for ourselves, but for all of our family, friends, other loved ones and liked ones, and even enemies. This is also why Jesus died for all of our sins.
Today is Ash Wednesday and I’ve been mulling over what theme I wanted to blog about for the next six weeks of Lent. When I was reading this book earlier this week, the abbey was just going into Lent for another year. One of the characters told one of the younger sisters that Lent was a time of cleansing; spring cleaning, in fact.
Many people “give up” something for Lent, but more recently I’ve heard of people doing other more creative things to remember what these six weeks are leading up to. One of those things is to each day choose an item you no longer use or need, put it in a box and then come Easter you have an entire box of items to donate to charity.
I think I could do that. I think I should do that! All the clutter in my house! But, I think, more importantly, all the clutter in my brain. I think if there were something I really needed to “give up” for Lent, if only I could, it would be to empty my mind of all the nonsense and randomness, as well as the worries and obsessions.
Instead, I think, realistically, I’ll be giving up chocolate until Easter morning.  

Love for Family

  Observe how complex is a mother’s love for her children, which draws everything toward an emotion felt in her inmost parts. Even unreasoning animals, like mankind, have a sympathy and parental love for their offspring. (4 Maccabees 14:13-14, Revised Standard Version)
Storge love is the natural, unforced love which families share with one another. Simply put, it begins with the love that a parent has for their child, but also includes not only the rest of those related directly through blood, but to those we are considered part of our family. God reminds us to love one another, especially other believers, because we are all part of His family.
Interestingly, there is a term in the Bible which refers to the opposite of love. Astorgos means to be without love, devoid of affection, without affection to kindred, hard-hearted, and unfeeling. It is described in 2 Timothy.
 But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.(2 Timothy 3:1-5, New International Version)
Yikes! So scary that this sounds like what we have going on in the world right now. Why can’t we instead love one another as God has loved us?
(As a side note, the books of Maccabees probably aren’t in your Bible. There is a whole list of books called the Apocrypha, which didn’t make the “cut” for most versions, but I found them in the Revised Standard Version. I haven’t had the time [or the brain cells] to figure out why this is.)  

Flashback Friday - Rolling Along

 Does anyone remember going to a roller rink as a kid? Or do kids still go roller skating?

When I was in school, we had a few outings to roller skating rinks, mostly to a place called Crystal Rock, about a half hour drive away. Quite a few times, I went there with different friends as well.
I was awkward, shy, and introverted, with very low self-esteem. I never talked to anyone who wasn’t a trusted friend or family member, and I could barely even look at a boy.
One time, I tagged along with my sister and one of her friends when they went roller skating. My sister’s friend’s little brother (let’s call him L.B.) tagged along too. He was in my grade (which had to be seventh or eighth at the time).
All was well, everyone was out roller skating, doing the things the DJ asked. You know – skate in one direction, then the opposite, then just girls skate, then just boys. Then couples. Hmm. Well, of course, I was going to sit that one out. Until L.B. sighed and offered me his hand. I thought, seriously? Am I maybe not totally repulsive to everyone of the opposite sex?
We skated around the rink, hand in hand, one time, until, as we were coming around the far turn, one of the wheels on one of his skates came off. I kid you not. I can still see that wheel careening into the wall.  L.B. immediately let go of my hand and somehow coasted to the wall on one skate. (If it had been me, I would have fallen and died, right there, in the middle of the floor.)
Yup, I think that was it, the last time in my entire life that I roller skated as part of a couple, for one entire lap around the rink. (Though I did finally realize that I'm not as repulsive as I thought.) 
Crystal Rock Roller Skating Rink has been sitting empty for many years, up for sale off and on. I always wanted to go back, to explore, dredge up those memories.  Then, not quite three weeks ago, it collapsed, no doubt from the years of neglect and the weight of snow. Such a sad ending. But memories will always keep rolling along.   (And I never would have had these pictures if Hubby hadn't broken his arm a few days later, requiring me to drive him past here on our way to the orthopedic surgeon.)

Power of Prayer and Your Health

     Over the last couple of Wednesdays, I’ve been writing about different natural remedies for various maladies. The power of prayer just dawned on me yesterday, but since I am pressed for time this week, I haven’t been able to research this one. So, I don’t feel I can add this post to my series on “Natural Remedies – Coming to the Clinic”. I’m still going to share it though.
If you know me personally or have been following this blog, you know that I am a Christian so naturally, prayer is pretty important to me. I would hope it is to all believers. But what about people who believe in a different higher power, a deity other than the triune God of the Bible? Or people who don’t believe in anything at all?
Here are just a few statistics from an article I found on WebMd (https://www.webmd.com/balance/features/can-prayer-heal) :·       *      *Hospitalized people who never attended church have an average stay of three times longer than people who attended regularly.·           *Heart patients were 14 times more likely to die following surgery if they did not participate in a religion.·            *Elderly people who never or rarely attended church had a stroke rate double that of people who attended regularly.        ·            *In Israel, religious people had a 40% lower death rate from cardiovascular disease and cancer.
Interesting. But despite my strong Christian beliefs and my belief that God hears my every prayer, I also think there’s more to prayer than what we call religion. Here’s why.
If you are on Facebook, you’ve surely seen someone post about a tragedy in their family or about their own sudden serious illness. Everyone posts back that they are praying for the situation, sending happy thoughts. Emojis of hands held up in prayer abound. Are all those people really out there praying or did they just post those things to support the Unfortunate Person? And does it matter as long as that U.P. thinks everyone cares? Know what I’m getting at?
Maybe the U.P.’s situation doesn’t get better, but at least they feel better. And once they feel better, maybe they can move on, they can deal with what life throws at them, because they think that others care.
My other thought, because I am a child of the original “Star Wars” series, is that I can’t deny that there might be something to the Force. That energy that is created by all like-minded people which reaches out and affects our lives. Or maybe that energy which God takes and lovingly hands back to us.
How does any of this affect our health and our medical conditions? Only God knows.
Ok, that’s it for my ramble. I know there is research out there that supports prayer and a belief in a Higher Power as a supplement to traditional medicine. You can do your own online search. But I think the thing to remember, as with any non-traditional form of treatment, is that prayer needs to work with your traditional health care provider. I think God gave us doctors and modern medicine for a reason.

