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April 11, 2013

Goethe

"Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans. The moment one definitely commits oneself, all sorts of things begin to happen that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the committed decision, raising in one's favor all manner of incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would come his way. " -- Goethe
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Published on April 11, 2013 22:16

April 8, 2013

Nice Quotes

a) The Tiny Seed knew that in order to Grow it needed to be dropped in Dirt, covered in Darkness, and struggle to reach the Light.
b) Let go or be dragged - Zen proverb
c) No one is Busy in this world. It's all about priorities.
d) Inner Peace Begins the Moment You choose Not to Allow Another Person or Event To control Your Emotions.
e) If It's still in your mind, it is worth taking the Risk..( Paulo Coelho)   (Source :- Internet)
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Published on April 08, 2013 03:29

April 3, 2013

Reaction/Response

Worth d read..


"At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of d cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but .. .it landed on another lady in d group. Now, it was the turn of d other lady in d group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, d cockroach next fell upon the waiter. D waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed d behavior of d cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of d restaurant. Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, d antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was d cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior? If so, then why was d waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos. It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies. I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me. More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life. Lessons learnt from the story: I understood, I should not react in life. I should always respond. The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded. Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of, just and right to save a situation from going out of hands, to avoid cracks in relationship, to avoid taking decisions in anger, anxiety, stress or hurry."
(source : Internet)
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Published on April 03, 2013 03:19

April 1, 2013

Meet the Minimalist

Source :- Lightness of being; Amardeep Banerjee
http://www.timescrest.com/society/lightness-of-being-10032

