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Let It Go

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I’ve had a headache for as long as I remember. Seriously. A throbbing, annoying, sometimes agonizing headache.

I learned to live with it. Took LOTS of ibuprofen. Talked to doctors. Ignored it.

A few weeks ago, I did a little research online. Don’t worry, I stayed away from WebMD. It’s a great service unless you’re completely neurotic like I am. If you’re like me, you find out on that site that you are surely dying. That you need to say your final goodbyes, get the will in order, and try to find a purple casket (hm. I wonder if they have purple caskets? Quick Google search says…YES).

Okay. Back on topic. I looked up my symptoms. Headache. Icky tummy (you don’t need details). Eczema. All arrows pointed to gluten as the problem. So I quit. I let it go. Cut it out.

And, you know what? The second day, I didn’t have a headache. Not even a tiny one. And my tummy felt fine. And by the fourth day, the eczema started to clear up a little. I am not kidding you.

Someone was talking about numbers the other day…and I UNDERSTOOD what she was saying. My brain is so much clearer.

I just had to let go of about 50% of the food I normally eat. Guess what. It’s worth it!

In my writing life, I’ve found that, at times, I have to let some things go in order to have a good story. (Good transition, huh? Don’t judge me…I have a sinus infection).

Monday, on Novel Matters, Patti Hill  wrote about deleted scenes in books. How letting go of certain bits of writing can be beneficial.

I have a few characters that I need to push out of the book. A few scenes that need tightening. I need to let it go.

I want to have a clear book. One that isn’t muddied up by things that I actually like. Because those things (especially certain characters) only serve to complicate my plot.

It’s the same for most things in life. Getting rid of clutter makes life easier. Clearing up a calendar can serve to rid us of stress.

Sometimes letting go is just so soothing.

How about you? What have you let go recently? Has it made life easier or harder? Is there something you need to let go of?

Changing Things Up…And Making Them Fun

Friends of mine,

I had every intention of recording this for your viewing pleasure. However, that pleasure would have been horror if you heard my husky man voice. No. I’m not turning into a Sasquatch. It’s just some sinus/sore throat/upper respiratory thing. Ugh. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

That’s the changing things up (because I’m writing this, not speaking it).

Here’s the Making Them Fun…

Here in Michigan, we have a coffee shop called “Biggby“. They have some of the most loyal customers. I mean it. These people are die-hard. Anyway. The customers take a signature Biggby cup with them, taking pictures of it all over the place. Then, Biggby uses those pictures to make a collage.

I’m totally taking that idea and running with it.

That’s where you come in.

I’m going to have a photo contest! Here’s how it will work…

1. Take pictures of your copy of Paint Chips (you can even do this with the copy on your digital device) in fun, interesting places. (TIP: Make sure you don’t just get the cover in the photo…I’d love to see WHERE the photo is being taken. Even better if YOU get into the picture). The more creative, the better!

2. Upload that picture to Facebook and TAG ME! It won’t be an official entry until you tag me.

3. Share it on Twitter, Pinterest, Etc for extra love.

4. Also share the link to the Amazon or Barnes and Noble site where the book can be purchased.

5. Only one entry per person, please. So make sure to enter your favorite one!

6. Just know that tagging me in the picture is your way of giving me permission to use your photo on this blog and for promo materials. Tagging me means you aren’t going to sue me.

7. On May 10, I will post all the pictures on this blog and we’ll vote on the best ones (in a few different categories: Giggles, Striking, Crazy Creative, and Best Over All).

8. Voting will remain open all weekend and winners will be announced Monday, May 13.

9. Best Over All wins a $15 gift certificate to Better Way Imports and a signed, paperback copy of Paint Chips to keep or give away. Winners in the other 3 categories will win a $5 gift certificate to Better Way Imports and a digital copy of Paint Chips to keep or give away!

NOTE: Gift certificates orders must be placed with Kathi Hanson (Freedom Fighter working with Better Way Imports). I promise you, she is awesome. It’s a well documented fact. She is fabulous. Truth. I will link you up with Kathi when the winners are announced. You’ll love her.

Okey Dokey. Time for Fun!

Ready. Set. GOOOOOOO!

 

 

 

Up and Down. Down and Up.

The past week has been a roller coaster. The kind that is part thrill, part terror. Excitement mixed with anxiety with a chaser of joy added to grief.

Book signing and friends coming to visit and encouragement.

Bombs and floods and explosions and bad news about a friend.

And writing a second novel that is using up all my emotional strength. And a novel that I’m falling in love with as I write it. More for the characters than anything. And knowing the pain they have to endure. Because we all live through pain. Don’t we?