Brotherly (and Sisterly) Love

     “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” (John 13:34-35 New International Version)
Last week, I explained a little bit about Eros love. Today, I’m going to go into Phileo love.
Phileo (or philia) is Greek for “brotherly love”, an emotional bond found in deep friendships. In the Bible, phileo means showing love, care, respect and compassion towards all people but is also what brings fellow believers together. Throughout the Bible, the followers of Jesus are reminded to show love towards others, and particularly to other Christians.
 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. (Romans 12:9-10 New International Version)
As mentioned here a few weeks ago, this word is where the city of Philadelphia gets its name and why it is called the city of brotherly love. But that name wasn’t chosen just because it sounded good.
Back in the late sixteen-hundreds, King Charles gave William Penn a large amount of land to establish a colony. William, a Quaker, believed in equality, religious freedom and brotherly love. When he settled his new city, he named it Philadelphia because he so believed in the importance of showing love to our fellow mankind.  
 Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it. (Hebrews 13:1-2 New International Version)

Guided Imagery - Natural Remedies, Part 3, Coming to the Clinic, Part 14

     Last Wednesday, I shared a quick overview of the many different types of meditation there are. I didn’t say much about guided meditation because I planned on telling you about a similar method this week.
I mentioned last week that I felt I just never got into what we think of as “mediation” – the one way you repeat “oohm” and go to a magical place in your mind and body. I’m sure it works for many people but not so much for me.
I tried a few mediation tapes (yes, that was before CDs and way before Youtube videos), but I found them a little annoying – like I can’t visualize that stuff. For example, on one the lady narrating was telling me to imagine I’m holding a large metal bowl and running a metal spoon around the edge of it and imagine the sound it makes. I listened to that tape a dozen times trying to figure out what I was missing. I never got it.
But somewhere along the line, I figured out how to use guided imagery and it started with these bald eagles in Alaska. When I was a junior in college, over Christmas break, I went to Alaska with my aunt to visit my cousin who lived in Juneau. One day we took a ferry ride to Haines, which is known for its huge population of bald eagles. In the fall and early winter, they feast on spawning salmon in the Chilkat River. Yes, all those black spots in the sky and on the ground are bald eagles. Incredible, huh?
But then when we were back in Juneau, driving past the city landfill, we’d see a dozen or so bald eagles scavenging the garbage. Kind of like seeing one picking at a roadkill here in Wisconsin.
Flash-forward to the years when I used to get frequent migraines. I’d lay in bed, relax as much as the pain would let me, and imagine those bald eagles (in miniature) plucking the pain out of my brain and flying off with it. It worked, almost every time, and I’d be able to fall asleep and wake up in the morning pain-free.
I’ve tried the same imagery for other kinds of pain and the results have varied. I think it depends on what kind of pain I’m in, where it’s at and what’s causing it. But headache? I got that monster beat.
Anyway, what can guided imagery do for you? 1)     promote relaxation2)     reduce problems related to stress3)     lower blood pressure4)     calm breathing and heart rate5)     help to reach goals such as weight loss, smoking cessation and even athletic and academic goals 6)     manage pain 7)     help to maintain hormone balance
How does it work?
The mind is a powerful tool and can be used to heal an ailing body. By using words and images, your mind can move your attention away from the worry, stress and pain you are experiencing and help you find your own natural powers of healing.
With guided imagery, you can use your imagination to "create the state you want." What your mind thinks has a tremendous effect on the body, so we need to change the way our minds think to help our bodies do what we want.
Our bodies aren’t always going to respond how we would like; life is just not that easy. But there are no risks to trying something like guided imagery and you might find enough benefit to make those few minutes to a half hour worthwhile.
For more information:  https://www.allinahealth.org/healthysetgo/thrive/the-health-benefits-of-guided-imagery

Yes, This is Really in the Bible

He: How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves.She: How handsome you are, my beloved! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant. (Song of Songs 1:15-16, New International Version)
Last Sunday, I had thought about doing a series of blog posts on the four different types of love that are in the Bible. Then I thought better of it. But oddly enough, one of the commercials during the Superbowl last Sunday night showed those four kinds of love. I think that was God saying, you can do this, Chris.
So I thought I would tackle, what for me, is the hardest one of the four to write about. Eros, the romantic and even sensual love.
Solomon’s Song of Songs in the Old Testament is an entire book of the Bible dedicated to the love between a man and a woman coming together in marriage and then consummating that union. Honestly, there are some really carnal lines in those pages.  
I think it’s difficult for most of us to comprehend that God intended for us to have sex, and not just for making babies. He gave us the gift of marriage and with it all the joys and pleasures it brings. His plan was always for a man and woman, once joined in marriage, to have a physical relationship, pure and beautiful.
Where that plan falls apart is when we sin by using this gift of sex outside of marriage. But that is a lecture I’m not going into here; that’s not what this is about.  
  As soon as I had left them,    I found the one I love.I held him and would not let him go    until I brought him to my mother’s house,    to the room where I was born. (Song of Songs 3:4, New Century Version)
(Here's the links to that Superbowl commercial: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtyQ3CFzhP8and to the entire book of the Song of Songs: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=song+of+songs+1-8&version=NIV)