It was an accident that changed Rohan Narse's life. Narse was a high-profile investment banker who ran his own company in London, helping British and American clients invest in India. With an engineering degree from IIT-Banaras Hindu University and an MBA from IIMBangalore, he had worked with reputed companies such as Goldman Sachs, KPMG and Tata and came with a formidable CV. He was married with a son and daughter, loved splurging on suits and watches, drove a BMW and led what seemed like the perfect life. But the high-stress job was silently taking a toll on his health and relationships. "In investment banking, your clients are CEOs, CFOs and big investment managers. You have to be logical, methodical and precise. The transactions are of significant value, so you can't leave anything to chance. It's all a mental game, " says the 47-year-old.In June 2009, he was driving back home late one night when he fell asleep at the wheel of his car. "There was a big sound and I realised I had crashed into the concrete barrier of the M-25, London's high-speed Ring Road, " Narse says. "The air was cool and there was a smell of gunpowder from the nitrogen charge. Just after the accident, I felt a sense of extreme stillness. " That was the turning point. The accident sent Narse on an existential quest. "I realised that there was no time to postpone things. What if I had died that day? What if I had been paralysed ?" He had dabbled in meditation and spirituality earlier, but now took it up in earnest. He began travelling to various countries to interact with different spiritual gurus, meeting, among other people, a tantra teacher from Greece and a zen teacher from Okinawa in Japan. It was finally a spiritually inclined mathematics professor in Varanasi who pointed him in the right direction. "I was trying out different stuff in those days, like tantra and sungazing. He told me that if I carried on like this, I would either go blind or mad. " The professor explained that it was through mindfulness, or awareness of the present moment, that one could lead a meaningful life.Today, Narse has wound up his investment management venture and holds workshops on mindfulness for corporate organisations. In many ways, his story is typical of a self-made man who rose from the dumps, achieved great worldly success and then realised the futility of it all. Born in Belgaum, he grew up in a chawl in Mumbai's Chembur. He did not live in poverty - his father was an accountant with Burmah Shell and his mother a BEST employee - but it was far from a comfortable existence. "We lived in a 180 square-foot house with a room, a kitchen and a bathroom. There was a common balcony. It was exactly like what you see in the movies, " he says. He had a tough childhood. "My parents were very nice people but there was no chemistry between them. " He was sexually abused as a child by a maid, something he seems to have come to terms with. He has written about this in his book, In Search Of Silence, in which he talks about his life-changing experience. Under these circumstances, education seemed to be the only route to a better life. He studied hard, got admission into what is now IIT-BHU and graduated as a mechanical engineer. He worked for a few years with Hindustan Motors and a multinational engineering firm, Sandvik Asia, before enrolling for an MBA at IIM-Bangalore. He then worked for a Tata firm and KPMG. In 1999, he was sent to London by KPMG.In 2000, Narse joined Goldman Sachs as an investment banker. He worked hard, was paid extremely well, and went on three holidays a year with his family - in summer, winter and spring. He fancied suits and says he had 35-40 of them. He loved to buy costly watches and sent his children to expensive private schools. A director at the firm, he was deputed to New York for a year and the company flew him down to London every weekend so that he could be with his family. It looked good from the outside, but the work left him exhausted. "The company took care of its employees - there was a gym, a 24-hour canteen and a taxi service if one worked late into the night - but that also meant that the lives of workers were centred around the company. The job looked good to those who were not from the industry, but the truth was that a director at an investment banking firm was not an exceptional designation. There were about 2, 000 directors in the company. I was not a partner and had no chance of being one. But to an outsider, it looked very glamorous because investment bankers got fourfive times the salary that people at a similar level got in other sectors. "  He drank a lot, slept all through the weekends and fell ill quite often. A frustrated Narse left Goldman Sachs in 2005 to start his own investment management firm, Indian Ocean Ventures. "There was a lot of pressure here too, but of a different kind. There was no pressure of competition but immense pressure to perform and produce results. These were the normal pressures of an entrepreneur. But I liked the fact that I was independent and could take decisions on my own, " he says. Narse shut down his company in 2010, a year after the accident. He has since scaled down his lifestyle considerably. He earns anything between one-fourth to one-eighth of the amount of money he earned earlier, but says he leads a more fulfilling life. He now owns just two suits and two jackets, down from the earlier 35-40. He has a second-hand Mercedes car but says he prefers using public transport, his children go to public schools instead of posh private schools, and his diet has changed considerably. "I used to eat a lot of fast food earlier, but now I include a lot of fresh food in my diet, " he says.  A part of this downsizing was also his decision to give up cricket. Narse was a talented batsman who was part of the Mumbai Under-19 probables during his early years. When he began living in England, he became a part of the third division Surrey league, playing against well-known cricketers like Sairaj Bahutule, Nilesh Kulkarni and Tatenda Taibu. He was a left-handed, middle order batsmen who was promoted to the opening slot. "Being an opener was like being an investment banker, " Narse jokes. "You had to dominate or be dominated. You had to deal with the swinging ball. " Then, one day, he just gave up the game. "Cricket wasn't me, it was a story given to me by my father, " he says. How has the family taken to the new lifestyle? Narse says that his wife has always supported him. He says he hasn't compromised on the standard of living for the family: he lives in a gated community which ensures that his family is secure. Of course, his children don't go to expensive schools anymore but perhaps that is made for by the fact that he now spends quality time with them. As for him, the downshift hasn't been difficult. "I was clear about why I was doing this, " he says. "I was earlier leading an empty, meaningless, unidirectional life but I now lead a more authentic life. The conversations I have with people are honest, a handshake is a genuine handshake. I think I have made more friends in the past three years than in the previous 30. "  Q1. What was the easiest thing to scale back on when you downsized? The frequency of holidays. It really did not matter because life felt good regardless
Q2.What was the toughest/what did you miss the most? Nothing really. Sometimes I miss the wider interaction that I used to have with professionals across the globe and the cultural experiences that followed. That was a beautiful immersion
Q3.What kept you from slipping back into the old lifestyle? I was happy and healthy 24/7. That was enough of a feeling to remain true to what I loved


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Published on April 01, 2013 04:14

March 29, 2013

A ship is safe in harbour, but that is not what a ship wa...

A ship is safe in harbour, but that is not what a ship was built for. Begin with yourself. There is no time to waste. It is your duty to do your part. The Kingdom of God cometh not with observation; neither shall they say, Lo here or, lo there! For behold, the Kingdom of God is within you.

(Source: Mindchow & Bible)
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Published on March 29, 2013 22:06

March 27, 2013

That man is disciplined and happy who can prevail over th...

That man is disciplined and happy who can prevail over the turmoil that springs from desire and anger. Before you desire to control the universe, you must first be able to completely control yourself. 
( Sun Myung Moon)
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Published on March 27, 2013 20:16

March 25, 2013

Very Nice Article

You are more Important than every THING that has come into your life.