We all have to learn how to navigate the

Up and Down. Down and Up.

But, in the Down, it’s so hard to trust.

And, this week, I’ve had to do more trusting than I like to do.

So, right now, I’m choosing to trust God in one thing at a time.

It’s what I can do.

Today, I’m trusting Him to hold me together. And to show me mercy. Which He’s already done today.

I’ll trust Him as I go

Up and Down.

Down and Up.

(many thanks to Jeff Manion for his sermon on trust this weekend. Little did I know how much I would need that message this week)

 

Alone – A story inspired by Trevor O’Brien

Trevor O’Brien was the most talented poet I’ve ever known. His words were his breath and his blood. They were him. He was them. As most poets do, he struggled. Wondered. Doubted. Suffered. And, like most poets, he never realized how really valuable he was. I wish I hadn’t gotten that phone call from a friend who saw the news. I wish that the news didn’t have to report on anything about Trevor. Unless, of course he had been named poet laureate. Instead, many people who found value in Trevor are devastated. Including me.

A few years ago, Trevor gave me the idea for this story. I think a lot of people feel this way tonight. 

I am grieving tonight. Because an artist poet is gone.  

 

Character: Elizaveta is a 74 year old, impoverished Russian immigrant. She has live in the United States for the past 35 years.

Conflict: Her husband on 50 years has just passed away. She is returning home after the funeral, feeling very alone.

 

They’d never had children. Elizaveta and Lev. Lev had always said it was better. When they moved away from Russia, he said it was better to travel without children. When they opened the bakery, he said it was easier to run a business without children. When they sold the bakery after 30 years in business, he said they avoided battles over the money that they would have had with children.

“Life is easier without children,” he said so many times.

But as she unlocked their small apartment and pushed open the door, she wondered if he’d been right. She was alone. No one to comfort her. No one to help her. She’d felt alone for most of her life. No family in America. Friends had been near impossible to come by. But at least she’d had Lev.

Elizaveta put her purse on the old rocking chair. Lev had found it so many years ago in a dumpster.

“It’s perfectly fine,” he’d said. “It just needs a little wood glue. Good as new.”

He’d never been able to fix the creaking as it rocked.

She went into the kitchen. The dishes from three days ago were still in the sink. Lev’s plate with toast crumbs and his tea cup with a bag still sticking to the side. She couldn’t bring herself to wash them. Or to throw out the tea bag.

He’d sat at the table that morning. Three days before. Biting into his dry toast, sipping his tea he’d laughed loudly while reading the comics from the newspaper.

“Veta,” he’d said. “Come look at this. Come look. So funny.”

“No, Lev,” she’d answered. “You know I don’t like those fool papers. They are never funny to me.”

“Oh, but this cat is so funny.” He’d laughed. “He loves his lasagna.”

The newspaper was still on the table. The comics section folded and crinkled from his hands.

The telephone rang. Elizaveta jumped. The apartment had been so quiet since Lev…

It had been so quiet for the past few days. She went to the telephone that sat on the kitchen counter.

“Hello?” she answered. “This is Elizaveta…no…I am not interested.”

She hung up. Sales calls. Always a sales call. Never a family member wishing condolences. Never a former customer asking to bring a meal.

All alone. The apartment had been cold without Lev. Quiet. He’d fallen down right there. By the door to the bedroom. His heart had given out.

“I’m sorry,” the doctor at the hospital had said. “We couldn’t bring him back.”

“He’s?” she’d said, voice quivering.

“I’m sorry.” The doctor had put his hand on her shoulder. “He’s gone.”

“Gone?” she’d repeated.

“Is there anyone I can call for you? Anyone to come give you a ride?”

“No.” She gathered her purse. “I’ll take a taxi.”

“Please. Let me find someone to drive you.”

“I can manage.”

The next day she made arrangements at the funeral home. Lev had wanted to be cremated. She’d asked the funeral director to find someone who could say a short prayer. Only a few people would come to the memorial. Perhaps no one but her. She didn’t know. But she hadn’t wanted a luncheon afterward.

It had been a quiet funeral. And brief. A man’s whole life memorialized in less than ten minutes.

“When I die,” Lev had said. “I want you to take my ashes home.”

“I couldn’t have your ashes sitting on the kitchen table,” she’d said to him. “It isn’t clean.”

“No. I want you to take them back to Russia. Go to the grave yard and put me in a whole next to my brother’s headstone.”

“That’s insane, Lev.”

“Yes. It is.”