The husband gifted a new car to his wife for her birthday. He first handed over the keys, then a pouch with all necessary documnets, including her driving license, and followed it up with a long hug. He then offered to take care of the children and asked her to go on a long drive. She thanked him with a kiss and she was gone with her auto-baby. Hardly a kilometre into the drive, she hit a median. She was safe, but the car was dented. She was consumed with guilt, " What will I tell him? How will he take it?" Thoughts and feelings ran amok. The police were quick to arrive at the accident scene.

"Can we see your license?" they demanded. Her hands still shivering, she reached for the pouch that her husband had given her. With tears rolling down her cheeks, as she picked the license from the pouch she noticed a 'post it' on it with her husband's handwriting, "Honey, in case of an accident, please remember, it is you that I love and not the car. Loving you."
Blessed are those who have understood that they be loving people and using things, and not loving things and using people.
A scratch on the car makes our blood pressure go up......but we don't seem to mind a scratch in our heart. I know of a man who broke an artefact by intentionally throwing it on the floor and then remarked, "For eighteen years it has been giving me tension- if it breaks , if it falls down.....I thought it was time to show who the boss is and gain some peace of mind."
I know of another person who gave a party because his Mercedez Benz was rammed and jammed in an accident. He explained, " Though the car is completely damaged, nothing happened to me, who was inside the car. Now that I am okay I can buy another car, but if the automobile was intact and I was gone- it wouldn't have made much sense."
Our life began with the 60-rupee toy car. When it broke, we cried. Then we upgraded oursleves to the 2000- rupee remote controlled car. When that got damaged, we wept. Then we were gifted the 20,000 rupee battery-operated car. When that stopped working, we were depressed. Then came the 4-lakh car, after that the 22-lakh SUV, followed by the 86-lakh luxury sedan....And , every time something happened to this machine, whether a scratch or a dent, the mercury of our tensions and worries went up. All in all, it seems our toys have grown, but we haven't.
A toy is just a toy. Buy toys. Buy more and more toys. But give them their rightful place. They are just there to be useful to you, to make your life comfortable and to entertain you. Don't ever waste another drop of your precious tears for a toy, no matter how dear the toy may be. After all, you are the dearest of them all.

(Source- Extracts from Unposted Letter)
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Published on March 25, 2013 20:21

March 18, 2013

Today is an eternal gift. Not everyone who went to sleep ...

Today is an eternal gift. Not everyone who went to sleep last night woke up this morning. The very fact you did, some force above still thinks you are worthy of another "Today". Recognise the heart of the divine behind this 24-hour material. Know, "Today" is a providential gift. Realise, abusing the gift is abusing the giver. Wasting a day of your life will amount to abusing the giver of this gift.
Today you will trade one day of your life for what you will get in return. So, make your today as productive as you can.
Buddha said, " Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, atleast we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, atleast we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so let us all be thankful."
(Source:- TTR, The Vocie Ra)
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Published on March 18, 2013 20:13

March 12, 2013

A young man asked Socrates the secret of success. Socrate...

A young man asked Socrates the secret of success. Socrates told the young man to meet him near the river the next morning. They met.
Socrates asked the young man to walk with him towards the river. When the water got up to their neck, Socrates took the young man by surprise and ducked him into the water. The man struggled to get out but Socrates was strong and kept him there unltil he started turning blue.
The young man struggled hard and finally managed to get out and the first thing he did was to gasp and take a deep breath. Socrates asked “What you wanted the most when you were there?” The man replied “air”.

Socrates said “that’s the most secret to success. When you want success as badly as you wanted air, you will get it. There is no other secret.”
A burning desire is the starting point of all accomplishment. Just like a small fire cannot give much heat, a weak desire cannot produce great result.

(source:- thatbone.com)
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Published on March 12, 2013 23:15

March 6, 2013

A giant ship engine failedThe ship's owners tried one exp...

A giant ship engine failed
The ship's owners tried one expert after another
but none of them could figure but how to fix the engine
Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a young
He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom.
Two of the ship's owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do.

After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something.
Instantly, the engine lurched into life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed!
A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for 10,000 Dollars.

"What?! the owners exclaimed. He hardly did anything!"

So they wrote the old man a note saying, "Please send us an itemized bill!
The man sent a bill that read :

Tapping with a hammer- $2.00

Knowing where to tap- $9,9998.00

"Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort makes all the difference!

(Unknown)
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Published on March 06, 2013 01:48