Elizaveta sat, rocking in the chair, letting it creak and thinking of how she would get Lev home.

—

“How does one sell everything?” Elizaveta asked her land lord the day after the funeral.

“You want to sell everything?” he’d asked.

“I do. Except for my clothing.”

“Why do you want to sell it?” The land lord looked at her sideways. “Are you and Lev having a hard time making the rent.”

“Lev is dead,” she said. “I have to go to Russia.”

“So, does that mean you’re moving out?”

“Possibly. But I need to have some money first.” She looked at the man. “Would you like to purchase my furniture? Rent the apartment as a furnished room?”

“I don’t know.”

“You could charge more in rent.” She smoothed her blouse. “You could make more on other tenants. We haven’t had our rent increased in over twenty years.”

“How much do you want for the furniture?”

—

After selling her furniture to the land lord and her jewelry and silverware to a pawn shop, Elizaveta had enough money for a plane ticket to Russia. She packed one suitcase full of her clothing and her purse with a small bit of Lev’s remains in a package.

A shuttle had just arrived to take her to the airport. She turned and looked at the apartment one last time.

“Lev and I loved living here,” she whispered. “Be a good home for another family.”

She closed the door lightly and gently walked down the steps to the shuttle.

—

The flight had been long. Elizaveta’s body was stiff. She stood in the St. Petersburg airport and drank in her homeland. She hadn’t realized how she’d missed the language, the smells, the way in which her people carried themselves. It had been too long. Thirty-five years.

She knew that she would need to rest before going to the cemetery in the morning. She took a taxi to a motel. She slept for hours.

—

She dreamed of Lev. When they were young. The way he looked deeply into her eyes. Their life together.

“I’ve brought you home,” she woke herself up saying.

—

The morning was cold. The taxi ride took ten minutes.

“Wait here,” she told the driver. “I’ll only be but a few minutes.”

The driver shrugged.

She remembered the grave of Lev’s brother. It wasn’t difficult to find. They’d visited it every Saturday for ten years before they moved to America.

By the weeds that overtook the headstone, Elizaveta wondered if anyone had visited since then. She bent down, trying to tear a few of the leaves away.

“I’m too old for all this,” she muttered.

She slowly lowered herself to kneel by the grave. She took a spoon from her purse and dug a whole in the ground. She pulled the small package of Lev’s remains from her purse. Holding it in her hand, she smiled.

She didn’t say a word. She wondered if she should pray. But knew that her actions were a sort of prayer in themselves. She kissed her fingers and touched the packet. Little pieces of him were in her hand.

Lowering Lev into the small hole, she let out a bit of a whimper.

Getting up after filling in the hole proved to be quite a bit more difficult than she’d expected.

Walking away from the last trace of Lev was quite a bit easier.

Alone, she walked back to the taxi.

FLOOD!

Congratulations to Jamie Young! You won the lovely Paint Chips tote bag! Make sure you email me with your address. Thanks to all of you for pushing Paint Chips on your friends. It’s working! If you want…let them all know that PC is on sale at Barnes & Noble for only $13.08 (online only). It appears that Amazon has a delay in shipping (maybe they sold all their copies?), so we really need to start emptying B&N now! 

Last week, my neighborhood flooded. Waist deep in some areas. Chest deep in others.

100 of my neighbors were evacuated. They packed up a few valuables and walked down the side walk and onto school buses that took them to a Red Cross shelter.

50 of my neighbors had to get boat rides out of their homes.

1 family, a street over, had their basement wall cave in.

A whole bunch of people are drying out their basements. Trying to recover what they can.

My house is completely dry. 100 yards down the street both ways, massive puddles turned into destructive flooding.

But we were okay.

The police set up check points to restrict traffic on our road and to prevent looters.

My family had offers from several friends to let us stay in their homes, to help with any flood clean up we might need, the use of a super awesome generator (so our milk wouldn’t  spoil), a coffee for me and hot cocoa for the kiddos when it got cold.

I don’t mind telling you that having people who want to take care of us and help us makes this girl feel very loved.

Stay tuned. Wednesday, I’ll announce another really fun contest. Oh…and watch for pictures from my very first ever book signing! 

 

Paperback Dropped and a Give-Away!

The paperback of Paint Chips is in the hands of people across the country. Wow. Wow. Wow. 

So, I need some help spreading the news. And I need your help.

A Fabulous Paint Chips Tote Bag! Seriously, folks, you can’t find this kind of beauty at stores…

So. You wanna know how you can enter to win?

I thought you might.

1. Post the link to Paint Chips from either Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Paint-Chips-Sus... OR Barnes & Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/paint-chips-susie-finkbeiner/1113729799?ean=9780983455691 

Make sure you tag me or add the link to your link in the comments below. You get an extra entry for each time you post between now and the end of the contest.

2. Share the book trailer! It’s gorgeous. It’s fabulous. And I’m really proud of it! Again, make sure you tag me when you post it!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jSMoQbBS6D4

3. “Like” my author page! I’m at 480 likes. I’d LOVE to get to 500! Oh…and extra points for asking your friends to “like” it too! Go HERE to “like” it. 

4. Come up with some other creative and fun way of telling people about Paint Chips! Let me know what you did in the comments for 2 extra entries into the contest.

Thanks, Friends. You all make this a very fun and exciting adventure for me! 

Contest ends at Midnight on Sunday, April 21. The winner will be announced on the blog the next day. 

 

 

Outlining, Characters, and Buffalos

Soup and Hurt Feelings

The other day, my husband made soup. The kind of soup that cleans out the cupboards and refrigerator. He let it simmer and stew and eventually, he used the immersion blender to smooth it all out.

Then, after it chilled in the fridge over night, he reheated it and served it to the kiddos.

It was spicy. Some kind of pepper had made its way into the mix. My boys didn’t want anything to do with the soup. My daughter, however, is up for anything.

She ate a bite. Then, she cried.

“Is it too hot?” Jeff asked. “Does your mouth hurt?”

She shook her head “no”. She continued to cry. Broken hearted crying.

“What’s wrong?” Jeff asked.

“I don’t want to eat it. But I don’t want to hurt your feelings,” she answered.

Oh. Her sweet little heart.

Hm. Sweet heart.

Maybe that’s what’s missing in so many interactions. A sweetness of the heart. Thinking of how our words might impact others. How we might hurt them.

Putting their feelings before our right to freedom of speech.

Considering our words as a way to serve others and build them up. Not claw them apart.

Now, I’m not saying that we should be lily livered and not speak truth. We need to do that. But, I think it’s a good investment to speak that truth in love.

Love puts the other person first. Love uses words that heal, not words that destroy.

Love doesn’t troll around, starting fights.

Love seeks peace.

Love doesn’t toss acid on the wounded. It doesn’t jab at the suffering.

Love seeks to comfort.

How can we let love inhabit our speech? Our interactions? How can we speak the truth in love, not in the desire to be right or to elevate ourselves?

 

Saggy Middle – Part 2

You might remember the first time I wrote about my saggy middle…

If not, you can catch that post (along with a really flattering prego picture of me) HERE.

Here’s Part 2…Doing Damage.

Two pregnancies have made a doughy mess of my midsection. Well, especially since the second pregnancy yielded a set of (adorable) twins.

Since my twins will celebrate their fifth birthday this June, I thought it was about time for me to start working on that tummy a little. And I mean REALLY tighten up the middle. I’m talking “feel the burn” type exercises. The kind that doubled me over in pain.

After a few weeks, I noticed that my stomach was getting BIGGER.

“The muscle develops, pushing the…ahem…fat further out. Eventually, the muscle will burn the…ahem…fat away.”

Thank you, oh wise internet.

So. I kept going. And my stomach kept getting bigger. I got more frustrated.

Then Pinterest revealed the issue.

Muscle separation. Common among moms. Especially moms of multiples.

And most abdominal toning exercises cause the muscles to spread even more. And that causes the tummy to pooch. Even. More.

All of my work made my saggy middle even saggier.

I’m sure you can imagine how frustrating that was. Learning that, while trying to do something good, I had been doing damage. And I’d even worked up a sweat doing those work outs. Ugh!

Has this kind of thing ever happened to you?

You’re trying to improve something. You do what, to you, seems the BEST thing to do. Then, sadly and with much frustration, you realize that you’ve been messing yourself up?

When you make your saggy middle saggier, it is SO EASY to give up. To decide that the effort just isn’t worth the outcome.

But this is precisely the time to keep going. To figure out what is needed to fix the problem. And to ask for help.

I need to talk to {gasp} a doctor to make sure I’m doing the very best thing for my body. To make sure I’m strengthening my core to benefit my health.

In my writing life, sometimes I need to ask the opinion of a friend/editor that I can trust to help me see the right and very best thing for my project.

How about you? Have you ever been in this situation? Who do you turn to for help?

 

Phonetics, Oreos, and Bacon…Ask Susie Fun

I’m having a little too much fun with the movie maker on my computer…

Ask Susie…